As a Busy BIZ Mum I never saw what truths lay hidden behind my weight

Don’t miss that Hidden Beauty behind your weight and what your body is whispering to you.

 

2 years ago if you’d have told me that I would be happy or grateful that I had gained 2 dress sizes and struggled to shift the weight, I would have laughed at you but more likely I would have cried ‘Ugh!’ and said ‘I never wanted this to happen, I hate this, I’m so ashamed’.

 

I was struggling to lose weight and fit into the clothes I once loved, I seriously thought Id tried everything and reduced my food intake to a minimum. I was utterly frustrated and embarrassed let alone starving. I was the Detox Guru and Raw food retreat host and I could not fathom why on earth I was not able to do this. The trouble was I was working around the clock on the go all day and catering for my boys all night, Managing a growing business and being a GOOD mother, as well as being chief house maid, dog walker and constant bottle washer.

 

When I discovered the crucial element that put all the pieces together for me I was excited to say the least. My body had chosen to show me an alternative route as to why I had gained this weight. She knew that THIS would get my full attention.

As someone who can hear the Body’s Whispers, I re-connected and tuned into my body, she showed me where I was really starving and what I was lacking the most and see what I seriously needed to put into play, not with any food aspect but in my life.

I started a series of open discussions with her (my body ) about my complete and utter disappointment in her betrayal of me, against my hardest efforts to stay slim.

She replied to me that the weight was in part a reflection of my thoughts, my complete avoidance of myself and my ridged beliefs and mindset towards my body and health, “there is an easier way” she said.

She was getting me to understand that I could change my body by how I felt, and that I had not felt satisfied for a long time, I was stressed and my thoughts were very critical, I was in a struggle mindset and that had led to feelings of being a victim.

My body had whispered the truth to me that I had needed to hear. Wow I was grateful for the warning and the hard lesson. I had certainly not listened to softer more gentle prods before. So now she had brought out the big guns or the heavy duty weight artillery. I was lost and I wanted more than anything to provide, support my boys but more than that I wanted to have life flooding through my veins and be able to live the S#*T out of my life and not be the serious, hard working boring practical woman I had turned into.

So, if you are a smart woman who is striving to re new her body and has exhausted the diet route and is ready to understand that there is much more going on behind the scenes, that keeps our weight where it is, then this is for you.

? Ask your body what it is that she is trying to whisper to you?

What is the one area – your pattern that you attract – that troubles you the most in your life ?

What is the one area that troubles you the most with your body?

Now it’s over to you! What are you going to do next?

What if you are the same stressed out unhappy woman in 1 years time? Is that good enough for you?

Need my help creating, implementing and managing your BODY from the foods you consume, what foods help and what foods hinder?

Know and be aware how stress feels for you and can be reduced in a heartbeat, to what physical symptoms you have and why, so that you can allow your body to re calibrate and become the body you always dream of moving into, that allow you to do and feel all of the things you desperately want to do and feel.

What do you want and what do you need most of all?

I offer a complementary Body Scan which is a call that helps you to see the undercurrent that is running in your subconscious that has your body creating and storing unnecessary fat. – So simply book in a friendly call to go behind the scenes with a Body Scan call and let’s chat and clear away what stopping and blocking you! I am here for you and can show you the pitfalls and the best and quickest routes to take. To learn in more detail about the Body scan and what it can do for you click on the link.

And, it is precisely because of my own route to losing and maintaining my weight that has led me to share with women who are struggling to find their own answers to their physical symptoms, and hear what their body is whispering to them.

You’ll get….

  1. Discover your NO 1 Trigger that has you battling with your weight and Body image
  2. What blocks you from actually losing weight and not regaining it
  3. Find out what your body is really craving ( Hint it is not what you think)

Sign up for one of the calls ill be doing over the next few weeks, where I share this information on a one to one call. https://fionarobertson.acuityscheduling.com/ and make 2017 the year you finally reclaim your body, and your life.

 

I am Fiona Robertson, I am a Body Whisperer and the Body Renewer. An intuitive health coach for women in their 40’s and 50’s, and I provide bespoke programs for woman who want to get into the every best shape of their lives, without ever stepping into the Gym or being on endless diets.

 

As a 40 something woman going after my dream career, choosing to live here in Biarritz, France, and running healthy Detox and Raw Food Retreats, I had 2 small boys to single handedly care for, as well as a household, several pets, a large garden and 2 Apartments to manage and rent out in the holidays. I found myself engrossed in my daily work and family needs and their dramas, and I felt so, so far away from meeting any of my own needs. I soon found myself bigger than I had ever been – not having the time or spare money to put towards a personal coach and trainer. I made a decision that turned my life around – I uncovered the real reason that I had gained and held onto so much weight, and why I was craving to secretly eat, scoff and binge despite being surrounded by healthy food and partaking in all the long hikes I took my clients on into the mountains, and running around after my young children. I wanted to be slimmer fitter bit I had however 1 big proviso, that I would never become a gym bunny or follow a strict diet ever again. But I would uncover the reason my body had put on so much weight and despite all my efforts it was not shifting the weight I carried.

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5 years on and I am in the best physical shape ever, I have lost 2 stone (128lbs), I feel lighter all round and l have maintained my energy and weight goal over the last 3 years, without depriving myself of foods I love or being on a diet, going anywhere a gym, spin class or treadmill. So by now I know a thing or two about what it takes to set goals and achieve them without the need for any fancy kit.

To get you to where you want to be you will need a high level coach. Someone who can catch all your mindset blocks, support you completely, and hold you accountable to step up and be the woman you are meant to be. Someone who tells you the truth and shows you your patterns and avoidance. That means committing to doing the work, then actually showing up AND doing the work, and it means investing. I’d love to help you, you deserve to be in the body that reflects who you really are.

I’m OK if you don’t do this, I feel sad for you, but I am OK. Do it for yourself so that this time next year you are looking and feeling like the woman who rules her world.

Fiona Robertson

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Rebel Yell. Too healthy, too clean, too good = too boring,

Guilty salty fingers on the key board and another crisp packet to hide.

Is this really the only way you get to feel naughty these days?

What happened to that Wild Girl with all that fizz, who danced on the big speakers at the night club and had to be removed by the bouncer?

Guess what she’s inside you and just dyeing to get out and be re discovered and set free. She feeling it’s all too healthy, too clean, too good, this is not fulfilling enough, she wants to cheat and scream its all so boring.

