How to deal with those bumps in the road. (Avoid temptations)

We all hit bumps in the road of life. I am a big believer in it’s not how far you fall, but how quickly you bounce back. Your bump could be that you got frightened about something and that set off a chain of responses that resulted in your habitual reaction such as giving in to temptation, over indulging in a particular craving, distracting yourself with excesses of food or ended up drinking more than you planned, or one of your other distractions that you most commonly use.

 

I am beginning to write a lot (because it’s SO important) about this, and how the only thing we can really change is our perception to these situations. We have influence over some things in our lives, but mostly we are quite powerless to control every single situation and the feelings those situations bring up for us. That is why our attitude and perception can change everything for us, and it can all change in a very short space of time when we know what to do.

 

So when you (or I) hit a bump in the road, when we get thrown off track, when we get depressed and feel frightened – what do we do? HOW can we bounce back?

 

Sometimes however we feel that we don’t want to bounce back. Some of us would rather give in to temptation ans keep suppressing our feelings, emotions and think its easier to keep hiding away under that blanket of our chosen distraction, rather than to begin to understand ourselves and why we do what we habitually do. Is it easier in the long run to keep hiding and stuffing down those parts of ourselves that are dying to be seen, recognized and expressed. The path of self-destruction is filled with avoidance of yourself.

Everyone has their favourite distraction and technique to avoid what is potentially painful. Even too much potential happiness can be frightening, you see its is not just pain that we try and avoid. That’s what these addictions really are – avoidance of ourselves, which is to our own detriment. There are LOTS of ways to be and stay addicted. You can be addicted to substances, alcohol, people, work, fame, success, attention, flirting with people, sugar, food and lots of other things, even like avoidance in novels, films, entertainment – anything to keep you away from hearing your inner voice and true potential. I have concentrated on coaching about food as it has been my key avoidance drug, however they all operate in much the same way. Food has been one of my main avoidance techniques and where most of us need a kick start.

 

When we hit a rough patch in life, (and all of us do from time to time) instead of just letting ourselves feel it, which will admittedly take some practice and guidance, we tend to choose one of the above distractions or addictions and keep avoiding what’s within us. This is not what life and The Universe has in mind for you. No amount of chocolate, sex, alcohol, success, people or drugs can silence the gentle sensitive whisper of The Universe within you. Your soul needs and desires expression and wants to be heard, and is actually guiding you to understand, know and like yourself better and better.

 

So, today try this instead, instead of running and hiding behind your favourite distraction, I have another suggestion. My suggestion is that it’s time to stop running from The Universe, your feelings and your emotions and just face them. Be still. Get quiet and listen. Let yourself get angry, let yourself get sad. Face the truth; go through the feeling your experiencing and know when you do it will fade.

 

I have found a system that has helped me truly face my emotions and feelings instead of running from them. So I am going to give you some tips on HOW to feel your way through your feelings and remain as sane as possible through the process:

 

Try This;

If you find that you are angry, sad, jealous, hurt, embarrassed, ignored or what ever the feeling it is you’ve identified this time, then ask yourself “What do you have on that feeling?”

Keep asking yourself the same question over and over again, this process can take up to (15 minutes). Write it all out on a clean page everything you have on this one feeling. It is better to speak it out loud but without a coach to guide you then writing is a good substitute. Every time you’ve felt angry for example, what are all the things that have made you angry? Really get to know the feeling, really feel it, this is maybe the first time that you have ever been aware of this actual feeling in your body.

Can you feel the energy of this feeling? Soon you will recognize when you feel angry, what makes you angry and what you do when you feel angry, and what your habitual response is to that feeling has been.

 

I would LoVe to help you to be able to reach this place, and detox yourself from this feeling that is driving all your cravings and responses that distract your from the pain you are feeling. To really help you, so that you can begin to recognize your own mechanisms to avoiding and distracting yourself, that are sabotaging your day, your relationships and your health.

 

I will meet you on a skype call and guide you through an experience and out the other side into your own unique Sweet Spot, where you can experience yourself feeling really relaxed, at ease and can feel safe and completely trusting.

