How to deal with those bumps in the road. (Avoid temptations)

We all hit bumps in the road of life. I am a big believer in it’s not how far you fall, but how quickly you bounce back. Your bump could be that you got frightened about something and that set off a chain of responses that resulted in your habitual reaction such as giving in to temptation, over indulging in a particular craving, distracting yourself with excesses of food or ended up drinking more than you planned, or one of your other distractions that you most commonly use.

 

I am beginning to write a lot (because it’s SO important) about this, and how the only thing we can really change is our perception to these situations. We have influence over some things in our lives, but mostly we are quite powerless to control every single situation and the feelings those situations bring up for us. That is why our attitude and perception can change everything for us, and it can all change in a very short space of time when we know what to do.

 

So when you (or I) hit a bump in the road, when we get thrown off track, when we get depressed and feel frightened – what do we do? HOW can we bounce back?

 

Sometimes however we feel that we don’t want to bounce back. Some of us would rather give in to temptation ans keep suppressing our feelings, emotions and think its easier to keep hiding away under that blanket of our chosen distraction, rather than to begin to understand ourselves and why we do what we habitually do. Is it easier in the long run to keep hiding and stuffing down those parts of ourselves that are dying to be seen, recognized and expressed. The path of self-destruction is filled with avoidance of yourself.

Everyone has their favourite distraction and technique to avoid what is potentially painful. Even too much potential happiness can be frightening, you see its is not just pain that we try and avoid. That’s what these addictions really are – avoidance of ourselves, which is to our own detriment. There are LOTS of ways to be and stay addicted. You can be addicted to substances, alcohol, people, work, fame, success, attention, flirting with people, sugar, food and lots of other things, even like avoidance in novels, films, entertainment – anything to keep you away from hearing your inner voice and true potential. I have concentrated on coaching about food as it has been my key avoidance drug, however they all operate in much the same way. Food has been one of my main avoidance techniques and where most of us need a kick start.

 

When we hit a rough patch in life, (and all of us do from time to time) instead of just letting ourselves feel it, which will admittedly take some practice and guidance, we tend to choose one of the above distractions or addictions and keep avoiding what’s within us. This is not what life and The Universe has in mind for you. No amount of chocolate, sex, alcohol, success, people or drugs can silence the gentle sensitive whisper of The Universe within you. Your soul needs and desires expression and wants to be heard, and is actually guiding you to understand, know and like yourself better and better.

 

So, today try this instead, instead of running and hiding behind your favourite distraction, I have another suggestion. My suggestion is that it’s time to stop running from The Universe, your feelings and your emotions and just face them. Be still. Get quiet and listen. Let yourself get angry, let yourself get sad. Face the truth; go through the feeling your experiencing and know when you do it will fade.

 

I have found a system that has helped me truly face my emotions and feelings instead of running from them. So I am going to give you some tips on HOW to feel your way through your feelings and remain as sane as possible through the process:

 

Try This;

If you find that you are angry, sad, jealous, hurt, embarrassed, ignored or what ever the feeling it is you’ve identified this time, then ask yourself “What do you have on that feeling?”

Keep asking yourself the same question over and over again, this process can take up to (15 minutes). Write it all out on a clean page everything you have on this one feeling. It is better to speak it out loud but without a coach to guide you then writing is a good substitute. Every time you’ve felt angry for example, what are all the things that have made you angry? Really get to know the feeling, really feel it, this is maybe the first time that you have ever been aware of this actual feeling in your body.

Can you feel the energy of this feeling? Soon you will recognize when you feel angry, what makes you angry and what you do when you feel angry, and what your habitual response is to that feeling has been.

 

I would LoVe to help you to be able to reach this place, and detox yourself from this feeling that is driving all your cravings and responses that distract your from the pain you are feeling. To really help you, so that you can begin to recognize your own mechanisms to avoiding and distracting yourself, that are sabotaging your day, your relationships and your health.

 

I will meet you on a skype call and guide you through an experience and out the other side into your own unique Sweet Spot, where you can experience yourself feeling really relaxed, at ease and can feel safe and completely trusting.

Contact me today for your SWEET SPOT EXPERIENCE on [email protected]

 

You will also discover one invaluable and immediate step you can take whenever you feel stressed or have a situation that brings up a feeling of discomfort and pain.

 

There are additional ways to avoid the distractions you have set up for yourself, which I am happy to share and have listed below.

 

  1. Breathe – our bodies need oxygen. Most of us don’t breathe properly and deprive our body from this essential nutrient.

Take 3 deep belly breaths taking a count of a minimum of 6 seconds in and out.

 

2. Go 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} Clean and sober from your distraction of choice. For 30 days give up the cigarettes, the alcohol, the lover, the sugar and the craving.

 

  1. Drink your fill – hydrate. Dehydration can lead to all kinds of negative side effects, including depression and low energy.

 

Drink 1 litre of the best water you can find, if you want details about what water just ask me.