Are you ready to set her free or you could stay as the goody two shoes who’s only vice is to steel moments with a LARGE packet of crisps whilst driving home from the super market Or you could stay in survival mode and keep hidden for the rest of your days.

Your Wild, Rebel Girl is calling you on a daily basis to go a little crazy, you can feel her trying but you don’t know how, or don’t dare.

You can STOP hiding your guilt for keeping her captive, set her free to roam and explore and SiZZLE over once again.

Try this for size, choose randomly ( just to spice up your day) and follow through one of the following 5 top tips to unleash your wild rebel inside.

I dare you!! I double dare you…….

 5 Top Tips to Unleash your Wild Rebel side.

Find somewhere you can go and scream, swear and rant your torrent of complaints

Feel the wind in your hair by finding a way you can go fast, ride a bike horse ride.

Stamp and thump your feet and move in a wild way to exorcise your wild girl and wake her up.

Say NO to what ever does not feel like it would be really good fun for you

Do two totally selfish acts every day just for the hell of it.

Leave me a comment to tell me what you did and how it scared you or thrilled you. Have fun..

 If all else fails and you feel suffocated and seriously need to have permission to swear, scream, laugh out loud and be ridiculous call me, I’ll join you and show you how its done.

When you see pop artists really giving there all. How does that make you feel?

Which films remind you how daring you can and want to be?

What music makes you get up and move your body?

What memories do you hold of times when you really felt alive, and had fun running through your veins? Find at least 3 memories you can tune into.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How can I stay on my Raw Food Diet? Transcript from a recent coaching call,

Will power simply does not work for me any more.

 Do you ever have the feeling that its just too hard, or you cant get the feeling and the energy you had to begin with. Eating in a certain way like staying on a raw food diet can be very rewarding, and it can also cause us to look deeper at what is unconsciously sabotaging our hardest and best efforts to remain eating healthy and adding in more raw food.

I have been there and I totally understand. I remember saying to myself “ why can she do it so easily and not me?”

I so wanted to be happy for everyone who said they found it easy, to stick to a raw food diet and get all the benefits. I said I was happy for them. But deep down, my heart was sinking. I thought: “How come she can do it and I can’t? What’s wrong with me?”

As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I just had to learn a few more things to make that leap and experience to stay on a healthy diet and ditch the crisps ( that was my vice )

And I had to make few sacrifices.

Let’s be honest. Feeling great about yourself and keeping to the plan comes at a cost.  I had to acknowledge the grieving process ( sorry crisps _ I’m dumping you, were over ) and establish some new more joyful ground rules for myself. As will power simply was not working for me any more.

Here is what I had to sacrifice to go from feeling “That will do” to being able to value myself and what I deserved really, to get to feeling fabulous about myself, I have everything I deserved, quality over quantity and believe that more was available too, I had the energy I desired, I was clear about who I was and what I wanted and be, and I was proud of how I did it every day and beyond. (And if breakthrough is something you desire, you will need to make some sacrifices too).

I had a client recently who was on a similar journey that demonstrates this perfectly. Each and every one of us is different, made up from all sorts of different life experiences that are all unique to us. So every route is different, no two people are the same, so every call I do would reflect what ever you are experiencing. This is an example of a call that demonstrates my style of coaching to help you to get clear fro your self your desires and what is unconsciously stopping you.

Transcript of a recent coaching call.

This lovely lady had contacted me as she was concerned that she had chosen to take her better diet seriously and eating more raw food. She had succeeded for over 6 years adding in more raw food and green juices and smoothies, and yet still fell off her path and was craving and drawn to drinking wine and eating chocolate, and afterwards she really hated what she had done and was cross with herself.

She was wanting to find a way to help her to maintain her high raw world eating plan and not be drawn to such foods and drinks. I hear this rather a lot and thee the discovery path that it takes up off on. Although for some of us one or two glasses of wine a week in a social setting would not seem a problem, for this lady it really was and she was cross with herself, so it was my task to find out why and see what was the reason for the indulgences and what we could do about it and perceive the action in a different way. Here is a basic transcript from our session.

I started to ask her some questions to discover more.

Me: What is driving you to eat more raw food?

CC: My idea is that I will feel better if I eat more raw, I have 1 or 2 green juices a day and eat plenty of vegetables and only occasionally eat fish. (only in social settings when the host is adamant they made it for me) I have done a period of 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw food and I felt great.

 

Me: Thank you. Any thing else,

CC: Yes 2 years ago I suffered from a bout of serious constipation and ended up with an anal fissure and was in hospital for a while. To cut a long story short I now have to take laxatives every day. I really don’t like taking these laxatives.

I believe raw food will help my condition and help me to stay regular.

 

Me: Thank you, What is your main fear?

CC: I want to be mobile and flexible, I do yoga and it helps me get stronger and stay mobile. I like to be independent and keep myself mobile, It scares me that I may have to be defendant on anyone else later on.

I was told that my bowels are weak and don’t really work well.

 

Me: Thank you. I can see your driving force to upgrade your diet and take personal responsibility. Can you tell me when do you drink wine or eat chocolate?

CC: I drink wine when we get together as a group and we sit down and chat and share, usually about once a week sometimes twice. I only occasionally drink a glass with my husband on special occasions. Afterwards I am really cross with myself and beat myself up terribly, I feel terrible about having had a drink. I am so fearful that it weakens my bowels further, and causes my constipation to be worse and that Ill end up in Hospital or worse. As for chocolate its only ever 80{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} and only 2 squares max and very seldom.

 

Me: Thank you, Did you have regular bowel movements when you were 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw for your 3 month period?

CC: No, Actually I did not, Funny I had forgotten that. After 2 days I still had to rely on laxatives. Now I remember I still had difficulty.

Me: Thank you, Can you tell me in a statement what you really want to experience health wise.

CC: I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.

 

Me: Thank you, How does it feel to hear the statement?

CC: Excellent.

 

Me: Thank you, Can you feel that in the body? is there a place where you can feel how it would feel in your body if you were already in that place?

CC : NO, Should I?

 

Me: Thank you, Sometimes you can feel the truth and the desire of the statement in the body, and you cab have a reaction that comes when we hear and make certain statements. A particular thought or certain circumstances or people can also cause our body to react. If fact our bodies react and alter and talk to us all the time but we need to be tuned in to realize it and be aware of it. It’s a non verbal communication that is available to us at all times, and that can guide us to an easier way of doing things.

CC: OK, No I did not feel anything

 

ME : Ok, That just fine. I can teach you how you can feel the communication with in your body so you can read it like a book. That can come later.

