Category: Weight loss

What Triggers Eating Disorders?

Today, on a cold snowy day, when all my son’s friends were gathering to go for a walk to be in the snow, I was startled by a situation that brought me back to a similar situation that I had had and I felt strongly compelled to warn one of the kids about.

My radar had been triggered and my intuition would not be quiet until I shared my insights, my story with this young lad.

A friend of my son is in a new relationship with a girl his age and they are inseparable which sounds sweet, until I found out that she is so jealous of his friends and especially other girls that she does not allow him out of her sight. She insists on joining in even when she does not like that activity or just stops this young boy from joining in with his friends alone.

Her possessiveness was causing problems with his friends and eventually I knew he would be shut off from all other social events if this continued.

You see I had some experience of this. A first when I met this young man, when I was 19, I was impressed and felt special and I have never experienced this kind of attention and so naturally I took it to mean love. That someone loved and cared for me so much and wanted to be around me all the time and keep me to himself.

However, Early on he found out I wrote to a boy in Munich, Germany that I had met through my family when a group of young Bavarians came to visit us and stay, and we had remained in communication. That had to now stop and I was threatened that if it did not we would end.

It seemed reasonable to me at first as we were going steady and well he liked me to be all his, so naturally I was flattered to have so much attention.

He asked me to stop wearing anything pink or any make up as he preferred me natural, so I did, feeling that I liked to please him.

However being me, because I liked make up I just put make up on when I as not with him or at work. If he checked up on me at work I took the make up off. This should have been a warning sign, but I was young so what ever; It seemed normal to me as I had little experience with Boys and not a great relationship with my Mum which he also increased the wedge between us further.

I wanted to move and buy and new house that was being built near by, and by this time my parents were separated and I was indeed alone with him and I did not believe I could afford to do it alone. I asked if he would live there too and he said only of we are married; So then we go married. I knew it was wrong but I was trapped and too far down the road to stop it all.

Once we were married his behaviour became worse, I had so many rules to follow and even down to what I could eat. He wanted me to look like his EX girlfriend who he raved about all the time. So he wanted me to be a lot slimmer, longer hair and blonde, tiny arms and legs and waist like Kyle Monogue. He called me names and made me feel small and useless.

We would go to parties at friends houses and he would tell me terrible stuff before we went in so I felt embarrassed and he threatened me if my behaviour was too flirty he would smash the guy and me later. He threatened me with concrete wellington boots at the bottom of the canal and as I ad no friends or family who would know or care. He has systematically shut off all routes to safety.

He asked about work and was always so suspicious if I mentioned any one of my male colleges, so I just stopped mentioning names. But there was a work Christmas party coming up and I wanted to go, I loved to dance and get dressed up.

I managed to present the Christmas event in such as way that I could go but I felt nervous all night. I felt watched and in fear of having a good time I refused to dance I would not put it past him to spy on me just to cause an argument and help his plan to make me feel smaller and more useless.

I started to notice that he talked a good talk about work and how tough he was and how he threaten certain people. He worked as a landscape gardener and once had to go to one of the houses to collect something and I was in the car outside but I could hear him talking. Before he went in he said I’m going to tell him what for and that he is a cheater and a liar and get the money he owes us.

I listened to their conversation and it seemed normal no high or loud voices; When he came back to the car he said what he had done and how he had shouted and threatened him. Weird I thought but said nothing. I started noticing that he was the crazy insecure one and that by making me feel small and get me to do things or be a certain way it made him feel manly and like a tough man.

I did not say anything as he had a temper and had been very, very unreasonable and hit me several times but the verbal abuse was just as bad. He pushed me down stairs and took things away from me.

If I ever smiled at someone or was friendly with a neighbour I was threatened, as I was apparently having an affair. His fear and actions were crazy. I told very few people about my home life and I had no contact with my family so I was alone; The friends who knew some of the situations were staying away a long way away from me and any trouble as they did not want to get caught up in any of this although he was charming to some he was vile to others.

I had to get out of this mess I had created for myself and as my Mum liked to say often when I was growing up, you made your bed now lye in it.

