Will power simply does not work for me any more.
Do you ever have the feeling that its just too hard, or you cant get the feeling and the energy you had to begin with. Eating in a certain way like staying on a raw food diet can be very rewarding, and it can also cause us to look deeper at what is unconsciously sabotaging our hardest and best efforts to remain eating healthy and adding in more raw food.
I have been there and I totally understand. I remember saying to myself “ why can she do it so easily and not me?”
I so wanted to be happy for everyone who said they found it easy, to stick to a raw food diet and get all the benefits. I said I was happy for them. But deep down, my heart was sinking. I thought: “How come she can do it and I can’t? What’s wrong with me?”
As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I just had to learn a few more things to make that leap and experience to stay on a healthy diet and ditch the crisps ( that was my vice )
And I had to make few sacrifices.
Let’s be honest. Feeling great about yourself and keeping to the plan comes at a cost. I had to acknowledge the grieving process ( sorry crisps _ I’m dumping you, were over ) and establish some new more joyful ground rules for myself. As will power simply was not working for me any more.
Here is what I had to sacrifice to go from feeling “That will do” to being able to value myself and what I deserved really, to get to feeling fabulous about myself, I have everything I deserved, quality over quantity and believe that more was available too, I had the energy I desired, I was clear about who I was and what I wanted and be, and I was proud of how I did it every day and beyond. (And if breakthrough is something you desire, you will need to make some sacrifices too).
I had a client recently who was on a similar journey that demonstrates this perfectly. Each and every one of us is different, made up from all sorts of different life experiences that are all unique to us. So every route is different, no two people are the same, so every call I do would reflect what ever you are experiencing. This is an example of a call that demonstrates my style of coaching to help you to get clear fro your self your desires and what is unconsciously stopping you.
Transcript of a recent coaching call.
This lovely lady had contacted me as she was concerned that she had chosen to take her better diet seriously and eating more raw food. She had succeeded for over 6 years adding in more raw food and green juices and smoothies, and yet still fell off her path and was craving and drawn to drinking wine and eating chocolate, and afterwards she really hated what she had done and was cross with herself.
She was wanting to find a way to help her to maintain her high raw world eating plan and not be drawn to such foods and drinks. I hear this rather a lot and thee the discovery path that it takes up off on. Although for some of us one or two glasses of wine a week in a social setting would not seem a problem, for this lady it really was and she was cross with herself, so it was my task to find out why and see what was the reason for the indulgences and what we could do about it and perceive the action in a different way. Here is a basic transcript from our session.
I started to ask her some questions to discover more.
Me: What is driving you to eat more raw food?
CC: My idea is that I will feel better if I eat more raw, I have 1 or 2 green juices a day and eat plenty of vegetables and only occasionally eat fish. (only in social settings when the host is adamant they made it for me) I have done a period of 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw food and I felt great.
Me: Thank you. Any thing else,
CC: Yes 2 years ago I suffered from a bout of serious constipation and ended up with an anal fissure and was in hospital for a while. To cut a long story short I now have to take laxatives every day. I really don’t like taking these laxatives.
I believe raw food will help my condition and help me to stay regular.
Me: Thank you, What is your main fear?
CC: I want to be mobile and flexible, I do yoga and it helps me get stronger and stay mobile. I like to be independent and keep myself mobile, It scares me that I may have to be defendant on anyone else later on.
I was told that my bowels are weak and don’t really work well.
Me: Thank you. I can see your driving force to upgrade your diet and take personal responsibility. Can you tell me when do you drink wine or eat chocolate?
CC: I drink wine when we get together as a group and we sit down and chat and share, usually about once a week sometimes twice. I only occasionally drink a glass with my husband on special occasions. Afterwards I am really cross with myself and beat myself up terribly, I feel terrible about having had a drink. I am so fearful that it weakens my bowels further, and causes my constipation to be worse and that Ill end up in Hospital or worse. As for chocolate its only ever 80{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} and only 2 squares max and very seldom.
Me: Thank you, Did you have regular bowel movements when you were 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw for your 3 month period?
CC: No, Actually I did not, Funny I had forgotten that. After 2 days I still had to rely on laxatives. Now I remember I still had difficulty.
Me: Thank you, Can you tell me in a statement what you really want to experience health wise.
CC: I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.
Me: Thank you, How does it feel to hear the statement?