With your statement in your mind, “I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.” Can you tell me why that statement is important to you?

CC: Life is special and we should hold it as a gift

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that important to you?

CC: We are so unique and special

 

Me: Thank you, What lies under that, why is that important to you?

CC: We have a unique connection to the earth and its energy and that is special.

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that specially important to you?

CC: We are part of the universe and I want and like to feel connected to the earth and universe, I like to feel I belong to a bigger picture and be connected.

 

Me: Thank you, Great, that was excellent.

So How would it feel If I added in that being connected to your key statement,

I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements and feel really connected.

CC: Oh spot on, that’s sounds better. Really excellent, that’s what I want.

 

Me: To investigate further I want to delve deeper into what you have on Wine if your willing to play.

CC: Yes sure, I’m curious.

 

Me: So What do you have on Wine CC ?

CC: I like the act of pouring the wine, I admire the ritual and cultures involved.

I only like nice wine, which has become a narrow field, only certain grapes, I now only like the Sauvignon Blanc, its not the bottle shape or label, but there are distinctive fragrances that I like to understand what they are from, what variety of fruits etc. It’s a lovely ritual. The glass, the fragrance, its all rather special.

My very first experience with wine was when I was 16. It was a works do and it was a posh evening, and we all got some wine, and I had never experienced wine at home or before. This was all such an occasion, how we were served the wine, asked if we liked it, I felt seen, acknowledged, included and respected and all grown up. It was such a wonderful memorable occasion.

The second time was on a date with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it was a lovely bottle of wine and again I felt special, noticed, seen and attended to. It was another great occasion.

 

Me: Thank you, How about Now what do you have on wine?

CC: When I have wine now it really is only a few times and it’s a time to sit and relax and share with people I can have a good conversation with. I feel included and that I belong, the conversations are great and I love to sit and share and connect with these people, its an occasion once or most twice a week.

 

Me: Thank you. Can you begin to see the link here? The need for wine has been calling you to the connection that you also said that was so important to you in your statement for how you want to feel health wise.

The importance of the occasion, feeling part of a tribe and being noticed all of these are a connection and being seen and attended to, a safety and an ability to survive. That is what connection is for all of us.

 

There is lot more we can do here but this is an insight as to one of the reasons you are drawn to the ritual and remembering the experiences, of savoring wine in good company.

Working with me you can begin to change your perspective towards what you thought was out of your control. If you respect that the wine has been guiding you to creating a better connection. The way I work is that I help you to gain a much better soul connection with yourself so you can tune in and connect with your self when ever and where ever you want to, and then what I always find is, that when we have fulfilled these personal needs and these Missing nutrients are in place from our own personal needs, the need for the external fulfillment slowly and gently disappears be that food or in your case the wine.

 

Learning how to find a real connection and being appreciated is the key to our balance and happiness. We can replace the need for external things such as overeating or in your case the wine as a route for connection. This is what I guide you to feel for yourself and you how to do in every situation of your life, for example in the key 5 areas: health, family, relationships, work, socially as well as with yourself alone. ( spirituality ) I work with body language and non verbal communication to find your CENTER so that you don’t need or want to match other peoples vibration, but you can stay in your own beautiful vibration, the one that works for you. When you have managed to stay inside your own vibration in these 5 areas you have mastered your own Body Wisdom and you can recognize yourself in the blink of an eye.

Does that sound interesting to you?

 

CC: Yes it does, I’m fascinated and really ready to take all of this from a different perspective now, Thank you so much, that was fascinating.

ME: Thank you, I would be very happy to work with you.

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

Why can’t I stay on my Raw Food Diet? Why do I always dip in and out, cheat and stray from what I know is best for me?

Emotional Eating

Will power simply does not work for me any more.

 Do you ever have the feeling that its just too hard, or you cant get the feeling and the energy you had to begin with. Eating in a certain way like staying on a raw food diet can be very rewarding, and it can also cause us to look deeper at what is unconsciously sabotaging our hardest and best efforts to remain eating healthy and adding in more raw food.

I have been there and I totally understand. I remember saying to myself “ why can she do it so easily and not me?”

I so wanted to be happy for everyone who said they found it easy, to stick to a raw food diet and get all the benefits. I said I was happy for them. But deep down, my heart was sinking. I thought: “How come she can do it and I can’t? What’s wrong with me?”

As it turns out, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. I just had to learn a few more things to make that leap and experience to stay on a healthy diet and ditch the crisps ( that was my vice )

And I had to make few sacrifices.

Let’s be honest. Feeling great about yourself and keeping to the plan comes at a cost.  I had to acknowledge the grieving process ( sorry crisps _ I’m dumping you, were over ) and establish some new more joyful ground rules for myself. As will power simply was not working for me any more.

Here is what I had to sacrifice to go from feeling “That will do” to being able to value myself and what I deserved really, to get to feeling fabulous about myself, I have everything I deserved, quality over quantity and believe that more was available too, I had the energy I desired, I was clear about who I was and what I wanted and be, and I was proud of how I did it every day and beyond. (And if breakthrough is something you desire, you will need to make some sacrifices too).

I had a client recently who was on a similar journey that demonstrates this perfectly. Each and every one of us is different, made up from all sorts of different life experiences that are all unique to us. So every route is different, no two people are the same, so every call I do would reflect what ever you are experiencing. This is an example of a call that demonstrates my style of coaching to help you to get clear fro your self your desires and what is unconsciously stopping you.

Transcript of a recent coaching call.

This lovely lady had contacted me as she was concerned that she had chosen to take her better diet seriously and eating more raw food. She had succeeded for over 6 years adding in more raw food and green juices and smoothies, and yet still fell off her path and was craving and drawn to drinking wine and eating chocolate, and afterwards she really hated what she had done and was cross with herself.

She was wanting to find a way to help her to maintain her high raw world eating plan and not be drawn to such foods and drinks. I hear this rather a lot and thee the discovery path that it takes up off on. Although for some of us one or two glasses of wine a week in a social setting would not seem a problem, for this lady it really was and she was cross with herself, so it was my task to find out why and see what was the reason for the indulgences and what we could do about it and perceive the action in a different way. Here is a basic transcript from our session.

I started to ask her some questions to discover more.

Me: What is driving you to eat more raw food?

CC: My idea is that I will feel better if I eat more raw, I have 1 or 2 green juices a day and eat plenty of vegetables and only occasionally eat fish. (only in social settings when the host is adamant they made it for me) I have done a period of 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw food and I felt great.