I made a decision, I would leave him. The time had to be right. I had to build a safe exit route, I had to get away without any further repercussions. I waited for an argument but it never seemed big or bad enough to use as an exit route. I waited for him to threaten or hit me but when he did it seemed not significant enough to leave for.

There was another Christmas party on the horizon and a friend of mine would come and collect me and we would go together.

Her Dad actually a client of mine in the business I was then in, came to collect me and drove us to the Complete Angler Hotel In Marlow, such a beautiful hotel.

I promised myself I would eng-$joy myself no matter what, laugh Dance and to shell with the consequences

I had such a lovely evening. My friends Dad dropped me off in the wee small hours and guess who was up? Questioning, playing the victim and accusing me of getting up to mischief. I wound myself up to a crescendo and exploded. I used that as the final straw.

I slept in the spare room and although I don’t think I did sleep much, I had made a stand. That was it no way back. He was always remorseful of his accusations and behaviour the next day so when he tried to make up I said it’s gone too far.

He cried and cried. But I was resolute. That week I found a flat and moved out and as It was Christmas planned a visit to my Mums to get away. I was skin and bone but so happy.

When I came back after Christmas I move into my new flat and the girl who had promised to help me was no where to be found, I as alone 15 car trips later I had moved out and although I had to leave my chocolate Labrador behind I was FREE.

The thing is as I write this today 30 + years on, I know that I still have dreams about being trapped with him. I dream I’ve gone back or still in that relationship and I am looking to escape.

It has had long lasting effects and even in ways you don’t imagine like my eating obsessions and desire to be thin, Self hate, poor self image, cruel self judgement, feeling all alone, not asking for help, waiting to be told off or punished for something that’s considered normal, like a fun conversation with someone. I know a lot of my eating disorder and desire to starve myself came from these days and as I face another trigger I am kinder and more gentle with myself and see the lesson and the huge gift from this personal but sad experience.

I am extremely sensitive to people and situations that feel off, and can detect a victim from a mile away. That vibration and self pity that leads to the bully tactics is so loud that I know I have a choice, to stay or go, and deal with it differently and hopefully head on.

I hope that for everyone in a relationship who finds themselves caught ‘between the devil and the deep blue sea’ you know that you get to chose, Maybe you have to be careful how you exit this relationship but you can do it. If I did so can you.

So much Love.

4 Sizes Smaller Wearing My New Identity

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SOS “I’m about to lose it all!!!” This week I received an SOS call from a very successful well-regarded lady who just had to tell someone. That she was about to lose it all. How could she admit that to everyone?

That she was about to lose it all and experience it all just vanish, her business name, all the assets, and programs, and have no access to her funds and investments from years of work. Everything had gone BAD and I feel I need to FIGHT even harder.

She had just 2 weeks to prepare a negotiation and fight for what she had worked hard for and created as her livelihood.

She was feeling so scared, desperate and angry and knew that she had to find a new way to survive. Our discussion went down a track that was guided for her with revealing questions and assisted her to see what was in fact happening, what had been created and how to handle it energetically, and rather than diving into the pain, suffering, and need to fight her way out what we saw was that she soared out of this situation. You cannot fight the situation back into peace.

You cannot do this with the same mind that created it. After the initial intensive preparation of 2 weeks, she was wearing her new identity. No longer desperate or angry or scared of the journey ahead, which would have only attracted more devastation, more fights, but instead with her true wit and humour and grace that revealed so much more than she ever expected.

“I came to you because I felt compelled to, it was like a strong craving that would not go away, you popped up in my mind again and again at the moments I needed solace and understanding. I had worked so hard and about to lose it all. But what happened next blew my mind. What I feel and know now is that it was meant to be.
I am back all the stronger for it, LOVING myself so profoundly, not only did I get a new angle on what and how I serve my people into the next phase, but I let go of so much more, including my old identity’s need for extra 4 dress sizes, as they represented what I was holding on to and fighting for, that was well and truly in the past. I am a completely new woman and I see now why you came into my life” “ Thank you”.
Amanda F.W. Blythe

That feeling that is currently terrifying you and about to rip your life apart, can you see it as a sign, an opportunity, a soul intervention for a new identity?

How would your old identity deal with this?

How will your NEW identity deal with this?

