7 Steps on How you can STOP 80 of your craving in 4 easy weeks.
A craving is simply a pattern that persists over a phase of time and no amount of willpower can stop you diving into that particular food and consuming it at those particular times.
Self-sabotage has us ruining everything we worked hard for and the very idea of not having it or restriction can be enough to have us throw away all our hard efforts, But there is something else at play here too. So dive in and let’s find out.
I intend to guide you through a process that will identify your craving so that you can start to break that pattern in a very short space of time.
You most likely already know the craving you have so let’s get started and find the deeper meaning for you today.
What do you crave? Is it Salt, Fat or Sugar – Identify it name it
Notice when the craving happens i.e. evening, alone time, in the car, or in the train, bored, frantic, after confrontation, experiencing a particular feeling or emotion? Find it
Next time you are faced with that particular craving, STOP and push it away for a minute. Its Ok you can still have it after you have asked yourself this one question.
What would be more fulfilling than this right now?
Listen to your words as you are about to dive in and consume your craving, What do you say to yourself?
What valid reasons do you give yourself and have for consuming this right now?
How does your Body feel before and after you have consumed your craving?
Do this practice every time you get your craving and become really clear what the craving is telling you. There is a deeper meaning behind your craving, most certainly one that will surprise you.
Once you have identified your reasons and the deeper meaning for the craving, you are well on you’re way to ending it once and for all.
Discover what you are missing and what the craving is teaching and calling for…..
What would be more fulfilling than this right now?
How can you have more of that?
I hope you found this informative and you begin to get an idea what your craving means for you. It can take several attempts to stop before you indulge so be gentle with yourself, It is so worth doing.
Do you need help to identify the root cause of your craving and the deeper meaning?
Is it something you have tried but can’t get close to for it to end?
I have several short videos on the TOP 3 cravings that are available for you. My only wish that you can identify and stop that craving, so when you have done this exercise let me know your findings and I will send over the one that had the most impact and the most Ah Ha moments from the watchers.
My Cravings just stopped without having to use willpower.
“Please help me if you can, I am out of control. I have tried everything and I can’t stop eating, My body is betraying me. I go on diets after diet but cant stick to it.
I really want to drop 2 dress sizes in 2 months and know what’s going on with me and what I am doing wrong?
Something has me craving and not being able to stop…. I feel broken and no matter what I try I can’t seem to do this on my own. Help me please.”
A beautiful woman came to see me for a session recently and asked to continue for a few months. She started her sessions back in August 2018 and she had come because she was tired of trying everything else and nothing working. She was going to be the mother of the bride, her daughter’s wedding was in 6 weeks time and she just felt too uncomfortable in her own skin. Which is the case with most women who find their way to me.
Her big problem was that she felt out of control, as if her body was punishing her and that she would never find her way back to a body she loved and felt proud of. Naturally, she wanted to shine and look not only ‘priceless’ but feel ‘priceless’
She told me over the weeks about her eating patterns, food cravings, and choices and what she had tried and was putting it all down to food and feeling she needed to starve herself constantly. She used her cravings for certain foods when she was upset, criticized but never knew it or how to stop it, which is the nature of the thing we went on to heal. And why nothing else she had tried had worked.
After a few weeks of real nourishment, getting the fuel her body needed from food and other sources and seeing her patterns and releasing the need to feel so hurt, she had dropped a significant amount of weight to show her that this would work. She committed to her self on another level.
She exclaimed that her body felt like it loved her and she loved being I her body, and it was releasing the weight because of the joy it felt of having her listen to her body and not repeat the madness she had been circling and trapped in.
I am talking about this because there is always a way to solve problems, to heal, and just because nothing works, it does not mean that nothing ever will work.
There is a way of communicating with a person’s mind, body and spirit all at the same time. This way has been practiced throughout all time and in all cultures.
This communication is as old as the hills and when we are truly heard and acknowledged the body can go onto release the physical symptoms from weight to sciatica that we have held onto.
After much time and many consultations I see and feel and have the conclusion that being heard in this way allows us to heal, and the feeling of love that flows through the body is so profound. It is that feeling of Love that heals and solves the problems that cause these symptoms.