 

Me: Thank you. Any thing else,

CC: Yes 2 years ago I suffered from a bout of serious constipation and ended up with an anal fissure and was in hospital for a while. To cut a long story short I now have to take laxatives every day. I really don’t like taking these laxatives.

I believe raw food will help my condition and help me to stay regular.

 

Me: Thank you, What is your main fear?

CC: I want to be mobile and flexible, I do yoga and it helps me get stronger and stay mobile. I like to be independent and keep myself mobile, It scares me that I may have to be defendant on anyone else later on.

I was told that my bowels are weak and don’t really work well.

 

Me: Thank you. I can see your driving force to upgrade your diet and take personal responsibility. Can you tell me when do you drink wine or eat chocolate?

CC: I drink wine when we get together as a group and we sit down and chat and share, usually about once a week sometimes twice. I only occasionally drink a glass with my husband on special occasions. Afterwards I am really cross with myself and beat myself up terribly, I feel terrible about having had a drink. I am so fearful that it weakens my bowels further, and causes my constipation to be worse and that Ill end up in Hospital or worse. As for chocolate its only ever 80{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} and only 2 squares max and very seldom.

 

Me: Thank you, Did you have regular bowel movements when you were 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} raw for your 3 month period?

CC: No, Actually I did not, Funny I had forgotten that. After 2 days I still had to rely on laxatives. Now I remember I still had difficulty.

Me: Thank you, Can you tell me in a statement what you really want to experience health wise.

CC: I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.

 

Me: Thank you, How does it feel to hear the statement?

CC: Excellent.

 

Me: Thank you, Can you feel that in the body? is there a place where you can feel how it would feel in your body if you were already in that place?

CC : NO, Should I?

 

Me: Thank you, Sometimes you can feel the truth and the desire of the statement in the body, and you cab have a reaction that comes when we hear and make certain statements. A particular thought or certain circumstances or people can also cause our body to react. If fact our bodies react and alter and talk to us all the time but we need to be tuned in to realize it and be aware of it. It’s a non verbal communication that is available to us at all times, and that can guide us to an easier way of doing things.

CC: OK, No I did not feel anything

 

ME : Ok, That just fine. I can teach you how you can feel the communication with in your body so you can read it like a book. That can come later.

With your statement in your mind, “I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements.” Can you tell me why that statement is important to you?

CC: Life is special and we should hold it as a gift

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that important to you?

CC: We are so unique and special

 

Me: Thank you, What lies under that, why is that important to you?

CC: We have a unique connection to the earth and its energy and that is special.

 

Me: Thank you, Why is that specially important to you?

CC: We are part of the universe and I want and like to feel connected to the earth and universe, I like to feel I belong to a bigger picture and be connected.

 

Me: Thank you, Great, that was excellent.

So How would it feel If I added in that being connected to your key statement,

I want to feel happy in my skin, to have all the energy I want, to be mobile and flexible and have regular easy bowel movements and feel really connected.

CC: Oh spot on, that’s sounds better. Really excellent, that’s what I want.

 

Me: To investigate further I want to delve deeper into what you have on Wine if your willing to play.

CC: Yes sure, I’m curious.

 

Me: So What do you have on Wine CC ?

CC: I like the act of pouring the wine, I admire the ritual and cultures involved.

I only like nice wine, which has become a narrow field, only certain grapes, I now only like the Sauvignon Blanc, its not the bottle shape or label, but there are distinctive fragrances that I like to understand what they are from, what variety of fruits etc. It’s a lovely ritual. The glass, the fragrance, its all rather special.

My very first experience with wine was when I was 16. It was a works do and it was a posh evening, and we all got some wine, and I had never experienced wine at home or before. This was all such an occasion, how we were served the wine, asked if we liked it, I felt seen, acknowledged, included and respected and all grown up. It was such a wonderful memorable occasion.

The second time was on a date with my boyfriend when I was 20 and it was a lovely bottle of wine and again I felt special, noticed, seen and attended to. It was another great occasion.

 

Me: Thank you, How about Now what do you have on wine?

CC: When I have wine now it really is only a few times and it’s a time to sit and relax and share with people I can have a good conversation with. I feel included and that I belong, the conversations are great and I love to sit and share and connect with these people, its an occasion once or most twice a week.

 

Me: Thank you. Can you begin to see the link here? The need for wine has been calling you to the connection that you also said that was so important to you in your statement for how you want to feel health wise.

The importance of the occasion, feeling part of a tribe and being noticed all of these are a connection and being seen and attended to, a safety and an ability to survive. That is what connection is for all of us.

 

There is lot more we can do here but this is an insight as to one of the reasons you are drawn to the ritual and remembering the experiences, of savoring wine in good company.

Working with me you can begin to change your perspective towards what you thought was out of your control. If you respect that the wine has been guiding you to creating a better connection. The way I work is that I help you to gain a much better soul connection with yourself so you can tune in and connect with your self when ever and where ever you want to, and then what I always find is, that when we have fulfilled these personal needs and these Missing nutrients are in place from our own personal needs, the need for the external fulfillment slowly and gently disappears be that food or in your case the wine.

 

Learning how to find a real connection and being appreciated is the key to our balance and happiness. We can replace the need for external things such as overeating or in your case the wine as a route for connection. This is what I guide you to feel for yourself and you how to do in every situation of your life, for example in the key 5 areas: health, family, relationships, work, socially as well as with yourself alone. ( spirituality ) I work with body language and non verbal communication to find your CENTER so that you don’t need or want to match other peoples vibration, but you can stay in your own beautiful vibration, the one that works for you. When you have managed to stay inside your own vibration in these 5 areas you have mastered your own Body Wisdom and you can recognize yourself in the blink of an eye.

Does that sound interesting to you?

 

CC: Yes it does, I’m fascinated and really ready to take all of this from a different perspective now, Thank you so much, that was fascinating.

ME: Thank you, I would be very happy to work with you.

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

Fed up with feeling so tired all the time?

I am SO fed up with feeling SO tired?

It feels so brain numbing to be so tired all the time doesn’t it. If your feeling unwell and just dog tired, then no mater what it is then everything else has to wait until your feeling right again. It’s like playing a game and that is the trump card, and no matter how you feel about your job, your relationship, your body image or your finances, you will do nothing about it until you feel well again and have the feeling you can really cope with it, and that means not feeling so god damn tired and sluggish all the time.

Do you ever get the feeling that day after day, month after month, you are becoming more and more tired and with no change in sight. Your body feels heavy and you’ve tried everything you can think of and yet you still feel so tired and weary. In fact you feel more tired than you can ever remember. You could literally sleep at the drop of a hat. Whats going on? What’s happening?