 

  1. Exercise – Move your body 3-4 days a week for at least 30 minutes.

 

  1. Do a Detox – clean out the old stagnated matter and make room for the new in every sense, a detox can be beneficial to your environment as well as just what you consume. Once you clean up one area of your life the other areas demand a detox too.

 

  1. Eat a more alkaline diet. This is a great way to bring your body back into alignment

 

  1. Get a mentor or coach to help guide you through this process. It REALLY helps to have someone be an outside observer and guide you through with no judgements or expectations.

 

  1. Write your feelings. A spring clean in this way by using a Journal for 10-30 minutes to just let out how you feel onto a clean page really helps.

 

  1. Only hang out with friends who uplift you. Take a break from any negative people in your life.

 

  1. Write your goals down. Imagine your best life and write down what you really want your life to be like. Many of us have created no clear vision of the kind of life we want to create, and therefore and as a result it never happens. I can guide you with the right questions to ask yourself.

 

  1. When you start to have anxiety, sadness or any “negative” emotion, instead of reaching for the pills, the sugar or the drink, just let yourself feel your feelings. Where do you feel it? What does the feeling and the energy of it feel like. What are the symptoms?

 

  1. Visit places of high vibrations – sacred spaces, yoga studios, nature, be with awesome friends, etc. Go where the LOVE is.

 

I hope these tips help you break through. These are some of the most powerful tools I know to connect back to who you really are, to be able to hear The Universe and feel balanced and stay as sane as possible in the process.

Let me know how it goes.

As always, I am here in complete dedication to your experience for a happy vibrant life.

I am passionate about helping you reach your place where food and your other distractions are no longer ruling your life. And you can be aware of your feelings and responses, making balanced decisions from a relaxed and safe place.

 

Fiona Robertson

[email protected]

Your Shape Shift Mind Set

What is it? Really what is it that makes some people able to keep to their regime, to be healthy, fit and in good shape? Most of us can easily work towards losing weight when we have an occasion that we are working towards. But how about when it just us we are doing it for, and in it for the long term, that marathon energy that’s required not a short sprint, and the attitude that its just a week and its over…..

 

This is my point today, what mind set must we have so that you can first achieve and then maintain your health or weight loss goals, and keep up the healthy promise you have set for your self. No wonder New Years Resolutions are a one day spectacular, based on the overwhelming guilt of over indulgence and fear of gaining weight, and don’t lets ignore that everyone is doing it too, so its easy to stay focused.

 

I have been working with predominantly very successful women now for over 10 years all roughly based around the same subject. They are managing businesses and earning well, yet have so far evaded their dream to wear that designer outfit that they love so much, and feel held back by how they look, as they don’t want to be judged and a successful woman who should have all areas of her life lined up and in control.

 

Fiona, they say “I feel fat and tired I used to be so slim and gorgeous, I just don’t know what happened”.

 

So what did happen? Did we become complacent and maybe for hundreds of reasons we cannot achieve the results we say we dream of, we sabotage and move the target constantly then hate ourselves for it.

So before we set about on any diet or detox ( as that has been mine and many’s theme ) to re set our body clock and start a fresh. What do we need? A New Mind Set.

 

Shape Shifting is a Mind Set program, to set in place a relationship that can last the course, one that can make us feel at peace in our body, and feel so comfortable within ourselves that we have no need to turn to extra treats to fulfill the deprivation we feel, when we know we deserve more out of a situation or from life. However instead of asking for what we actually need, we take it in luxury treats and try as we might to fulfill ourselves and our un-met needs with food.

 

My story would sound just like that, a once funny and very cheeky girl, squashed in some bad relationship choices ranged from suffocating and possessive to abusive. I threw myself into my work and it seemed to be my life saver, yet I knew I deserved more from life, yet I did not know how to get it, I did not know what I was afraid of or actually denying myself. So in comes food like my all time hero, my rescuer and there we have it, a history of YoYo diets and secret munchies to sedate an angry girl, then the disappointed woman.

 

I have thankfully now come to realize what I needed most, not just with food but in every area of my life. So picking up a few life cues here and there I saw that I needed to take care of myself better than anyone else ever could and Shape Shift my Mind Set.

 

Do you know where to start? Here is what you first want to find:

What are you afraid of most in life?

If you knew what would you say was the feeling you most try and avoid?

What am I denying?

 

Answer these questions ASAP and send me an e mail and I will be send you an E mail on Monday 22nd June to invite you to take part in my free Shape Shifters Mind Set calls. I am offering these to get you clear on your Mind Set before you start any diet or detox.

Look out for the E mail invitation on Monday

Liver Detox of a very different kind

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Earlier today I had a call with an amazing woman called Mary ( name changed ) and guided her through what was a wonderfully surprising journey for her, but it all came so naturally that it was accepted and absorbed, our next call will be equally as profound and very productive.