I listen and I am guided whenever I am asked to talk to people and their bodies, I hear what to say to open up a discussion that goes onto open up the healing. This is the bodies soul to soul connection with me and it feels like love, I hear what your body is asking for you to know.
When someone comes and asks for help, many avenues are open and this is the way it works. Finding love for yourself in this way is a different and the best form of love of all, and quite different from a romantic love or for your babies and children or with a best friend
This call from your soul to be loved shows up when we are finished, tired and about to give up, when we are wounded, hurting, sad, angry and finally had enough and have been repeating the same old madness over and over again.
When this call for healing shows up, it’s like pouring golden honey type of Love into the wound, It fills us up until we are so full and deeply satisfied, we need so little of anything else, food is less of a priority, the blame and anger dwindle away. It seeps into every cell, your mind is washed clean and emotions are neutralized. That is why this is so magical and my favourite kind of Love. It washes over me as it washes over the person receiving, and it vibrates itself out into the world through us both.
When you are called to experience what this beautiful lady experienced and watch as the body released what no longer serves you, let me know in a reply saying Clearing Cravings Session
Turn around your cravings 180°
I don’t use time as a marker to know when we are done, we take all the time we need.
Hello and welcome I am thrilled you are tuning in.
This is the right place to be to discover that your body is not fixed, final or punishing you.
Let’s’ get you settled and feeling first of all SAFE in your body so that you trust her and she trusts you – then get you to have the greatest experience you can imagine physically that you have craved for decades.
So What’s Next? I received a call recently and the woman Melanie, said to me –
“Fiona I can’t do this it is too hard!
What if I change so much and I lose all those around me the people I love.
What if I became that girl in the RED SHOES and I go wild, thoroughly enjoying life and all she offers… I know I have that in me and I’ll wreck everything that I’ve worked so hard for.”
“After our Call” – she continued – “I see it all… wanting to lose weight is showing me – OMG how can I say this and not seem bad – how bored I am. I am frustrated. I really do want more……”
Why do so many women settle for less than they deserve ? – when the door opens and they see and feel what’s possible next – then they promptly shut it again.
You heart and soul are so bored, neglected and crave all the juice of life to fill you up on every level. You see the reasons you overeat and use shopping or work or sport to fill you up and ignore your spirited self calling you.
Yet the longer you ignore the real craving for all that juicy life the longer you will fill in that empty gap with what ever you fill it in with. Here we talk about food. But there are other gap fillers like shopping, over working, over sport.
As soon as you start to admit you would love to have some fun, be more frivolous, be feisty and be fired up in your life then sooner you will feel fulfilled – and the cravings will neutralize themselves, the endless spending and food binges will stop and these cravings will have shown themselves for what they truly are calling you for and towards.
This lady started a fresh and committed to herself by breaking through her blocks and stops, she dropped 2 stone that’s 3 dress sizes and is now having a very juicy life.
If your willpower is weak, and your self-sabotage is stronger than ever, you will no doubt be asking yourself what is going wrong?
If you have found that you have broken every promise you made to yourself and can’t keep on track then be sure that You are being triggered.
Find your trigger and neutralize it?
Triggers come in all shapes and sizes. Its well worth neutralizing that trigger and moving on with your life.
When you are ready to experience what Melanie did – to lose the need to fill up on overeating, give into cravings and get back in control of you this one technique for 7 days, 7 Hours and start now with 7 minutes.
Ask yourself if you are BORED like Melanie – frustrated – Angry – sad, hurt – resentful – lonely?
Feel how boredom feels in your body Don’t push it away; Invite it in fully. Pay attention to it fully – why is it there what does it make you feel.
What do you want instead? Dedicate 7 minutes to be honest about what you want.
For example do you want Fun, Excitement, adventure, be spontaneous romance, have really great love and sex and not hold back or is it all so much to ask for?
Do you resist it and stay bored for the next 20 – 30 years – and all that that means – or do you take steps to amend and become who you most wanted to be in this lifetime.
When you are ready reply with ‘Start a Fresh’ and Ill see to it that we give you an experience of what is possible for you next.
I’ll give you preferential treatment to go to the top of my list and break free of what’s creating you on that energetic level.
It is my souls purpose to break free women from their self limiting beliefs and the physical consequences of these.