Oh, I know only to well how this feels and I bet its driving you just as crazy as it drove me. You’ve tried taking supplements, you’ve tried removing gluten ( as best you could ) You’ve tried all the juices, smoothies and high protein bars, yet still this worn out and empty feeling haunts your every single day. You wake up and still feel tired, your sleep is not restoring you. You take exercise and that just leaves you aching and unable to function. Now your worried there is something really wrong with you, but your too scared to find out.

I understand all of this only too well. Its not your fault. It really isn’t.

When I was in my management position in a firm of highly motivated sales executives, running my own team I got myself into a place that was just not working for me any more. And that is an understatement. I did not know it then, but my body was screaming at me to STOP, to take a different route and change my perspective. Many people, myself included at this stage look to leave their jobs and then have the added worry of then what?

So we stay put and get worn out even further, until we cannot function in any recognizable shape of form.

What I have come to learn from my crash and burn experiences, is that it is actually quite easy to make some vital and life saving changes, that will see you get a real feeling of being able to cope, and have the feeling of being clear and feeling lighter and brighter in a very short space of time. I am so glad that I have taken the time to learn about these, as I only repeated the same theme and routine at any new job I had, even when I became self employed I repeated the same patterns. It is a pleasure for me now to share and guide people through, and unravel the circumstances and situations that drag us down, making us feel heavy and extraordinarily tired.

I personally have the tendency to get overwhelmed and think I can cope with everything that comes my way, I am a loyal employee and don’t like to let people down, unless its myself that is. I never learnt how to look after myself, I mean really look after myself I’m not talking about earning a living, feeding and housing myself, and caring for my family, my pets and maintaining a home. I’m talking about caring for myself like the best and only friend I ever had. What I learnt took me years of ups and downs and even every now and then I h=get trapped and stretched to the max and then I wake up and realise there is another way. Once I jump off the merry go round, I breathe again and light comes back to my body and the tiredness eases away and I feel uplifted and really supported.

It the greatest thing I have ever learnt. I have looked to food to heal me and people to care for me, yet there I was all along ready willing and able to care for myself, in ways that I was never taught. Its so miraculous when you finally get it and start putting into action what I am talking about. Simple steps that push the reset buttons and keep your engine fuelled so that you feel that the long days are manageable, so that you feel you can enjoy social events, Your temper and irritation at others evens out, You feel that your weight balances out naturally without any effort on your part, You instinctively know when to leave your work and go home without any guilt, You feel able to control your eating habits and food cravings, You feel you just know who would be good for you in a relationship or interview situation, You feel you are able to be the mother you would most admire and so much more

If you are more than curious and want to know more, and want support through these tough times there are just 2 things to do:

  1. Jump on a free call with me to untangle the situation that’s making you so tired and weary (http://fionarobertson.simplybook.me/sheduler/manage/event/1/unit/1/)
  2. Make a commitment to yourself that things are going to change for the better and very, very soon.

How to take care of your energy

Taking great care of your Energy

Taking Great care of your own Energy
Taking Great care of your own Energy

For me Energy has become everything. What I mean by that is not just my physical energy but my mental energy too. My thoughts, beliefs and energetic charge i.e. how I choose to feel today, in this very moment matters to me.

So when I ask you how do you feel? Maybe you’ll first consider how your day is going, and you’ll relay to me what you have noticed, maybe all the things that went wrong from the moment you woke up. Humans ( sorry but this is true ) have a tendency to concentrate on the negative unless we have been taught that we can focus on the positive. Our media know this only too well, and has set about feeding us with the most dramatic and negative stories every day. The drama of life sells papers and TV and radio stations need their audience, and seeing as the general population are concentrating on the negative most of the time. This is not you of course, you’ve seen the light and already know that you want to feel way better that you do today.
I live in France now and have not watched the News on purpose for over 15 years now. Last winter when I tuned into a News broadcast because I wanted see the snow fall in an old area where I used to live to see the scenery again. I could not believe the tone of voice and the negative connotations from all the snow fall. More recently I watched a David Attenborough nature series with my two boys and there was that voice again, “will the baby survive, will it get eaten”, “will the predator be able to feed its family?”. There was that familiar tone of voice and negative words surrounding what was a beautiful story. This was the first time I had even noticed it, as I was so used to hearing the tone that it washed over me. But this time I chose not to be drawn down the fearful path the narrator was taking me.

This is just a small example. Our energy is everything and we can choose at any point to have a good day, to eat well and have a better relationship with those around us.
On a funny note I wanted to share that I noticed myself that when I was in certain peoples company I have chosen to eat and drink differently my food choices have been heavier in certain company. When I am drawn to choose to eat heavier foods or drink a glass of wine, I can ask myself if I am reacting to someone else’s energy, now I can see the link and have chosen to stay in my higher vibration. You too can get aware of the energy in your vicinity and know if its an energy you want to sink into or lift out of.
When I coach people I really listen to what they say and repeat it back to them, their habitual inner talk is my guide, we all have it and it is effectively bringing us either up or down vibration energy wise.

Are you curios to experience more energy and a feeling of being lighter and brighter, to benefit from the increase of energy, so you don’t feel tired and exhausted, but can have more energy to work with. I am offering you a “10 Essential Tips to Boost your Energy guide” and a FREE 30 minute session with me to experience the energy you really want to live in and have access to every day?.

My job is to help you to have a better energy, physically and mentally to feel lighter and brighter in every sense of the word. I concentrate on Weight loss and having more energy, and I have happily taught about detoxing, nutrition and raw food for the past 10 years. What I have have noticed is that when we detox we naturally get a much higher and more positive energy, and when we eat heavy foods they muddy the waters somewhat, we lose our connection and cannot seem to find our true selves, or articulate what we really feel, resulting in heavier feelings and sometimes mild depression symptoms, feeling tired and shutting off from the world.
Our energy responds to what we put into and onto our bodies as well as our thoughts, our surroundings, perceptions and beliefs. So energy is everything.

One amazing way to get your energy to vibrate at a higher more positive, lighter brighter setting is to literally decide to only notice the good things in life and be grateful about them.

When I coach people with their energy levels it is rarely all about what and how they eat, that is the symptom of their overall energy. Our bodies are a true representation of our energy. I set tasks and themes for the week that raise the vibration and the energy starts to rise and so in turn does the choice of what, how and why we eat.