The conversation was initiated as she wanted to detox and came to me as an expert to help her to detox. In particular she felt drawn to cleanse the liver and gall bladder. I found myself hesitant before I started, as I felt my normal route about healthy food, hydration, cleansing detox periods, etc was not what was needed here., or not yet anyway. We started to talk and I recommended flushing the system and certainly the colon needs to be taken care of, before any liver cleanse, as it needs somewhere to dump all the toxins you have to get rid of, from alcohol, medicines, household chemicals etc that get trapped and held onto and stored in the liver.

I found my left hand tapping on my right hand at a quite fast tempo, and asked her to tap where ever she normally taps ( as I knew she used EFT )

Then we moved swiftly on what I was being drawn to, I felt into her liver energetically and asked her to purge the anger held in side the liver and the bitterness in the gall bladder. We did what I call a spring cleanse that concentrates asking questions for 16 to 20 minutes with her purging ( detoxing ) all the stored up things, people, situations, places encounters that make her angry and that she had stored unconsciously over the years. The Liver and Gall bladder are where the body typically stores anger and bitterness.

During the session I found myself breathing deeply as the energy shifted and I moved to tapping on my liver gently with a soft and open fist to move the energy about a bit more. My liver was aching and felt dull and stagnant. I felt drawn to move, stretch the right hand side of my body and jiggle about a bit and suggested she did so too, to stir up her energy.

I find that once I’ve opened the flood gates on an emotion held within the body the detox and purge goes on for a few more days, releasing old situations and bringing to light the old anger. Speaking it out loud certainly helps a great deal, as it becomes seen, heard and recognized maybe for the first time ever.

We continued our session with my Body Widsom techniques and we asked the body what it wants most of all. During our Spring cleansing and purging of the anger, I heard her say that she never really ever felt safe. This is a very common theme, and one which I have developed a particular way to help ALL my clients with, as I feel strongly that it is at the route of many of our sabotaging and unconscious behaviors.

Feeling safe allows us to feel safe out in the world and in our own skin. The need to protect ourselves is reduced, as we know we can reach a safe place and can distinguish what feels safe and what does not. We can therefore making stronger decisions and choices that support ourselves from a place of safety. It is an experience that brings much relief once it has been fully experienced. I followed my technique and guided her into her very own safe place. This is a remarkable healing place and the place I begin all my calls with, once you know how to find it, it will be invaluable to you. From this safe place you can access your own awareness and intuition. With your sensitivity set on high so that you are totally conscious through out your day, its much easier to begin to get some really clear answers. The Safe place is a place you can return to again and again, and you can adjust to feel even safer when ever you want.

I heard from Mary, that after the session she went outside and danced in the garden and felt better for shaking the energy up a bit. We will continue with more in another session together.

With much love and a new energy

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Rebel Yell. Too healthy, too clean, too good = too boring,

Guilty salty fingers on the key board and another crisp packet to hide.

Is this really the only way you get to feel naughty these days?

What happened to that Wild Girl with all that fizz, who danced on the big speakers at the night club and had to be removed by the bouncer?

Guess what she’s inside you and just dyeing to get out and be re discovered and set free. She feeling it’s all too healthy, too clean, too good, this is not fulfilling enough, she wants to cheat and scream its all so boring.

Are you ready to set her free or you could stay as the goody two shoes who’s only vice is to steel moments with a LARGE packet of crisps whilst driving home from the super market Or you could stay in survival mode and keep hidden for the rest of your days.

Your Wild, Rebel Girl is calling you on a daily basis to go a little crazy, you can feel her trying but you don’t know how, or don’t dare.

You can STOP hiding your guilt for keeping her captive, set her free to roam and explore and SiZZLE over once again.

Try this for size, choose randomly ( just to spice up your day) and follow through one of the following 5 top tips to unleash your wild rebel inside.

I dare you!! I double dare you…….

 5 Top Tips to Unleash your Wild Rebel side.

Find somewhere you can go and scream, swear and rant your torrent of complaints

Feel the wind in your hair by finding a way you can go fast, ride a bike horse ride.

Stamp and thump your feet and move in a wild way to exorcise your wild girl and wake her up.

Say NO to what ever does not feel like it would be really good fun for you

Do two totally selfish acts every day just for the hell of it.

Leave me a comment to tell me what you did and how it scared you or thrilled you. Have fun..

 If all else fails and you feel suffocated and seriously need to have permission to swear, scream, laugh out loud and be ridiculous call me, I’ll join you and show you how its done.

When you see pop artists really giving there all. How does that make you feel?

Which films remind you how daring you can and want to be?

What music makes you get up and move your body?

What memories do you hold of times when you really felt alive, and had fun running through your veins? Find at least 3 memories you can tune into.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How can I stay on my Raw Food Diet? Transcript from a recent coaching call,

Will power simply does not work for me any more.

 Do you ever have the feeling that its just too hard, or you cant get the feeling and the energy you had to begin with. Eating in a certain way like staying on a raw food diet can be very rewarding, and it can also cause us to look deeper at what is unconsciously sabotaging our hardest and best efforts to remain eating healthy and adding in more raw food.

I have been there and I totally understand. I remember saying to myself “ why can she do it so easily and not me?”