See you on the other side ladies;
Fiona Robertson
Body Whisperer
Creating women consciously and on purpose one step at a time.
P.S When you’re ready there are 4 ways I can help you with the very next step to becoming the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life.
Help yourself to a copy of my FREE Create yourself on purpose E book
Join the Women Winning the World, with Weight, Wealth and Wonder community and connect with women who are creating them selves on purpose and be one of the smart women who get more tips and techniques and have already started to make a real impact on who they want to reinvent themselves as in the next phase of their lives. Click here https://www.facebook.com/groups/FionaRobertson/
3. Grab a FREE 45 min consultation and breakthrough Body Scan call with me and discover your current
a) blocks and stops that are in place,
b) what your body is doing, and
c) the very next step you can take to feel confident, excited and believe you can create your own physical body as you want her to be.
Just reply to this message and say ‘Body Scan’ and I will send you details how we can connect.
4. Work with me. If you are wanting to create yourself into the woman you most want to be in the next phase of your life physically, mentally and in high spirits, just reply to this message with PRIVATE in the subject line and tell me a little about your story and your physical experience, and I will get you all the details you need to make that process happen to see you become the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life in just a few months.
5 Ways that Being ‘Selfish’ got all of us the Body we craved.
I am very happy to share this story of how Sandy becoming ‘Selfish’ made her dreams come true.
You see Sandy was listening and following her health guru’s and doing whatever they said, changing altering her food and nutrition and it all made perfect sense. She saw others get further forward and hit targets but never her.
“What am I doing wrong?”
She had a dream that she wanted to meet a guy and have a family and live happily ever after. But to enable her to meet a guy and have that family she wanted to be comfortable in her own skin.
But try as she might the weight did not shift, She had a job and life that was normal relatively stable, but there wqs something missing.
Hi I am Fiona Robertson, and I am a Body Whisperer and I help women reinvent themselves as the most Highly Spirited Women she can imagine being and bring her back to life.. Back to her reality – as naughty, Fun, up to high jinks, breaking all those good and boring habits of being good, mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, aunties and best friends.
This High Spirited journey not only creates incredibly happy women like she is on the best happy pills ever, but completely turns around the physical body 180° so that you can have huge positive physical consequences.
To create yourself on a physical, cellular, molecular, metabolic level you only need to take care of 1 thing.
Fiona Robertson Creating women on purpose with massive positive physical consequences.
Sandy contacted me (best decision she ever made) to discover how what I did was different and why ladies were losing weight consistently, dropping dress sizes and getting their lives in order – but with as much effort she was putting in on what others told her would work, nothing, zip, nada changed for her.
She made a wise decision to work with me for 6 months and invest in herself as she committed to herself. On that day she was already changing at a very deep level.
She had put herself first.
Understanding her desires – was seeing her driving force, but she wanted more I could feel it.
We dug down and around with simple enough questions we started to find her vital missing nutrients – not food related but life related.
She was bored – with her job but it paid the basic bills, she disliked where she lived but it gave her independence and although she was alone a lot she was OK as she liked her own company. She talked and yearned to travel again, the places, people and new adventures, the freedom of traveling was a bit of a distant dream of hers.
Spending a year out after her studies had left her in debt, as well as her education debt so she needed to work now to pay those off. She was stuck between a rock and a hard place with no hope of traveling again and had the feeling she was being suffocated. I could feel that in her body – she could hardly breathe, she hardly moved, her routine and obligations to others drained her. Constant family obligations and caring for her parents and babysitting at a moment notice
Her dreams seemed to be a very selfish need and not at all practical or achievable, but she was dying and I could feel that this was a big part of the weight not shifting. I helped her understand that feeling so that she was aware of it too and what the consequences were on her body of that energy surging through her.
We took steady steps to counteract that.
She started to adopt the 5 ways that helped her take back control and watched as her body said: “thank you”.
Firstly, she admitted that she longed to go off traveling again and felt that relief of giving herself permission that she could if she wanted to.
Secondly, we had her plan create and design a perfect travel experience to dive into it fully
Next, I asked her to be very aware of how that felt in the body when she talked about traveling and the freedom she desired; We would go into that energy a lot every time we met up.