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Your Body Knows The Truth

Your Body Know The Truth

Even if you don’t…. Are you aware of your own body language?

Give yourself a moment to imagine this scenario …

You’ve just completed your last session after 6 months with your client. She has dramatically reduced her weight by 4 stone, but in addition to that, she has resolved her long-standing bad relationship with her Mum and can spend time with her without all the dramas and negativity affecting her, she tunes into the body language and chooses her body language.

She sees her Dad so completely different now and can talk to him normally without the stress and habitual anger welling up, therefore, leaving her free to enjoy her life, having so much less to worry about.

She saved her own skin and business from her now ex-business partner, who was just about to do the dirty on her, because she sensed her body language and his energy and linked the severe digestion problems and negotiated a release just before she lost everything.

She knows her body is more than something to be admired. It is her finely tuned intelligent ASSET that allows her to read and process information quickly, make decisions and know how to take care of her exquisite wellbeing. She reads her own body language accrrately

She is INTUITIVE and is acutely aware that her body responding to her environment and people in it, sending her warnings and she has a rock-solid daily practice to keep her re-patterned energy steady and in place.

You’ve LOVED every second of working with her and seeing the positive changes she has made to her daily life, as well as the grace and ease she now feels in her body.

But she’s not the only one, you’ve seen 100’s of women come into their own, become phenomenally strong and nobody’s rejection, opinion or criticism ever rocks them again.

So self sabotage patterns and triggers for food and cravings and filing in that empty pit in their stomach are all in the past.

And now you just want to teach this access to intuition and methodology ALL the time.

This is me, so thrilled and happy to see women polish off the dross and old patterns of thinking and habits of overdoing – until they radiate pure bright light and have become their best selves.

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Soul Parenting

Are there any gifts from abusive relationships?

I have changed, I do not recognise this version of myself at all now, thankfully from the timid, abused girl and those 10 years of torment in my life which acted like a wrecking ball on everything I cherished.

I have never until now shared this part of me, or how it developed and made me stronger and yet still has the ability to haunt me.

This week I was gifted when I was asked to give my review on a friend’s new book about the abusive relationship that she has just managed to extract herself from since lockdown.

She is in her mid 50’s like me now, but I was in my early 30’s when I went through this and broke free from a physical, mental and emotional abuser.

I had no way out as all my bridges had been systematically stripped away and burnt down. Carefully calculated and set up to keep me isolated and dependant. I had to lose contact with my family who were 100’s of miles away, and I was so watched over that I was not allowed friends of my own. I was trapped and it had been orchestrated that I had no one to turn to.

Back in the 90’s all I had was the number of a random safe house hidden in the back of my blood donation book just in case it ever got that bad.

It took me years to conger up the courage to leave. I was made to feel extraordinarily small and worthless, allowed no friends of my own, and made to eat so little, called fat and humiliated before we ever went out, I would end up in tears just before any party we went into. I was told to not eat, so that I would be small and sexy like Kylie Monogue. I was not allowed to wear lipstick or the colour pink or anything girly or attractive or ever waste money and shop for clothes. I was constantly accused of having affairs, threatened if I had an affair or left him, I would end up wearing ‘concrete boots’ and end up on the bottom of a canal somewhere and told “anyway who would know, you have no contact with your family and no friends”.

I got a massive 1-carat diamond ring when we got engaged, only to find out later it came into his possession and had been stolen. It was like his symbol of don’t touch this woman, she belongs to me.

He caused endless trouble whenever we visited family and it was just easier in the end not to go, than for me to be the buffer between them. It was exhausting.

I have been pushed downstairs, hit, slapped and kicked and yet still I stayed, maybe because he was so remorseful for a day or so, and I for a moment believed he was going to be as fun and loving as he was when we first met. He always said nobody would ever love me as he did. But then revert to violence, threatening language, real meanness, and controlling emotional blackmail within a few days.

I have strange memories that come up every so often for example of being made to retrieve my jewellery that I had put his safe care, as I lived in a flat and the front door lock was broken. I had to drive at 3 am to retrieve it from the busy street on a very rainy night when I got that call. All just so he could prove a point that he was in control. And yet still, bizarrely I married this man. Why?