I so wanted to be happy for everyone who said they found it easy, to stick to a raw food diet and get all the benefits. I said I was happy for them. But deep down, my heart was sinking. I thought: “How come she can do it and I can’t? What’s wrong with me?”

As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I just had to learn a few more things to make that leap and experience to stay on a healthy diet and ditch the crisps ( that was my vice )

And I had to make few sacrifices.

Let’s be honest. Feeling great about yourself and keeping to the plan comes at a cost.  I had to acknowledge the grieving process ( sorry crisps _ I’m dumping you, were over ) and establish some new more joyful ground rules for myself. As will power simply was not working for me any more.

Here is what I had to sacrifice to go from feeling “That will do” to being able to value myself and what I deserved really, to get to feeling fabulous about myself, I have everything I deserved, quality over quantity and believe that more was available too, I had the energy I desired, I was clear about who I was and what I wanted and be, and I was proud of how I did it every day and beyond. (And if breakthrough is something you desire, you will need to make some sacrifices too).

I had a client recently who was on a similar journey that demonstrates this perfectly. Each and every one of us is different, made up from all sorts of different life experiences that are all unique to us. So every route is different, no two people are the same, so every call I do would reflect what ever you are experiencing. This is an example of a call that demonstrates my style of coaching to help you to get clear fro your self your desires and what is unconsciously stopping you.

Transcript of a recent coaching call.

This lovely lady had contacted me as she was concerned that she had chosen to take her better diet seriously and eating more raw food. She had succeeded for over 6 years adding in more raw food and green juices and smoothies, and yet still fell off her path and was craving and drawn to drinking wine and eating chocolate, and afterwards she really hated what she had done and was cross with herself.

She was wanting to find a way to help her to maintain her high raw world eating plan and not be drawn to such foods and drinks. I hear this rather a lot and thee the discovery path that it takes up off on. Although for some of us one or two glasses of wine a week in a social setting would not seem a problem, for this lady it really was and she was cross with herself, so it was my task to find out why and see what was the reason for the indulgences and what we could do about it and perceive the action in a different way. Here is a basic transcript from our session.

I started to ask her some questions to discover more.

Me: What is driving you to eat more raw food?

CC: My idea is that I will feel better if I eat more raw, I have 1 or 2 green juices a day and eat plenty of vegetables and only occasionally eat fish. (only in social settings when the host is adamant they made it for me) I have done a period of 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw food and I felt great.

 

Me: Thank you. Any thing else,

CC: Yes 2 years ago I suffered from a bout of serious constipation and ended up with an anal fissure and was in hospital for a while. To cut a long story short I now have to take laxatives every day. I really don’t like taking these laxatives.

I believe raw food will help my condition and help me to stay regular.

 

Me: Thank you, What is your main fear?

CC: I want to be mobile and flexible, I do yoga and it helps me get stronger and stay mobile. I like to be independent and keep myself mobile, It scares me that I may have to be defendant on anyone else later on.

I was told that my bowels are weak and don’t really work well.

 

Me: Thank you. I can see your driving force to upgrade your diet and take personal responsibility. Can you tell me when do you drink wine or eat chocolate?

CC: I drink wine when we get together as a group and we sit down and chat and share, usually about once a week sometimes twice. I only occasionally drink a glass with my husband on special occasions. Afterwards I am really cross with myself and beat myself up terribly, I feel terrible about having had a drink. I am so fearful that it weakens my bowels further, and causes my constipation to be worse and that Ill end up in Hospital or worse. As for chocolate its only ever 80{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} and only 2 squares max and very seldom.

 

Me: Thank you, Did you have regular bowel movements when you were 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw for your 3 month period?

CC: No, Actually I did not, Funny I had forgotten that. After 2 days I still had to rely on laxatives. Now I remember I still had difficulty.

Me: Thank you, Can you tell me in a statement what you really want to experience health wise.

CC: I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.

 

Me: Thank you, How does it feel to hear the statement?

CC: Excellent.

 

Me: Thank you, Can you feel that in the body? is there a place where you can feel how it would feel in your body if you were already in that place?

CC : NO, Should I?

 

Me: Thank you, Sometimes you can feel the truth and the desire of the statement in the body, and you cab have a reaction that comes when we hear and make certain statements. A particular thought or certain circumstances or people can also cause our body to react. If fact our bodies react and alter and talk to us all the time but we need to be tuned in to realize it and be aware of it. It’s a non verbal communication that is available to us at all times, and that can guide us to an easier way of doing things.

CC: OK, No I did not feel anything

 

ME : Ok, That just fine. I can teach you how you can feel the communication with in your body so you can read it like a book. That can come later.

With your statement in your mind, “I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.” Can you tell me why that statement is important to you?

CC: Life is special and we should hold it as a gift

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that important to you?

CC: We are so unique and special

 

Me: Thank you, What lies under that, why is that important to you?

CC: We have a unique connection to the earth and its energy and that is special.

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that specially important to you?