Fourthly, we discovered other areas that gave her a similar feeling in her body, putting herself first was new to her, One thing was the thought of moving house and not renting any more which was a big but exciting decision.
Fifthly, she daringly started looking for other jobs and imagining working in other places, maybe for herself becoming a home worker. And designing more around how that would feel.
Sandy moved house in a few months and changed her job, she has put her needs before those of others and as a result she lost 4 stone in the 4 months that we worked together and is still maintaining that body she craved, she has found that she loves life again and with that her body morphed and trusted here to fulfill her own needs;
I heard her laugh, heard her stories of adventures she been on and she dropped more dress sizes and has started dating.
I watched as Sandy became the woman she wanted to be in the next phase of her life.
If you are ready to get what Sandy experienced and discover what your version of a Highly Spirited woman will be in the next phase of your life reply with SELFISH and I will make space for you in my diary
Do you remember a time when you were Highly Spirited? – She wants you to find her and then go and get her.
So much Love
I hope I have inspired you that you are not fixed or final nor is your body punishing you.
P.S When you’re ready there are 4 ways I can help you with the very next step to becoming the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life.
Help yourself to a copy of my FREE Create yourself on purpose E book
Join the Women Winning the World, with Weight, Wealth and Wonder community and connect with women who are creating them selves on purpose and be one of the smart women who get more tips and techniques and have already started to make a real impact on who they want to reinvent themselves as in the next phase of their lives. Click here https://www.facebook.com/groups/FionaRobertson/
Grab a FREE 45 min consultation and breakthrough Body Scan call with me and discover your current
a) blocks and stops that are in place,
b) what your body is doing, and
c) the very next step you can take to feel confident, excited and believe you can create your own physical body as you want her to be.
Just reply to this message and say ‘Body Scan’ and I will send you details how we can connect.
Work with me. If you are wanting to create yourself into the woman you most want to be in the next phase of your life physically, mentally and in high spirits, just reply to this message with PRIVATE in the subject line and tell me a little about your story and your physical experience, and I will get you all the details you need to make that process happen to see you become the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life in just a few months.
There is so much more available for you to experience in the body you crave. Take a dive in and see all the routes to get there.
Confessions of a Body Whisperer – how to become a deeply satisfied person.
The sun was shining, I was sitting outside on my new decking on Saturday morning and soaking up the morning sun, writing a bit and setting up my day ahead. When it struck me – yet again – I don’t need anything else other than this. I am filling up on “I am satisfied and fulfilled”. BOOM
I was feeling it again, I love my house, I love my boys I love, love, love myself and I appreciate my man, I appreciate my business, I love the garden I have planted, I am a very satisfied woman. I am extremely satisfied as a person!
Note to self ‘this is how you turn around physical symptoms that have pested you for literally decades’.
THAT FEELING
That feeling that was so rare before – but now I know where to go find it for myself.
Later on Saturday, I had a call with a lovely woman who said I don’t know where to start, I’m finding it difficult to start and get going on your Phenomenal Inner Strength program. We are 3 weeks in and I so want to feel in control again, strong and I know only I can make me feel strong – but I am stuck can’t put pen to paper because I don’t know what I want, You know If I did know I’d be doing it – right?
Fiona: “How do you make me do that?”
Within 30 minutes we’d turned her energy around 180°, from feeling in despair and sad and useless to feeling so ALIVE in her body that she could feel exactly what she wanted to feel the most, She was grinning like a Cheshire Cat, throwing her head back and Laughing and she remembered who she was and was 100% ready to go and get her.
She had found the missing nutrient that would replace the happy pills she had been put on, and the extra food she’d endlessly tried using to fulfill herself with.
She had awakened her spirit again and was reconnected to her Higher Self who was showing up and telling her what would be the best for her, and what to go after, what she wanted, what she needed and was lacking the most – this did not come from her mind, in the way of – I feel good after shopping, spending lots on clothes and trinkets or having success in business, and working really hard or how she would feel in a slimmer body …..NO it came from the feelings her spirit and higher self showed her in just 30 minutes. She had reconnected with herself her true desires with her higher self and she felt amazing.