These days I cannot imagine who I was or what I felt like I am so different. I just knew walking down the aisle at 22 years old I would divorce him and make him pay, but right now I am too tired and worn down and don’t feel strong enough to undo the shambles I have got myself into or how to stand my ground. The master manipulator had won.

I resorted to food as my only friend, a small token of how I can treat myself in those stolen moments in my car alone after doing the weekly shop with a big bag of salt and vinegar crisps

How did I conger up the courage to leave?

I remember I prayed for an out, Maybe, he would disappear, or hopefully have an accident and die. But in fact, my prayers were answered when I got a new job. One he could not control or see how strong it would make me, I believe my soul intervened. A job where I started as a PA and grew into one that took me to drive and visit clients all over the UK and I got to meet a lot more people and made real trusted friends, by doing that I found a sense of freedom and even although I was told “You’ll be rubbish! You in sales how ridiculous”. I found the confidence to do this job and thoroughly enjoyed it.

I became extra strong (with fake it until you make it, bravado at first) I was I believe quite frightening, as I took a no prisoners and developed an attitude of not suffering egomaniacs or fools gladly. I turned up the scary don’t mess with me energy to full volume and only as the years went on I have managed to drop the draw bridge and let people I truly feel safe with anywhere near the real me.

I left him by staging a final argument and immediately found a flat and left with the bare essentials. I was stalked and my bank account spied on via his brother. The divorce proceedings were a joke. I fired one lawyer as her letters just made things far worse for me. He and his solicitor were laughed out of court. I was divorced and got my share out of the house, we jointly owned but that I had put the most towards as I was the one working. I cut my losses knowing I was free and could build a new and far better life for myself.

Through this experience, I discovered I could read people and felt what they needed intuitively. I believe I was super sensitive and empathic because of this encounter I had had from living with this man. I had a developed 6th sense about situations, people and places, as do so many women who experience these violent and dangerous situations.

Our senses just have to wake up for us to survive. All of the walking on eggshells and knowing what mood someone was in from their first breath in the morning, meant I reacted to situations in my ultra sensitive ways. I knew better than most when to stay quiet and what people wanted and needed and if they were hiding.

I could feel into people from anywhere and if they would be safe to invite into my space. I used this many times to feel into people I invited into my house when I was a single mother with 2 young boys.

However for decades after I had broken free, I still felt the need to be over vigilant and on high alert in my environment, just in case this person or another similar was in my vicinity and I was vulnerable.

Once, maybe 10 years ago I saw ‘him’ in a supermarket when I was back in the UK. I felt my heart race and catch my breath, with the full shopping basket I had on my left arm as I was on the way to the checkout, found its way quietly to the floor and I turned and pulled up my collar and walked purposefully out if the shop. Sorry for whoever had to replace all that shopping back on the shelves. I could not stay. So I ran. I turned the corner ran to my car, stumbled in, locked the doors and drove as fast as I could away and have never gone back to that area again. I know where he is, he still lives in the same house we bought together in 1987.

Reading an account of another who had broken free from an abusive relationship was so healing and enlightening on so may levels.

For the first time by doing this review I allowed myself to go into detail about things I had never uttered a word to anybody about before. I had kept it all safely hidden under lock and key. Yet it smoldered and stank and became putrid as it wanted to be released. It caused me no end of problems in my relationships with mistrust and over-eating in times of stress.

This opportunity was not a coincidence but another soul intervention to clearly have me let go of what no longer served me, but that I had buried under years of avoidance and overeating.

I have come to believe that abuser and or perpetrator is in fact attracted to the qualities in you that they lack, the confidence you possess and is drawn like a magnet to your inner strength but at the same time frightened because of it, they feel how strong you actually are and could be. It is a far greater strength than theirs and it oozes and radiates out of you.

I believe having had my own as well as assisted women with these same stories, that these abusers feed off the strength of others, like a vampire. Your confidence has to by any means possible be crushed, your will diminished, your ability to be independent and flourish in life removed, and this is what they seek to make themselves feel better and stronger about themselves. They are the weak ones.