CC: We are part of the universe and I want and like to feel connected to the earth and universe, I like to feel I belong to a bigger picture and be connected.

 

Me: Thank you, Great, that was excellent.

So How would it feel If I added in that being connected to your key statement,

I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements and feel really connected.

CC: Oh spot on, that’s sounds better. Really excellent, that’s what I want.

 

Me: To investigate further I want to delve deeper into what you have on Wine if your willing to play.

CC: Yes sure, I’m curious.

 

Me: So What do you have on Wine CC ?

CC: I like the act of pouring the wine, I admire the ritual and cultures involved.

I only like nice wine, which has become a narrow field, only certain grapes, I now only like the Sauvignon Blanc, its not the bottle shape or label, but there are distinctive fragrances that I like to understand what they are from, what variety of fruits etc. It’s a lovely ritual. The glass, the fragrance, its all rather special.

My very first experience with wine was when I was 16. It was a works do and it was a posh evening, and we all got some wine, and I had never experienced wine at home or before. This was all such an occasion, how we were served the wine, asked if we liked it, I felt seen, acknowledged, included and respected and all grown up. It was such a wonderful memorable occasion.

The second time was on a date with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it was a lovely bottle of wine and again I felt special, noticed, seen and attended to. It was another great occasion.

 

Me: Thank you, How about Now what do you have on wine?

CC: When I have wine now it really is only a few times and it’s a time to sit and relax and share with people I can have a good conversation with. I feel included and that I belong, the conversations are great and I love to sit and share and connect with these people, its an occasion once or most twice a week.

 

Me: Thank you. Can you begin to see the link here? The need for wine has been calling you to the connection that you also said that was so important to you in your statement for how you want to feel health wise.

The importance of the occasion, feeling part of a tribe and being noticed all of these are a connection and being seen and attended to, a safety and an ability to survive. That is what connection is for all of us.

 

There is lot more we can do here but this is an insight as to one of the reasons you are drawn to the ritual and remembering the experiences, of savoring wine in good company.

Working with me you can begin to change your perspective towards what you thought was out of your control. If you respect that the wine has been guiding you to creating a better connection. The way I work is that I help you to gain a much better soul connection with yourself so you can tune in and connect with your self when ever and where ever you want to, and then what I always find is, that when we have fulfilled these personal needs and these Missing nutrients are in place from our own personal needs, the need for the external fulfillment slowly and gently disappears be that food or in your case the wine.

 

Learning how to find a real connection and being appreciated is the key to our balance and happiness. We can replace the need for external things such as overeating or in your case the wine as a route for connection. This is what I guide you to feel for yourself and you how to do in every situation of your life, for example in the key 5 areas: health, family, relationships, work, socially as well as with yourself alone. ( spirituality ) I work with body language and non verbal communication to find your CENTER so that you don’t need or want to match other peoples vibration, but you can stay in your own beautiful vibration, the one that works for you. When you have managed to stay inside your own vibration in these 5 areas you have mastered your own Body Wisdom and you can recognize yourself in the blink of an eye.

Does that sound interesting to you?

 

CC: Yes it does, I’m fascinated and really ready to take all of this from a different perspective now, Thank you so much, that was fascinating.

ME: Thank you, I would be very happy to work with you.

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

Why can’t I stay on my Raw Food Diet? Why do I always dip in and out, cheat and stray from what I know is best for me?

Emotional Eating

Will power simply does not work for me any more.

 Do you ever have the feeling that its just too hard, or you cant get the feeling and the energy you had to begin with. Eating in a certain way like staying on a raw food diet can be very rewarding, and it can also cause us to look deeper at what is unconsciously sabotaging our hardest and best efforts to remain eating healthy and adding in more raw food.

I have been there and I totally understand. I remember saying to myself “ why can she do it so easily and not me?”

I so wanted to be happy for everyone who said they found it easy, to stick to a raw food diet and get all the benefits. I said I was happy for them. But deep down, my heart was sinking. I thought: “How come she can do it and I can’t? What’s wrong with me?”

As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I just had to learn a few more things to make that leap and experience to stay on a healthy diet and ditch the crisps ( that was my vice )

And I had to make few sacrifices.

Let’s be honest. Feeling great about yourself and keeping to the plan comes at a cost.  I had to acknowledge the grieving process ( sorry crisps _ I’m dumping you, were over ) and establish some new more joyful ground rules for myself. As will power simply was not working for me any more.

Here is what I had to sacrifice to go from feeling “That will do” to being able to value myself and what I deserved really, to get to feeling fabulous about myself, I have everything I deserved, quality over quantity and believe that more was available too, I had the energy I desired, I was clear about who I was and what I wanted and be, and I was proud of how I did it every day and beyond. (And if breakthrough is something you desire, you will need to make some sacrifices too).

I had a client recently who was on a similar journey that demonstrates this perfectly. Each and every one of us is different, made up from all sorts of different life experiences that are all unique to us. So every route is different, no two people are the same, so every call I do would reflect what ever you are experiencing. This is an example of a call that demonstrates my style of coaching to help you to get clear fro your self your desires and what is unconsciously stopping you.