I can literally get you to be drawn to better choices food and activities, to be responsive to your own energy and what your body physically and mentally needs, rather than what it has been habitually conditioned to for the protection of self.

It is a passion of mine to watch people change and transform into a totally other person who shines and is aware of how they feel and choices life very differently than before. When I was younger my favorite job was to polish the silver, ( a silver teapot to the initials RR, an old family heirloom) I loved watching the dark grey be rubbed off and the bright silver shining through, I wished there was a way to preserve the tea pot from tarnishing again. But I knew that it would get tarnished again pretty soon, if it was not regularly cared for. Sloppy thinking and choices will tarnish you and so it is important to make a decision to keep shining as bright as you can.

One thing I know for sure when you shine and have a higher vibration to your energy, you feel so much better, life, situations seem lighter and not so serious and wonderful things start to happen, people are helpful, situations turn around faster and with ease. I know how I want to live and what kind of energy I prefer to be around.

Are you curios to experience more energy and a feeling of being lighter and brighter, to benefit from the increase of energy, so you don’t feel tired and exhausted, but can have more energy to work with. I am offering you a “10 Essential Tips to Boost your Energy guide” and a FREE 30 minute session with me to experience the energy you really want to live in and have access to every day?.

 

How to detox the liver naturally

Home Detox Box

HOW TO DETOX THE LIVER NATURALLY

There are a few poignant times throughout the year that will benefit us for the rest of the year if we take a few valuable days off to invest in ourselves with a cleanse, to RE SET our digestive and hormone systems. A cleanse and detox will especially help the liver, which in turn will enhance our energy, and help us to look younger and reduce the weight we have gained over the winter season.

The age-old question needs to be answered every time as a reminder as to why we beed to help our liver with a period of detoxification.  The liver also needs to be in proper working order for the continued detoxification of our bodies on a daily basis to be successful.  Think of your liver as the body’s vacuum cleaner.  We all know what it is like if our vacuum cleaner is not working up to par.  For example, think of your age today and then consider that you have been using the same liver/vacuum cleaner all these years without changing the bag.  We all know too well if you do not tend to the needs of your vacuum the mess it can make of our carpet and the air around you.

We are all exposed to toxins everywhere and every day. The foods we eat, and yes even the air we breathe, and even our metabolism. These toxins cause irritation and inflammation throughout our bodies. We have always been exposed to toxic substances, but now it is worse than it has ever been.

The Chemical Society’s Chemical Abstracts every year lists approximately 6,000 new chemicals, which add up to more than 300,000 new chemicals each year. We consume, on an average of 14 pounds of food additives, including colorings, preservatives, flavorings, emulsifiers, and antimicrobials every year. The EPA estimated that 70,000 chemicals were commonly used in pesticides, foods, and drugs in 1990. Between January 2007 through June 2008, the EPA received 1,724 new chemicals to review for approval. Meaning there are more and more chemicals we have no idea how they will react with our bodies that we had even a year ago.

There are more than one billion tons of pesticides recorded to be used in the United States alone every year, and the UK and Europe are not far behind. The average person will be exposed to 100 synthetic chemicals every day. People ( although I am sure if your reading this you are all too aware ) do not understand that the shampoo, deodorant, cleaning products, gas for our car, hair dye, cosmetics, lotions, dishwashing soap, pesticides all play a crucial role in the toxins we put in our bodies, and the list goes on and on. OK ! I’m shouting now that enough negativity, what can we do about our lovely liver? To appreciate what it does and how we can help it

So let’s now talk about some of what the liver does. The liver is a vital contributing factor in hormonal imbalances, metabolizes proteins, fats, and carbohydrates, thus providing energy and nutrients, stores vitamins, minerals, and sugars. It filters our blood and helps to remove harmful chemicals and bacteria. The liver creates bile, which breaks down fats, and creates blood proteins that helps to maintain fluid balance and act as carriers. It stores extra blood that can be quickly released when needed. The liver helps to assimilate and store fat-soluble vitamins. Helps to maintain electrolyte and water balance, and provides blood-clotting factors. It breaks down ammonia created in the colon by bacteria and thus prevents death. This factor is quite essential don’t you think? The liver helps to maintain our blood pressure as well as builds 50,000 systems of enzymes to oversee metabolic functions throughout the body. The liver also removes damaged red blood cells. The liver converts the thyroid hormone thyroxin (T4) into a more active form triiodothyronine (T3), and inadequate regeneration can lead to hypothyroidism, chronic fatigue, weight gain, poor memory and other degenerative conditions. It creates GTF from chromium, niacin and possibly glutathione. GTF properly regulates blood-sugar levels. This is just a few of the many things the liver does for our bodies.

I thought this was such a compelling factor but did you know that the liver produces many hormones especially in the mid life ages when a women sto[s producing hormones in here ovaries. And if the liver is over is overburdened it cannot do its job properly, so in turn we become imbalanced in our hormones which has many ramifications on our mood, energy levels, how we age, confidence, emotions as well as weight gain.

Changing the simple factors, which you can control, like changing your diet to include certain foods known to help assist the liver will help enormously as well as doing occasional internal cleansing for your liver and other organs can help heal your liver, so it can start functioning on optimum output again. Diet and lifestyle hold the keys to controlling many of our hormone levels, as well as other aspects of our health.

Well if, this does not make you want to give your liver some TLC, then I do not know what will. The liver has the wondrous ability of regenerating itself. If we misuse our liver and start treating it, as we should, it will then start to heal. I for one have seen the results and think that is terrific news, well worth spreading.

I personally detox twice a year with a week long detox, cleansing the digestive system which in turn cleanses the liver and helps to Re Set my Hormone system.  Only once the colon is clear can the liver really cleanse, as it needs somewhere to dump the debris and so if the colon in full it will unfortunately make you very sick, literally vomit. Which I think you will agree you want to avoid at all costs…..Not Nice.

Even although I consume many vegetables, fermented foods every day, I still like to cleanse as it gives my body a complete rest and purges all the debris I have consumed via food or via fumes, and my environment. The liver is also known as the seat of anger and so it stores emotions such as Anger, so when we cleanse it is a good idea to do some personal development work to help clear away these emotions too. Everyone needs a regular purge on these emotions as we are surrounded by many images and relationships that cross our boundaries daily.

I offer intuitive and holistic coaching to people who are detoxing and using the Home Detox Box, as often they find it can be an emotional journey and bring up some food habits that they had long since overcome, but the emotions are still stuck and in need of clearing away too,

I had one lady who had binged as a youngster and was almost considered anorexic and 30 years later she told me that she had memories and was very emotional about the whole history of that time and why she was using binging and her eating disorder as a way of getting attention when she was young.