There is a great and astonishing gift to read of such a relationship of another having had a similar experience and see it through and unfold as a real gift allowing that woman to have arising out of the ashes like a phoenix from an abusive relationship. It is an opportunity to stand up for yourself. Being in a relationship that is abusive allows you to develop a rare sensitivity to the subtle signs and your senses develop faster than somebody who was not tormented this way, just because of what you experienced in that relationship. That can seem an odd gift but in my experience, it is one that leads to incredible intuition and of trusting your gut instinct, because your body never lies. Your mind will try and keep you safe, and want to make you give in, compliant and small, but your feelings never lie. That very subtle or those not so subtle uncomfortable feelings that are telling you something very important indeed.

This ended up with me being able to be an intuitive body coach. I could hear what people’s souls and bodies were calling for, and why they struggled with conditions that doctor, dietician and other people helping with these strange persistent symptoms could not detect, resolve or dissolve.

Would I change my experience if I could? Hell Yes, of course, but maybe then I would not be so intuitive and sensitive as I am today. My senses would not be so acute without this experience. Maybe then it was a necessary evil that will take us forward into a different sensitive world where our intuition will be of great importance. The intuitive age.

How Do I Get My Appetite Under Control?

My appetite, like a few other things I could mention and for what seems to be the longest time, had been off the rails and seriously out of control.

However, you could find me out at a party or social function and you could be fooled as I would insist and could kid a fair few, that I was happy and pretended everything was just fine.

You would find me spending the whole time however tucking into a bowl of potato chips avoiding any possible confrontation or any uncomfortable chitter-chatter from the other party goers. So who was I kidding?

And then look who seemed to spend more time trying to pull me together and feel more in control before I went out anywhere. …… Duh Me

There is nothing that responds faster than the body to the thoughts and feelings you have.

Your body literally molds itself depending on the energy coming from your thoughts and feelings.

I seem to have spent an extraordinary long time ignoring certain thoughts and especially my feelings.

Trying to catch that string of words that rapidly crossed my mind, that were a mishmash of so many subjects, all rushing across all at once it was like experiencing a storm in my head. I was surprised not to see lightning or hear thunder crashing around me, because inside that was just what it felt like, a frantic storm.

Catching these thoughts then would be a true feet of remarkable genius as well as having to be faster than speedy Gonzales to hear what these thoughts were. Just when I got close enough to feel into those words and give them some a semblance of meaning, or perhaps what it was that I was actually saying to myself. It would slip away.

All I did catch was I felt a strong urge and sense that I would want to run far, far away.

It was a game I had played for some considerable time now with myself, It was my habit of self-sabotage, that insisted I would avoid looking at any of the issues that I was carrying around inside my head. My fears, my concerns, worries or my disbelief that I could have it a different way. I avoided rather well I thought, as well as I became competent at rejecting help and resist all of what could have made me, more conscious of what it was that exactly made me feel so uncomfortable,

If I am completely honest I would never know what I was supposed to do with these thoughts even if I did catch any of them.

Where do I file them?

How do I let them go?

How can I get to be at peace with them?

How much time would It take?

I’m far too busy and so I avoided.

What I did know was that whenever I was overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings I would frequently turn to food to numb out the pain, to dumb down the noise and frantic overwhelm of these feelings I was experiencing, that made me feel irritated, disjointed, and kind of unhinged.

My food choices were poor as if to match the low quality of my thoughts and I ate too much as if to match the quantity and quality of the thoughts I was having.

I started to carry more than I should, I experienced a heaviness and gained weight even although I was eating the healthiest food on the planet. I was a raw foodie, detox diva, and still put too much on my plate, and as I chomped through it all and tried to break it down, I knew It was still all too much for one girl to handle in a day. I wanted a simpler life.

I had heard “Never eat when you are emotional” But that was far easier said than done.

Then with one serendipitous encounter, I was given a gift of how to have silence and peace in my mind. I learned how to recode my over mental activity and find more peace and quiet. It was an animal communicator who introduced me to a deeper safe and peaceful place in my mind. I had been asking how I could possibly do this and asking for help, then this showed up and slowed me down to be at a safe pace and then and only then I caught sight of my stories, and habitual one-liners I had never noticed before. And I felt able to explore these statements that had become my normal chatter and created my current limited identity and truths and I saw what it was that I was eating at me.