This is the feeling that brings about the added bonus of positive physical consequences, that releases all those aches and pains and symptoms, that see your body release persistent physical symptoms that have plagued you for years and even decades.
That is how I made her do that!
That is how she will stay on track because that feeling she understood in 30 minutes was the best feeling she could ever have, that would keep her spirit alive and not have her slip back to sleep and accept whatever crap or crumbs other people threw at her.
That feeling that raised her spirits was a personal message just for her from her Higher Self and now that she has that, she will never slip back to sleep or forget who she is and who she came here to be.
Becoming a High Spirited woman sees you reconnected to your Higher Self and 3 major benefits of that re connection are that :
You go after what your spirited woman wants and respect and appreciate yourself,
You Know what you want and you never accept crumbs and lousy behavior ever again you put yourself 1st 2nd and 3rd.
You build Phenomenal Inner Strength from knowing your Higher Self and finding out how much she has always loved and been there for you if you could have only heard her.
My confessions is that it comes so naturally to me now and that I can turn anyone’s energy around 180° in just 30 minutes and seek out the feeling your Higher Self wants for you to feel so ALIVE in your body you will never go back to sleep, ignore or send her a torrent of dissatisfied words
Reconnecting long term and Locking in and living from that feeling that your Higher Self so wants you to experience is an energy that takes practice and I have so many methods to help you stay there.
That is why I created the Phenomenal Inner Strength program. Turning around your physical body for the better and living the life you could only dare to dream of.
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So Much Love
What physical experience do you most want to experience?
A great deep love so you can feel that level of LOVE
Start a family so that you can feel the bliss of family life
Move countries to live and feel you have a more outdoor life
Slim down to feel incredibly alive as you ride fast on horse back, motor bikes and jet ski’s
Clear up the aches and pains to feel freedom
Run a successful business so that you can travel and feel, see and smell each country you travel to.
P.S When you’re ready there are 4 ways I can help you with the very next step to becoming the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life.
Help yourself to a copy of my FREE Create yourself on purpose E book
Join the Women Winning the World, with Weight, Wealth and Wonder community and connect with women who are creating them selves on purpose and be one of the smart women who get more tips and techniques and have already started to make a real impact on who they want to reinvent themselves as in the next phase of their lives. Click here https://www.facebook.com/groups/FionaRobertson/
Grab a FREE 45 min consultation and breakthrough Body Scan call with me and discover your current
a) blocks and stops that are in place,
b) what your body is doing, and
c) the very next step you can take to feel confident, excited and believe you can create your own physical body as you want her to be.
Just reply to this message and say ‘Deeply Satisfied’ and I will send you details how we can connect.
Work with me. If you are wanting to create yourself into the woman you most want to be in the next phase of your life physically, mentally and in high spirits, just reply to this message with PRIVATE in the subject line and tell me a little about your story and your physical experience, and I will get you all the details you need to make that process happen to see you become the woman you most want to be in the
This is ridiculous I have had to go shopping 5 times in the last year because everything is just too BIG.
This is costing me a fortune, but I feel a Million Dollars and I am so worth it.
3 SURE-Fire ways to create yourself on purpose in the next phase of your life.
Hi, I’m Fiona Robertson a real live Body Whisperer and every week sharing how you can create yourself on purpose. Taking Inner strength to new levels and watching change happen quickly and easily.
So What’s next for you?
I am thrilled that you’re here and watching this live or in the recording, Its my pleasure to share with you that you are not fixed, final nor is your body punishing you?
So what’s going on if you have symptoms and physical consequences that you have tried endless ways to resolve and even doctors and nutritionalists cannot solve for you.
So let’s get to grips with this and YOU and find out what steps we can take to reinvent ourselves and see huge physical consequences when we do some small but perfect steps on purpose.
So I see women change and alter their bodies every week by changing their perspective and building up phenomenal inner strength, These new rock solid foundations do not come from force, over working or rushing around.
This is the most beautiful reinvention of a woman who becomes rock steady, who is so damn sure of herself that no amount of criticism, judgment, rejection bad behavior can knock her off her pure happy place
You know that feeling when you feel so damn great and sure of yourself and what you’ree doing, that nothing nobody and no silly drama or situation can rock you. Really like water off a ducks back. Woosh. That’s inner strength.