Transcript of a recent coaching call.

This lovely lady had contacted me as she was concerned that she had chosen to take her better diet seriously and eating more raw food. She had succeeded for over 6 years adding in more raw food and green juices and smoothies, and yet still fell off her path and was craving and drawn to drinking wine and eating chocolate, and afterwards she really hated what she had done and was cross with herself.

She was wanting to find a way to help her to maintain her high raw world eating plan and not be drawn to such foods and drinks. I hear this rather a lot and thee the discovery path that it takes up off on. Although for some of us one or two glasses of wine a week in a social setting would not seem a problem, for this lady it really was and she was cross with herself, so it was my task to find out why and see what was the reason for the indulgences and what we could do about it and perceive the action in a different way. Here is a basic transcript from our session.

I started to ask her some questions to discover more.

Me: What is driving you to eat more raw food?

CC: My idea is that I will feel better if I eat more raw, I have 1 or 2 green juices a day and eat plenty of vegetables and only occasionally eat fish. (only in social settings when the host is adamant they made it for me) I have done a period of 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw food and I felt great.

 

Me: Thank you. Any thing else,

CC: Yes 2 years ago I suffered from a bout of serious constipation and ended up with an anal fissure and was in hospital for a while. To cut a long story short I now have to take laxatives every day. I really don’t like taking these laxatives.

I believe raw food will help my condition and help me to stay regular.

 

Me: Thank you, What is your main fear?

CC: I want to be mobile and flexible, I do yoga and it helps me get stronger and stay mobile. I like to be independent and keep myself mobile, It scares me that I may have to be defendant on anyone else later on.

I was told that my bowels are weak and don’t really work well.

 

Me: Thank you. I can see your driving force to upgrade your diet and take personal responsibility. Can you tell me when do you drink wine or eat chocolate?

CC: I drink wine when we get together as a group and we sit down and chat and share, usually about once a week sometimes twice. I only occasionally drink a glass with my husband on special occasions. Afterwards I am really cross with myself and beat myself up terribly, I feel terrible about having had a drink. I am so fearful that it weakens my bowels further, and causes my constipation to be worse and that Ill end up in Hospital or worse. As for chocolate its only ever 80{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} and only 2 squares max and very seldom.

 

Me: Thank you, Did you have regular bowel movements when you were 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw for your 3 month period?

CC: No, Actually I did not, Funny I had forgotten that. After 2 days I still had to rely on laxatives. Now I remember I still had difficulty.

Me: Thank you, Can you tell me in a statement what you really want to experience health wise.

CC: I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.

 

Me: Thank you, How does it feel to hear the statement?

CC: Excellent.

 

Me: Thank you, Can you feel that in the body? is there a place where you can feel how it would feel in your body if you were already in that place?

CC : NO, Should I?

 

Me: Thank you, Sometimes you can feel the truth and the desire of the statement in the body, and you cab have a reaction that comes when we hear and make certain statements. A particular thought or certain circumstances or people can also cause our body to react. If fact our bodies react and alter and talk to us all the time but we need to be tuned in to realize it and be aware of it. It’s a non verbal communication that is available to us at all times, and that can guide us to an easier way of doing things.

CC: OK, No I did not feel anything

 

ME : Ok, That just fine. I can teach you how you can feel the communication with in your body so you can read it like a book. That can come later.

With your statement in your mind, “I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.” Can you tell me why that statement is important to you?

CC: Life is special and we should hold it as a gift

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that important to you?

CC: We are so unique and special

 

Me: Thank you, What lies under that, why is that important to you?

CC: We have a unique connection to the earth and its energy and that is special.

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that specially important to you?

CC: We are part of the universe and I want and like to feel connected to the earth and universe, I like to feel I belong to a bigger picture and be connected.

 

Me: Thank you, Great, that was excellent.

So How would it feel If I added in that being connected to your key statement,

I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements and feel really connected.

CC: Oh spot on, that’s sounds better. Really excellent, that’s what I want.

 

Me: To investigate further I want to delve deeper into what you have on Wine if your willing to play.

CC: Yes sure, I’m curious.

 

Me: So What do you have on Wine CC ?

CC: I like the act of pouring the wine, I admire the ritual and cultures involved.

I only like nice wine, which has become a narrow field, only certain grapes, I now only like the Sauvignon Blanc, its not the bottle shape or label, but there are distinctive fragrances that I like to understand what they are from, what variety of fruits etc. It’s a lovely ritual. The glass, the fragrance, its all rather special.

My very first experience with wine was when I was 16. It was a works do and it was a posh evening, and we all got some wine, and I had never experienced wine at home or before. This was all such an occasion, how we were served the wine, asked if we liked it, I felt seen, acknowledged, included and respected and all grown up. It was such a wonderful memorable occasion.

The second time was on a date with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it was a lovely bottle of wine and again I felt special, noticed, seen and attended to. It was another great occasion.

 

Me: Thank you, How about Now what do you have on wine?