CC: Excellent.
Me: Thank you, Can you feel that in the body? is there a place where you can feel how it would feel in your body if you were already in that place?
CC : NO, Should I?
Me: Thank you, Sometimes you can feel the truth and the desire of the statement in the body, and you cab have a reaction that comes when we hear and make certain statements. A particular thought or certain circumstances or people can also cause our body to react. If fact our bodies react and alter and talk to us all the time but we need to be tuned in to realize it and be aware of it. It’s a non verbal communication that is available to us at all times, and that can guide us to an easier way of doing things.
CC: OK, No I did not feel anything
ME : Ok, That just fine. I can teach you how you can feel the communication with in your body so you can read it like a book. That can come later.
With your statement in your mind, “I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.” Can you tell me why that statement is important to you?
CC: Life is special and we should hold it as a gift
Me: Thank you, Why is that important to you?
CC: We are so unique and special
Me: Thank you, What lies under that, why is that important to you?
CC: We have a unique connection to the earth and its energy and that is special.
Me: Thank you, Why is that specially important to you?
CC: We are part of the universe and I want and like to feel connected to the earth and universe, I like to feel I belong to a bigger picture and be connected.
Me: Thank you, Great, that was excellent.
So How would it feel If I added in that being connected to your key statement,
I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements and feel really connected.
CC: Oh spot on, that’s sounds better. Really excellent, that’s what I want.
Me: To investigate further I want to delve deeper into what you have on Wine if your willing to play.
CC: Yes sure, I’m curious.
Me: So What do you have on Wine CC ?
CC: I like the act of pouring the wine, I admire the ritual and cultures involved.
I only like nice wine, which has become a narrow field, only certain grapes, I now only like the Sauvignon Blanc, its not the bottle shape or label, but there are distinctive fragrances that I like to understand what they are from, what variety of fruits etc. It’s a lovely ritual. The glass, the fragrance, its all rather special.
My very first experience with wine was when I was 16. It was a works do and it was a posh evening, and we all got some wine, and I had never experienced wine at home or before. This was all such an occasion, how we were served the wine, asked if we liked it, I felt seen, acknowledged, included and respected and all grown up. It was such a wonderful memorable occasion.
The second time was on a date with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it was a lovely bottle of wine and again I felt special, noticed, seen and attended to. It was another great occasion.
Me: Thank you, How about Now what do you have on wine?
CC: When I have wine now it really is only a few times and it’s a time to sit and relax and share with people I can have a good conversation with. I feel included and that I belong, the conversations are great and I love to sit and share and connect with these people, its an occasion once or most twice a week.
Me: Thank you. Can you begin to see the link here? The need for wine has been calling you to the connection that you also said that was so important to you in your statement for how you want to feel health wise.
The importance of the occasion, feeling part of a tribe and being noticed all of these are a connection and being seen and attended to, a safety and an ability to survive. That is what connection is for all of us.
There is lot more we can do here but this is an insight as to one of the reasons you are drawn to the ritual and remembering the experiences, of savoring wine in good company.
Working with me you can begin to change your perspective towards what you thought was out of your control. If you respect that the wine has been guiding you to creating a better connection. The way I work is that I help you to gain a much better soul connection with yourself so you can tune in and connect with your self when ever and where ever you want to, and then what I always find is, that when we have fulfilled these personal needs and these Missing nutrients are in place from our own personal needs, the need for the external fulfillment slowly and gently disappears be that food or in your case the wine.
Learning how to find a real connection and being appreciated is the key to our balance and happiness. We can replace the need for external things such as overeating or in your case the wine as a route for connection. This is what I guide you to feel for yourself and you how to do in every situation of your life, for example in the key 5 areas: health, family, relationships, work, socially as well as with yourself alone. ( spirituality ) I work with body language and non verbal communication to find your CENTER so that you don’t need or want to match other peoples vibration, but you can stay in your own beautiful vibration, the one that works for you. When you have managed to stay inside your own vibration in these 5 areas you have mastered your own Body Wisdom and you can recognize yourself in the blink of an eye.
Does that sound interesting to you?
CC: Yes it does, I’m fascinated and really ready to take all of this from a different perspective now, Thank you so much, that was fascinating.
ME: Thank you, I would be very happy to work with you.
If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:
- Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
- Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.