I love this type of work and have a special compassion for anyone with an eating disorder and habitually using food to overcome a missing nutrient that they don’t know how to communicate

I am offering a FREE FOCUSSING SESSION for anyone who wants to explore how a detox can help them, and who needs some support with a detox and emotional eating and re setting their digestion and hormone systems.

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Why am I so tired?

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WHY AM I ALWAYS TIRED?

In the life where everything must be faster and faster, our fast-paced and hectic society is demanding more form us that we can realistically give. Our need for bodily energy is being pushed to the maximum. Yet, despite all the remedies we have for “lack of energy”––remedies like pills, energy drinks, coffee, etc. Our energy levels are actually going down and we are feeling depleted and defeated. Our focus and alertness also seem to be in short supply. Instead, many people complain of a serious lack of energy. Which has led many to ask the question, “Why am I always tired?”

There can be a number of way’s I could answer that question. Many people just do not get enough sleep. We have busy lives with work schedules, family schedules and trying to find personal time, leaving just a few precious hours of the day which is exclusively for sleeping. For many others, the very things you’ve done to combat your lack of energy may be responsible for robbing you of your energy. And for some, it could be a fundamental flaw in the way you provide your body with energy: Poor diet, stress and lack of proper quality rest.

So if I make a very long story short, our lifestyles would not seem to be particularly conducive to an abundance of energy.

There are plenty of specialists, life hackers, bloggers, gurus and authors with tips on de-cluttering your life, finding time for yourself, organizing your world, etc. Ultimately though, it is up to you to find a balance in your life. Everyone of course knows, that they should be getting the number of hours that would be enough sleep for them. Everyone also knows that excessive caffeine interferes with sleep. You yourself have to find a balance there, too. Knowing you need to find a balance or re-organize your lifestyle in a healthy way is one thing; actually doing it is another. Ultimately, no one can fix that but you.

It is common knowledge that caffeine and other stimulants cause crashes, leaving you feeling more lethargic than you were before. Fewer people however know that long terms usage of caffeine and stimulants can cause “adrenal fatigue”, which leaves you with a consistent feeling of fatigue. With coffee shops on every corner, and companies selling energy drinks posting record sales, You really have to wonder about most peoples bodies and how there are being affected by worn out adrenals.

But perhaps the most important thing many people fall short on is their diet and nutritional needs. Ironically, many people may be eating the “right” food, and still not feeling the energy they think they should feel. Many people may be doing what they presume to be all the right things––the right diet, consistent exercise, plenty of sleep, etc.––but they can’t figure out why they still don’t feel “right”.

If this is you, it may be a good time to give yourself the chance of a KICK START. Your energy and digestive system will thank you a chance to detox and cleanse all your organs and down to your cellular systems so that they can re build themselves, and have much stronger foundations form now on.

Our body just needs 3 days to re set itself and that can be done with a simple detox at home. All our physical cravings for sugar and stimulants will disappear after 3 days and we will be re-newed.

Our digestive system is home to the fascinating millions of colonies of bacteria, that can either balance out your energy or take it all away. What affects this bacteria is what we consume. These too can all be re balanced by a short detox period, just 3 days of drinking high fibre shakes (which the good healthy bacteria love) taking digestive enzymes and probiotics to correct the balance in the colonies of gut bacteria into the better ratio and you will be feeling in top of the world again.

Many people who do on this short detox find relief from many health problems that they had been putting up with for years, Others find that they feel better than they ever have before.

If you’ve tried everything to feel energized and still feel tired, then a long weekend following the Home Detox Box, resting and drinking will put you in a much better place.

Within the Home Detox Box you will receive your high fiber for your digestive cleanse drinks, Enzymes and Probiotics to take daily and some recipes to follow once you have finished the 3 days cleanse. The building up after the cleanse and detox is just as important as the digestive cleanse itself. This is where I can educate you about live probiotic and cultured foods, raw food and how to add in more fibre into your daily intake. All these will make a huge difference to your gut health.

I am here to support you with coaching programs with food that nurses your soul, and ways that you can feel delicious in your own body that make you tingle to the end of every finger tip and toe.

If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me.

Detox is just the right thing to do

The history of fasting goes back thousands of years.

Philosophers, scientists, and physicians have used it as a healing process to cure sicknesses. Ancient yogis have known about the positive effects of internal cleansing for thousands of years. Their internal cleansing methods include: fasting, colon cleansing, enemas and pure raw food. Many religions, including Christianity, Judaism, and Eastern religions used and still use fasting as a healing process for spiritual purification and communion with God. Fasting affects not only our physical being, but our mental, emotional, and spiritual self as well.
When we need to recharge, we take a break from life and go on vacation. When our body needs cleansing, fasting is time away from food. Both methods of withdrawal from normal routine help us get back in touch with what our bodies need.

So since the beginning, fasting…the avoidance all food and drinking only water…has been practiced by almost every serious spiritual community.  Not so in our time, now I take up the banner to re-educate you about these simple facts. It is as true is it is rare, that we actually seldom ever choose cleanse or fast just for the fun of it.  For most, it is the last thing that can be labelled as fun, yet millions of people all over the world are cleansing, fasting, or both. Why?

Even if it has been well established that millions and millions of people all over the world have been cleansing for thousands of years, but you still may be asking yourself, why on earth should I do a cleanse? Aren’t you even curious how you would feel or how you will look after experiencing a short fast?
The answer to why would anyone fast and cleanse, is a very simple one; it helps remove the obstacles that interfere with health: mental health, emotional health, and physical health.

Fasting and cleansing

Fasting and cleansing, when done properly, will have an amazing ability to clear out the causes of health issues and bring people back to a high state of health and well-being.  Nothing, absolutely nothing, compares to this amazing natural process. It is a very simple and quick process where people are amazed with the great effectiveness of the intestinal cleanse.  Cleansing, when done properly, speeds us forward spiritually by clearing the pathways of love, joy and clarity.  Cleansing helps us see what very few people have ever seen; it helps us become aware of things that generally remain unknown to the public.

Cleansing is remarkable in that it touches us on every level. When we open up and realize that the primary causes of our health issues are unconscious emotional programs, toxicity and acids, we then begin to see why cleansing works so brilliantly.

When cleansing, we always see a major improvement in our attitudes, feelings and our outlook on life.  Our newfound positive attitude strengthens our genetic structure. Our emotions and attitudes can alter our DNA and this is already recognised by science.