I meet women every week who are wobbling, they are stressed out, over thinking, unfulfilled, and unsure of what they are doing, or why or what they can do or what is possible for them. I support them until they see massive physical consequences that they have had dreams about for decades.
There are about 12 steps all in all to get a woman into her priceless feeling, that’s when she is ROCK steady, feels SAFE, and bullet proof and untouched by her surroundings. Today I am sharing 3 of those steps.
Why do I do this? because I was so surprised that more people couldn’t put the puzzles together when I saw and felt the needs, wants and lack coming from them.. I understood and I lock into place the very pieces so that they never need to overeat, snack, give into cravings, or get frustrated with the physical symptoms that would not shift.
If you don’t do this right and you only look at the food aspect you miss the whole gift of the symptom.. for example I have women who just t-do the food portion with me and never did the practices I suggested in the ways I suggested and well no surprise they go back to the self sabotage and can’t move past the problem;
When it goes right I see ladies drop the need to snack, overeat and put too much on their plate and lose the weight forever, throw away this bigger cover up clothes and go on to become who they came here to be.
So step 1 do your practice, Find your stress points and get used to feeling into what , who and when you are picking up on what triggers you. Know how it feels and be OK with it, We are meant to operate on a full range of feelings; that is what feeling alive means, and that’s is why we are here on this planet to experience and be OK and know we are safe feeling alive.
Step 2, Become fluent in your feelings, so many of us didn’t have a clue what we were feeling so how could we name it let alone not let us affect us ever again. Once we know it we are half way there.
When you walk into a room and feel the atmosphere
When you get triggered and know its someone playing the victim
When you feel so god damn happy you could burst.
Step 3 Be consistent and put yourself and how you feel first second and third. That’s a contract between you and you , your body your spirit and your mind. Learning to love all of you and turning up for yourself rather than running away and doing everything for others;
That’s part of the practice that has seen women turn 50lbs off into 100 and never go back. They are so fulfilled they no longer need to fill in the gaps and have them reaching for food, drink, cigarettes, anti depressants, over work or over sport to avoid hearing what their spirit and soul needs them to take care of so the whole of you can feel so sure of yourself that you never rock or wobble.
So much Love
x
P.S When you’re ready there are 4 ways I can help you with the very next step to becoming the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life.
Help yourself to a copy of my FREE Create yourself on purpose Ebook
Join the Women Winning the World, with Weight, Wealth and Wonder community and connect with women who are creating them selves on purpose and be one of the smart women who get more tips and techniques and have already started to make a real impact on who they want to reinvent themselves as in the next phase of their lives. Click here https://www.facebook.com/groups/FionaRobertson/
Grab a FREE 45 min consultation and breakthrough Body Scan call with me and discover your current
a) blocks and stops that are in place,
b) what your body is doing, and
c) the very next step you can take to feel confident, excited and believe you can create your own physical body as you want her to be.
Just reply to this message and say ‘Body Scan’ and I will send you details how we can connect.
Work with me. If you are wanting to create yourself into the woman you most want to be in the next phase of your life physically, mentally and in high spirits, just reply to this message with PRIVATE in the subject line and tell me a little about your story and your physical experience, and I will get you all the details you need to make that process happen to see you become the woman you most want to be in the next phase of her life in just a few months.
This has been a question that has made me very curious for a long time. I’ve known for a long time that it is well recognized that it happens, that food has a way to numb our feelings and that we use food for so many emotional and comfort reasons, but what intrigued me was, how can I adapt and live with my emotional and eating patterns, when I know what to do but help me I sometimes cannot control my cravings. They do not go away entirely, and as I clean up my diet they continue to show up and help me to be aware of my reactions and responses to situations and how I see myself. So I have to say a big fat Thank You to the fact that my need for comfort eating was in fact asking me to listen and see what I was and am actually doing.
A detox opens you up to yourself to be more aware of yourself.
A detox be that a juice fast, a colon cleanse, a raw food diet has cleaned you up raised your vibration and has taken away the heavy lower vibration foods that slow us down and slow down our mind. Food is used to numb our senses and detach us from our heart and what the body is desperate to let us hear and feel.