I chose to release whatever I discovered by doing some mind reframing and recoding exercises as well as energy-releasing rituals and took the time to pay attention to what I noticed were my limiting beliefs, and one by one I changed and recoded that story I had been stuck in, and the next and the next and so on in the gentlest ways I knew.

I could feel where each one had been sitting in my body, sometimes in my heart, other times in my gut and solar plexus, and then other times in my chest or throat and the effect and influence it was having on me physically, the weight of each story and the tangle of twisted netting it was all caught up in.

One by one I released, each one bringing space and a new peace within me. It was a profound and an experience of deep stillness and I confess I had fewer worries about things and people I could not control or change. My body relaxed and rested, I was exhausted from carrying all that around with me for so long. I noticed the changes on my body at first, I dropped a dress size, then I noticed I was un-phased by other peoples judgment and drama and soon I could easily be more conscious of what I was feeling in my environment and knew if that feeling belonged to me or if it came from another person and I was just feeling their unease. And let that go too.

The feelings came and went flowing in and out as they should without me feeling I needed to hold onto them or own them. I experienced a fuller spectrum of feelings, deeper wider and a higher elated mood for longer and longer. It felt like I was having a love affair with life its self. I was in awe of every experience.

My body was responding better to the thoughts I was having and the mood I was in.

My body reflected my easier going approach to life and as my thinking slowed down from the busy frantic fill my day with nonsense, I had time to be who I always wanted to be. I noticed my shape changed and size altered then the numbers on the scale changed and went down and kept going down. The notches on my belt dropped and I got into clothes at the back of the wardrobe and threw away the ones that I knew I would never ever wear again.

Join in on my recode sessions every week in Women Winning The World with Weight and Self Worth, where we can see clearly and clear one by one which limiting beliefs and resistance you can still have in the background, and that has you overeating because you are being triggered by your thoughts and feelings that make you feel uncomfortable and you feel out of control.

Why being SELFISH is the very best thing you can start to do for you right now!

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…. As I watched her walk through the door of the lobby, I was struck how jealous I was feeling. She was and had everything I wanted. Such a strong together woman, She had it all. She looked so ‘God Damn’ happy and confident and on top of her game and she was wearing exactly what I wanted to wear.

What was her secret?

I wanted to be more like her, feel how she felt. Have what she had, there was a woman to emulate if ever I saw one. How did she do that?.

I bet you thought being selfish was a bad thing!!

Well, guess what. It’s absolutely NOT and I’ll show you why.

What is NO #1 thing all successful, savvy, chic and SLEEK women have in common? They know how to put themselves 1st, 2nd, and 3rd.

Why being selfish is the very best thing you can start to do for you right now, and how it will see you powerfully create not only the relationships that you will not compromise yourself in, but the physical body and experience you always wanted to have and who you wanted to become in the next phase of your life – by being selfish.

I am Fiona Robertson Your Body Whisperer, here with a huge big hello and thank you so much for tuning in . I am here for one reason and one reason only – specifically to show you how I practice my energetic frequency of creating. First hand. And that means I am taking care of me and so ‘being selfish’.

Do you think it’s wrong to know what you want and to go after what you want

I am feeling higher than usual today – higher than I usually take myself or my clients- that is – ‘attitude wise’. I have purposely and consciously got into a higher energy for you today.

I am feeling so Blessed today, The sunny weather, the view of the mountains from my front door, the flowers in my garden I planted and appreciating where I chose to set up home in SW France, run my business from and raise my 2 beautiful boys. The projects I started I now see happening right before my eyes – I am so blessed.

I am here to meet you specifically to see my and your future self become the woman in her next phase of life … as we have always wanted to be.

The woman who I can play with and I want to play with you at that same level.

As the women who knows what she wants and wants to play with me and create a life where she feels in charge of herself – no compromising.

To play at picking the exact emotions and energy that see you moving into that fabulous formidable woman, who feels so strong and so sure of herself that no amount of drama, bad behavior, crisis, will ever rock you again, and would have you reaching for whatever relief you have chosen in the past, be that Food, Drink, Shopping or being a Workaholic. I know you. I see you – yes it’s true I have been an overeater and been called a workaholic sometimes.