CC: When I have wine now it really is only a few times and it’s a time to sit and relax and share with people I can have a good conversation with. I feel included and that I belong, the conversations are great and I love to sit and share and connect with these people, its an occasion once or most twice a week.

 

Me: Thank you. Can you begin to see the link here? The need for wine has been calling you to the connection that you also said that was so important to you in your statement for how you want to feel health wise.

The importance of the occasion, feeling part of a tribe and being noticed all of these are a connection and being seen and attended to, a safety and an ability to survive. That is what connection is for all of us.

 

There is lot more we can do here but this is an insight as to one of the reasons you are drawn to the ritual and remembering the experiences, of savoring wine in good company.

Working with me you can begin to change your perspective towards what you thought was out of your control. If you respect that the wine has been guiding you to creating a better connection. The way I work is that I help you to gain a much better soul connection with yourself so you can tune in and connect with your self when ever and where ever you want to, and then what I always find is, that when we have fulfilled these personal needs and these Missing nutrients are in place from our own personal needs, the need for the external fulfillment slowly and gently disappears be that food or in your case the wine.

 

Learning how to find a real connection and being appreciated is the key to our balance and happiness. We can replace the need for external things such as overeating or in your case the wine as a route for connection. This is what I guide you to feel for yourself and you how to do in every situation of your life, for example in the key 5 areas: health, family, relationships, work, socially as well as with yourself alone. ( spirituality ) I work with body language and non verbal communication to find your CENTER so that you don’t need or want to match other peoples vibration, but you can stay in your own beautiful vibration, the one that works for you. When you have managed to stay inside your own vibration in these 5 areas you have mastered your own Body Wisdom and you can recognize yourself in the blink of an eye.

Does that sound interesting to you?

 

CC: Yes it does, I’m fascinated and really ready to take all of this from a different perspective now, Thank you so much, that was fascinating.

ME: Thank you, I would be very happy to work with you.

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

Fed up with feeling so tired all the time?

I am SO fed up with feeling SO tired?

It feels so brain numbing to be so tired all the time doesn’t it. If your feeling unwell and just dog tired, then no mater what it is then everything else has to wait until your feeling right again. It’s like playing a game and that is the trump card, and no matter how you feel about your job, your relationship, your body image or your finances, you will do nothing about it until you feel well again and have the feeling you can really cope with it, and that means not feeling so god damn tired and sluggish all the time.

Do you ever get the feeling that day after day, month after month, you are becoming more and more tired and with no change in sight. Your body feels heavy and you’ve tried everything you can think of and yet you still feel so tired and weary. In fact you feel more tired than you can ever remember. You could literally sleep at the drop of a hat. Whats going on? What’s happening?

Oh, I know only to well how this feels and I bet its driving you just as crazy as it drove me. You’ve tried taking supplements, you’ve tried removing gluten ( as best you could ) You’ve tried all the juices, smoothies and high protein bars, yet still this worn out and empty feeling haunts your every single day. You wake up and still feel tired, your sleep is not restoring you. You take exercise and that just leaves you aching and unable to function. Now your worried there is something really wrong with you, but your too scared to find out.

I understand all of this only too well. Its not your fault. It really isn’t.

When I was in my management position in a firm of highly motivated sales executives, running my own team I got myself into a place that was just not working for me any more. And that is an understatement. I did not know it then, but my body was screaming at me to STOP, to take a different route and change my perspective. Many people, myself included at this stage look to leave their jobs and then have the added worry of then what?

So we stay put and get worn out even further, until we cannot function in any recognizable shape of form.

What I have come to learn from my crash and burn experiences, is that it is actually quite easy to make some vital and life saving changes, that will see you get a real feeling of being able to cope, and have the feeling of being clear and feeling lighter and brighter in a very short space of time. I am so glad that I have taken the time to learn about these, as I only repeated the same theme and routine at any new job I had, even when I became self employed I repeated the same patterns. It is a pleasure for me now to share and guide people through, and unravel the circumstances and situations that drag us down, making us feel heavy and extraordinarily tired.

I personally have the tendency to get overwhelmed and think I can cope with everything that comes my way, I am a loyal employee and don’t like to let people down, unless its myself that is. I never learnt how to look after myself, I mean really look after myself I’m not talking about earning a living, feeding and housing myself, and caring for my family, my pets and maintaining a home. I’m talking about caring for myself like the best and only friend I ever had. What I learnt took me years of ups and downs and even every now and then I h=get trapped and stretched to the max and then I wake up and realise there is another way. Once I jump off the merry go round, I breathe again and light comes back to my body and the tiredness eases away and I feel uplifted and really supported.