A detox including a short fast is the best way that I know of to get you to into a safe place where we willingly start to listen. When we stop digesting food we have the down time to re evaluate, re charge and reset all of our systems. It is one of the best ways I know to really take care of myself. And I have seen it over the past 7 years watching wildly different people get clarity and understand themselves better.
So when I was able to learn more about this I jumped at the chance to further my own investigations and to be of better service to you and have some more fun around food. I hear the same or very similar stories, time and time again. Questions and curiosities about food being your drug of choice, and how can we learn to live with it and overcome the overeating cravings. It’s all so, so serious out there, that I am happy to play with this subject for as long as it takes. I will experiment and continue to coach and run workshops around this subject and help you to get clarity for yourself about what food is calling you to really see and feel.
So to all us over eaters, binge eaters, controlled eaters and all the rest of the comfort eater types, I want you to know that I will be slowly leading you down a path of self discovery.
It is way bigger than the food we eat and how we eat and even bigger than the when and why we eat. It’s a huge subject that has got my attention and my passion rising.
Everyone has to eat, and so we cant avoid food all together. Even if we have found raw food and juices and are really healthy most of us still use food in some way and as a way to sedate ourselves, and that’s OK if we are first aware of why and what we are doing. This is just Step One.
Deeper would be to see that food and our relationship with food is a mirror of how we react in just about every relationship we have.
Its not enough to know where the patterns originated, but to go further still would be to re connect with your body so that it can personally tell you, and so that you can hear and feel when you are stressed and would normally use food as your only tool to de stress and comfort the situation.
But first wouldn’t it be great fun to suspend all of our beliefs around food, what’s good, bad, healthy, what he or she thinks are the best superfoods ever or the best diet for everyone. We are all different and we were all educated, and brought up differently, how to be with and around food, our understanding of etiquette and manners, and as we are all different we want to be fulfilled quite differently as well.
No one diet fits all.
So then we have to take responsibility for ourselves, our health, our own likes and dislikes, listen to what our bodies tell us when we eat something, or in a situation that is difficult or extreme. So experimentation and discovering is what’s called for, to go on an adventure with the food and the mood you eat in.
In daily life it’s common that we don’t ask ourselves how we feel at every turn, how did that affect me, how did that situation make me feel, so when we get a chance for the quiet time we begin to feel. For most of us that would be in the evening, when we are alone, for me when the children have gone to bed. We are alone at last and the body and heart are so happy to get our full attention, the information about the day begins to literally flood in. There is no volume control or speed control its just a huge Woosh, and its actually very difficult to take it all in, overwhelming is a good way to describe it. So to slow down this stored reservoir of information and feelings we choose an addiction. One of the safest is food, others are drink, gambling, shopping, any form of distraction that gets you to relax and not feel the situation. Workaholics are often not aware that this too is part of their addiction pattern.
The body wants to be heard and if we don’t take time to hear it then it will make us stop and listen, accidents happen, illnesses, viruses, burnouts and situations out of our control will manifest Into our lives.
I had a telephone client recently who was using food as her nourishment and comfort but she did not know why. She wanted help to shop her habit of emptying the fridge and a wine bottle once she returned home, as the consequences were that she had gained weight and wanted to lose it and she was exhausted all the time.
The discomfort for her had reached a pinnacle point and she knew she needed help. We resolved that when she was able to feel into her body and she recognized that she needed stronger boundaries. All day long she would help out and take on more work that was her job, and she was giving away her power.
We worked on her expressing herself better with some fun exercises that we did together and we worked on expressing her anger and frustration. She can now vent her anger in a really healthy way when her boundaries have been crossed, and when she communicates she can do so from a safe place and now she feels heard and respected and especially that she is able to articulate what she wants to say.
She explains that “I can now stand up for myself and I am so proud of the way I can tell someone what I want and need. I have never felt that I can feel into my body when it’s hurt or angry, I have learned how to relax and I know what I can do. I am still learning but I feel so happy with my experiment so far. My eating is much, much better as have realistic boundaries that I have chosen to respect, Oh and I am looking for a new job.”
A detox will open you up to be more aware and conscious of yourself. You have given your body a great and long-awaited opportunity to tell you and speak to you about what S/he needs. We need only to learn how to listen.