Contact me today for your SWEET SPOT EXPERIENCE on [email protected]

 

You will also discover one invaluable and immediate step you can take whenever you feel stressed or have a situation that brings up a feeling of discomfort and pain.

 

There are additional ways to avoid the distractions you have set up for yourself, which I am happy to share and have listed below.

 

  1. Breathe – our bodies need oxygen. Most of us don’t breathe properly and deprive our body from this essential nutrient.

Take 3 deep belly breaths taking a count of a minimum of 6 seconds in and out.

 

2. Go 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} Clean and sober from your distraction of choice. For 30 days give up the cigarettes, the alcohol, the lover, the sugar and the craving.

 

  1. Drink your fill – hydrate. Dehydration can lead to all kinds of negative side effects, including depression and low energy.

 

Drink 1 litre of the best water you can find, if you want details about what water just ask me.

 

  1. Exercise – Move your body 3-4 days a week for at least 30 minutes.

 

  1. Do a Detox – clean out the old stagnated matter and make room for the new in every sense, a detox can be beneficial to your environment as well as just what you consume. Once you clean up one area of your life the other areas demand a detox too.

 

  1. Eat a more alkaline diet. This is a great way to bring your body back into alignment

 

  1. Get a mentor or coach to help guide you through this process. It REALLY helps to have someone be an outside observer and guide you through with no judgements or expectations.

 

  1. Write your feelings. A spring clean in this way by using a Journal for 10-30 minutes to just let out how you feel onto a clean page really helps.

 

  1. Only hang out with friends who uplift you. Take a break from any negative people in your life.

 

  1. Write your goals down. Imagine your best life and write down what you really want your life to be like. Many of us have created no clear vision of the kind of life we want to create, and therefore and as a result it never happens. I can guide you with the right questions to ask yourself.

 

  1. When you start to have anxiety, sadness or any “negative” emotion, instead of reaching for the pills, the sugar or the drink, just let yourself feel your feelings. Where do you feel it? What does the feeling and the energy of it feel like. What are the symptoms?

 

  1. Visit places of high vibrations – sacred spaces, yoga studios, nature, be with awesome friends, etc. Go where the LOVE is.

 

I hope these tips help you break through. These are some of the most powerful tools I know to connect back to who you really are, to be able to hear The Universe and feel balanced and stay as sane as possible in the process.

Let me know how it goes.

As always, I am here in complete dedication to your experience for a happy vibrant life.

I am passionate about helping you reach your place where food and your other distractions are no longer ruling your life. And you can be aware of your feelings and responses, making balanced decisions from a relaxed and safe place.

 

Fiona Robertson

[email protected]

What does “Joie de Vivre” look like for you?

In my yoga and meditation this morning, It came to me again that, at any given moment you can change and live life with “Joie de vivre” You have the choice to have a life you love in every single moment.
When I was traveling in 2003 & 2004 I experienced fully the philosophy of “what you think is what you get” so profoundly so, that I really understood this principle so much so that my life just flowed along with ease. It has been my aim over the last few years to get to that place once again, so that every day is lived from a place where life force fills me up and flows through me with ease.

So that people places and circumstances conspire to be at their very the best for me at that moment. When I am flying high everything slots into place like a beautiful happy jigsaw puzzle. From how I feel to what I eat, to who I am with and all the experiences I have, and any problems on the horizon fade out and get sorted with ease. Joie de Vivre can be a joy of conversation, joy of eating, joy of anything one might do…
And joie de vivre may be seen as a joy of everything, a comprehensive joy, a philosophy of life, a Weltanschauung. Robert’s Dictionnaire says joie is sentiment exaltant ressenti par toute la conscience, that is it, involves one’s whole being.”[1]

Today I received a call from a dear friend needing a boost, and asked me to help her to get back on her high flying disk and back into her ability to manifest her best day ever. Sometimes even the best of us get caught in our old fears and sabotaging behavior. And all of these if we allow them to will just bring us crashing and burning down, and down and deeper down into the world that is dark, problematic and not working out as we wanted. So my friend and I talked and I asked her to tell me everything that was working well for her, what she was grateful for and soon enough she was laughing again and could see a way out of her dark hole.