It the greatest thing I have ever learnt. I have looked to food to heal me and people to care for me, yet there I was all along ready willing and able to care for myself, in ways that I was never taught. Its so miraculous when you finally get it and start putting into action what I am talking about. Simple steps that push the reset buttons and keep your engine fuelled so that you feel that the long days are manageable, so that you feel you can enjoy social events, Your temper and irritation at others evens out, You feel that your weight balances out naturally without any effort on your part, You instinctively know when to leave your work and go home without any guilt, You feel able to control your eating habits and food cravings, You feel you just know who would be good for you in a relationship or interview situation, You feel you are able to be the mother you would most admire and so much more

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

How to take care of your energy

Taking great care of your Energy

Taking Great care of your own Energy
Taking Great care of your own Energy

For me Energy has become everything. What I mean by that is not just my physical energy but my mental energy too. My thoughts, beliefs and energetic charge i.e. how I choose to feel today, in this very moment matters to me.

So when I ask you how do you feel? Maybe you’ll first consider how your day is going, and you’ll relay to me what you have noticed, maybe all the things that went wrong from the moment you woke up. Humans ( sorry but this is true ) have a tendency to concentrate on the negative unless we have been taught that we can focus on the positive. Our media know this only too well, and has set about feeding us with the most dramatic and negative stories every day. The drama of life sells papers and TV and radio stations need their audience, and seeing as the general population are concentrating on the negative most of the time. This is not you of course, you’ve seen the light and already know that you want to feel way better that you do today.
I live in France now and have not watched the News on purpose for over 15 years now. Last winter when I tuned into a News broadcast because I wanted see the snow fall in an old area where I used to live to see the scenery again. I could not believe the tone of voice and the negative connotations from all the snow fall. More recently I watched a David Attenborough nature series with my two boys and there was that voice again, “will the baby survive, will it get eaten”, “will the predator be able to feed its family?”. There was that familiar tone of voice and negative words surrounding what was a beautiful story. This was the first time I had even noticed it, as I was so used to hearing the tone that it washed over me. But this time I chose not to be drawn down the fearful path the narrator was taking me.

This is just a small example. Our energy is everything and we can choose at any point to have a good day, to eat well and have a better relationship with those around us.
On a funny note I wanted to share that I noticed myself that when I was in certain peoples company I have chosen to eat and drink differently my food choices have been heavier in certain company. When I am drawn to choose to eat heavier foods or drink a glass of wine, I can ask myself if I am reacting to someone else’s energy, now I can see the link and have chosen to stay in my higher vibration. You too can get aware of the energy in your vicinity and know if its an energy you want to sink into or lift out of.
When I coach people I really listen to what they say and repeat it back to them, their habitual inner talk is my guide, we all have it and it is effectively bringing us either up or down vibration energy wise.

Are you curios to experience more energy and a feeling of being lighter and brighter, to benefit from the increase of energy, so you don’t feel tired and exhausted, but can have more energy to work with. I am offering you a “10 Essential Tips to Boost your Energy guide” and a FREE 30 minute session with me to experience the energy you really want to live in and have access to every day?.

My job is to help you to have a better energy, physically and mentally to feel lighter and brighter in every sense of the word. I concentrate on Weight loss and having more energy, and I have happily taught about detoxing, nutrition and raw food for the past 10 years. What I have have noticed is that when we detox we naturally get a much higher and more positive energy, and when we eat heavy foods they muddy the waters somewhat, we lose our connection and cannot seem to find our true selves, or articulate what we really feel, resulting in heavier feelings and sometimes mild depression symptoms, feeling tired and shutting off from the world.
Our energy responds to what we put into and onto our bodies as well as our thoughts, our surroundings, perceptions and beliefs. So energy is everything.

One amazing way to get your energy to vibrate at a higher more positive, lighter brighter setting is to literally decide to only notice the good things in life and be grateful about them.

When I coach people with their energy levels it is rarely all about what and how they eat, that is the symptom of their overall energy. Our bodies are a true representation of our energy. I set tasks and themes for the week that raise the vibration and the energy starts to rise and so in turn does the choice of what, how and why we eat.

I can literally get you to be drawn to better choices food and activities, to be responsive to your own energy and what your body physically and mentally needs, rather than what it has been habitually conditioned to for the protection of self.

It is a passion of mine to watch people change and transform into a totally other person who shines and is aware of how they feel and choices life very differently than before. When I was younger my favorite job was to polish the silver, ( a silver teapot to the initials RR, an old family heirloom) I loved watching the dark grey be rubbed off and the bright silver shining through, I wished there was a way to preserve the tea pot from tarnishing again. But I knew that it would get tarnished again pretty soon, if it was not regularly cared for. Sloppy thinking and choices will tarnish you and so it is important to make a decision to keep shining as bright as you can.

One thing I know for sure when you shine and have a higher vibration to your energy, you feel so much better, life, situations seem lighter and not so serious and wonderful things start to happen, people are helpful, situations turn around faster and with ease. I know how I want to live and what kind of energy I prefer to be around.

Are you curios to experience more energy and a feeling of being lighter and brighter, to benefit from the increase of energy, so you don’t feel tired and exhausted, but can have more energy to work with. I am offering you a “10 Essential Tips to Boost your Energy guide” and a FREE 30 minute session with me to experience the energy you really want to live in and have access to every day?.