We can improve our nutritional intake by improving our digestion and what we are able to absorb. Intestinal cleansing will do far more for you than a water fast, as it will remove Mucoid plaque which is a major cause of nutrition deficiency. Cleansing will drastically reduce congestion and inflammation.

I have to say this; why would you waste your money on products that cannot cleanse you deeply?  If we are going to go the trouble of cleansing, why mess around with something that is superficial?  A tablet or capsule, that promises to cleanse our liver or clear out waste are usually no more than a laxative. Be very careful.

When we cleanse, we are always cleansing our vital organs such as the liver. It is a big mistake to try and cleanse the liver, gallbladder, the blood, etc. before cleansing the intestines. Here is why: The intestines feed the cells of our body by transporting its nutrients into the Portal Veins, which carries them directly to the liver.  When the intestines are full of old waste, most likely months old and really putrefied, the blood will be filthy and the liver has to then process the nutrients and whatever toxins are in that blood.  As long as the liver has to process bowel toxins it cannot effectively process its own toxins.  (so long as it is busy with what you consumed today or last week or month, it can never remove stored toxins such as from vaccines, pesticides or parasites, etc) Trying to clean the liver before cleansing the intestines is like trying to clean your toilet but never actually flushing it. It overflows and becomes a nasty problem. It simply can’t be done effectively.

The small intestines are the most important organ in our body to keep clean, for every other organ and cell depends upon the small intestines for its survival; they’re far more important than the colon.  We can live without a colon, but we cannot live without the small intestines.  It is the job of the small intestines to fully digest and assimilate the food we eat.  The colon is mainly a holding area for food until it is time to be eliminated.  The small intestines are extremely important to cleanse and keep in good shape, yet most people have developed problems in all the intestines, including the colon.  So, it is important to use a cleanse that can remove accumulated toxicity and mucoid plaque from the small intestine as well as the colon.  Here the Home Detox Box will do the job and help you to remove old putrefied waste from your small intestines as well as your colon. It works.

The end Result:

A person who has followed the cleanse properly should notice an amazing new level of energy, clarity, a new level of well-being, noticeable improvements in appearance (how you look), and the tone and colour of the skin (less wrinkles).  They should notice significant improvements in various health issues ranging from one end to the other, improvement in digestion and bowel movements, increased stamina, major improvement in attitude, love and joy, and a new awareness of things.

Some will notice an improvement in eyesight, in memory, increased flow of urine, major loss of weight in people who had been overweight etc.  There will also be improvements in areas that we cannot see, such as improvement in the immune function, and one could experience the elimination of fertility issues.  The list of positive benefits goes on and on. When our bodies make such profound improvements, our whole body functions better.  As a result, I firmly believe that we will have increased our life span and build a new shield-like condition that wards off many potential health problems.

RAW food and Eating with Feeling

What a perfect time of year to consider what and how we eat. When the festive season seems to be all about what we eat. Then we have the guilt of what we ate, yet we carry on eating, and worry about the consequences. If it were as simple as eat less and exercise more then we would all be fit as fiddles, However I suggest that were not and were all still craving more energy in every working day and at night time turning to food to comfort us.

My recent and most burning question has been, why do we comfort eat?

For many of you, my self included eating is a function, a practical part of the day, a distraction and has been used as a form of entertainment. A social norm to help us reach a goal if that is to feel full, give us an energy boost, to warm us up or just a habit formed from learnt patterns, eating at set times even if were not actually hungry. Wow the more I delve into this subject the more these seems to be conditioning about what and how we eat.

With a few mindful changes we can all start to change our relationship with food. Yes we all have one, a relationship with ourselves and with the food we eat.
Have you heard it said “ How we are with something is how we are with everything”. Let me explain. What I have noticed for myself and with my coaching clients is that how we are with our food and our style of eating is actually how we are with everything. For example if we are confused so will our eating habits be. If we are functional and practical we will be equally functional in our relationship with our food, and also if we are obsessive so will our diets and regimes of eating be and all our relationships.

Don’t get me wrong I think I love food and eating it, but seldom these days have I really, really enjoyed my food to the extent that I can relish the idea of eating a meal. The flavor, the texture, taste and smell of a good meal. That to for everyone is quite different. So I have taken myself off on a journey to re discover what I really like with no rules to follow, no good and bad foods, no must or must not have lists of super healthy foods. I am un-conditioning myself. I am going for foods that attract me, be they Raw, cooked, sweet, savory, sour, spicy, delicious or bland or my typical comfort family favorites, that enable me to feel full and somehow loved to my recent favorites of fasting, juices and really healthy options.

I listened to my body as she chose what was delicious for me. I listened to my body after I ate to see how she reacted to the food, and I considered the environment I had just eaten in, the atmosphere, the setting, my timing, and my thoughts.

I have discovered that I have naturally gravitated towards lighter foods at times and heavier foods at others. And If I felt the need for heavier foods due to extra stress in my outer world, with situations like leaving my home, separating from my partner, finding a new home and the prospect of moving. Then I have taken the foods that I felt at the time would fulfill me.

I have also made another huge change, I honour myself with my style of eating, I sit more comfortably, I set the table, I turn off the TV, shut off my ipad, don’t answer the phone and I actually look at the food I am about to consume. When I did my Reiki and energy healing course we were taught to bless our food, much the same as saying grace before we ate and I have brought this back into my eating routine too.

Getting back to the question of why do we comfort eat? My self discovery is that if we are continually mindless with our choices of what and how we eat we are out of control and not listening or enjoying what we consume.
To absorb any of our necessary nutrients we actually need to be relaxed and feel safe when we eat, or we are in flight or fight mode, our bodies are stressed and all the energy is going not to digesting our food, but to our muscles to get ready to run. Our digestion system actually shuts off. Now I think its funny how often I have eaten and been moving walking, driving, I eat really healthily and enjoy as I said before I love my Juices and healthy foods but I know now that I can feel that my body is far from enjoying them as I am sitting on the edge of my chair, or running out of the door with a juice in hand to drink whilst I drive or after yoga class.

This whole quest  to un-condition myself around my eating habits has brought about a remarkable change, in not WHAT I eat but HOW I eat. I am now mindful and really enjoying my food in a relaxed atmosphere and I can taste so much more.

Fiona Robertson: helping you on your QUEST to un condition your eating habits, lose weight, and really enjoy your food again.
What is the missing nutrient you need to stop you comfort eating?