Sometimes we need a friend at the end of the phone at a moments notice to guide us out, and someone who we can trust to know us in every detail and hold the space for us so that we can be our very own best person.

Its totally infectious too, when we are happy, others around us get happier too, they want to bask in our warm rays of sun shine, when we are in love with life the people that we attract are lovely people, and so are all the situations and circumstances that we touch. Its like the Midas touch that we can spread a little more happiness for everyone.

I often laugh and say that if a shop is empty I will fill it. I will go in and sooner rather than later I have to leave as its just crowed out and I cant move in there any more so I have to leave.

Here is what one lady said after she had been guided by me into her special place of awareness that everything just works……

Testimonial. Pamela Steves.

When I contacted Fiona I had no idea other than I wanted to feel different, I wanted to lose weight and feel better in myself. During our first session I came to the conclusion that I wanted more than anything to feel “lighter and brighter” and that life just seemed heavy and rather dull and a constant struggle.

In our sessions Fiona gave me a whole new perspective slowly allowing me to experience my days as I liked, and experience my days, my food and each situation just the way I liked, she opened up a whole new world for me and I began to feel much, much lighter mentally and physically. I remarked that I felt brighter than ever. These feelings expanded and got better than I could have ever imagined they could. I am a whole new person, I feel different and I view my wonderful life in an entirely different way. (thankfully) ………

When I visited my family which is normally such a drudge, it was with the help of the sessions I had experienced, that meant that I could ride them out and still feel lighter and not reach for comfort in the from of food, which had been an unconscious habit. As a result I have lost the weight but not just from food addiction but all the heavy things I had adopted.

I now know myself so much better and know how to gauge my stress and re boot my energy

myself, so that I was not effected by all the negativity which now thankful having far less effect on me.

That alone was well worth my time over these last 3 months, in these wonderfully funny and uplifting hours with Fiona

Pamela Steves 2015.

A lot of people are talking to me of their struggles and want to understand why they feel trapped in the same old habits, and the consequences of these habits. Try as they might to change them themselves and maintain a better balance and have more joy in their lives, they get stuck and cant find the way out of the labyrinth.

It’s a shame, because the solution is actually right at your very fingertips, you just don’t see it yet. Maybe you can relate to this, too.

We all have everything we need to be healthy and live a joyful life, but we need to know how to trigger them and find our missing life nutrients. Which got me to thinking, how could I get you started quickly, with exactly what you need to solve this everyday problem?

Well, just now I had a blinding idea? I want you to have the start that I never had, and I want to show you how to tune in today, I want you to start to get really clear on what you most need to do right now to move on into your very own Joie de Vivre experience.

I will guide you, so gently so that you can start to feel the difference it can make to really know yourself and find that love for yourself, and explode into the joy of life and your very own experience of “Joie de Vivre”

Join me as I teach you how to get to your best place ever and live with JOIE DE VIVRE every day.

I am offering a sessions for the next week to tune you into your Joie de Vivre. contact me on [email protected]

It’s my “Joie de Vie” clarity session

The only thing is that spaces are limited this time, so these consultations are going to be snapped up fast. And to be considered you’ll need to apply right away.

In this Joie de vie Session you will:

* Discover what is unconsciously sabotaging you from actually reaching your own Joy of life picture

* Create a clear plan that describes in detail the steps you need to take to reach the next level of Joy in your life that lasts and lasts and lasts

*Identify the one simple step you can take immediately to get into action

******************** Here’s how it works: ********************
1. in 2 days time I’ll send you the special invitation titled “Joie de Vivre”. All you need to do is open the email, hit reply and answer a few simple questions. That’s it!
2. There is a deadline for applying so best to hit reply right away, when you see the invitation from me.
3. I’ll let you know by this time next week if you get your spot. I hope you do! There’s only one way to find out for sure and that’s to apply right away when the email arrives from me to you.
So watch for my special invitation and I’ll talk to you soon!