So how do I practice selfish, These feelings are for me : blessed to be ALIVE, excited, in love with life and with ourselves and a little scared of what reinventing ourselves entails.

A tiny bit scared of letting go of those trappings and all the stories, that comfort zone we have got used to. And a teeny bit scared of what lies on the other side….. will I be OK?

The fear of releasing and letting go is what I am an absolute expert in!

Helping you to get rid of it…. And drop it and move on is what I do every single day.

So here I am feeling excited about my day and a little scared of what will happen along my journey to let go of further traps and limitations that I may still have going on …so that I become the phenomenal woman I came here to be 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e}.

For this I have to put my feelings 1^st, 2^nd and 3^rd and that can be seen as rather selfish. But it is the very best thing I can do – to see that I am getting what I need, want and where I am lacking the most so that I find a way that I love to fulfill that for myself.

I decided a long time ago NOT to settle for what was available, to live with what I was handed to me, That’s all that’s available for me, to be mediocre, but tinsteao feel ALIVE, excited about life, and take back control of what is about to be landed in my day.

So how do I practice my energy?

I look around me and see and feel all the great things around me,

I choose to look for and focus and see the beauty,

I chose to feel the love that surrounds me,

I choose to be and feel happy, in love and expect great things to happen for me.

I choose to see opportunity and a silver lining.

I choose to purposely and have delusional dreams about what it is that I want….

So that is what Selfish is…..

I bet you thought being selfish was a bad thing!!

Well, guess what. It’s absolutely NOT and I’m showing you why it is far from BAD

What is NO #1 thing all successful, savvy, chic and SLEEK, women that you admire and watch having it all? These women have in common they know how to put themselves 1st, 2nd, and 3rd.

The dictionary describes selfish as a negative, but every single day I do something for me, I ask myself “Do I want to go here there or anywhere, What do I want to eat, wear, be outside inside?”

And if I’m get asked to do something I don’t want to do I know now how to say “NO thanks” with real grace.

I am communicating with myself consciously and wanting to know what myself wants.

You see myself is what I am creating, from the inside out and on purpose. I am very conscious about what I am creating .

The skill of being selfish with grace is the best skill I ever learned, Getting in control of YOU. And letting go of the rest. Making the decisions that count for you and being so sure of who you are and what you want that no amount of drama or bad behavior can rock you.

That sees you lose stubborn weight, release physical symptoms, find the love you dream of and see your business sour as they take charge of themselves

Letting your energy slip and run away with you allows you to be vulnerable and so affected by every single drama, negative person and situation which usually results in seeking relief later on from food, drink, spending or being a workaholic….. I know this one, I hid myself in work over ate, as it seemed far easier rather than face the dramas that were affecting me.

I know your ready to take back the reins, get back in the driving seat and get back in charge and to grips with YOU. So I invite you to grab a coffee with me for a no strings attached consultation session, that will clearly show you the one area you have overlooked that will see you back on top in NO time at all.

You’ll get three-quick and easy action steps and plan to get you back in the driving seat with a whole NEW relationship with food and your energy and so your body is in your hands, you appreciate consistent weight loss and you are moving in the right direction.

I run complete development courses that teach you this level of self love and has seen dozens of women get back on top.

Every woman is capable of reinventing herself, creating the life, body and career she adores and that she can dress up as she wishes, and all she has to do is take the invitation that I’am sharing today.

Have a beautiful day and I really look forward to meeting you very very soon. On one of my retreats here in SW France or on any of my programs online.

What’s Next for you?

Fiona Robertson

Body Whisperer

Body Renewer

There are 4 ways of working with me right now to become the woman you want to be in the next phase of your life.

Contact me and let’s grab a coffee and let’s get you back on TOP, In charge of you email me fiona@fionarobertson.co or face book me here on my page.

These in depth further 3 ways unravel for you the reasons are that the weight won’t go and how to digest the world around you in a new beautiful way. see you become strong and beautiful inside and out.

“Feeling Priceless” 12 months. 24 weekly and 6 monthy, 1 to 1 calls (30 in all). Covering everything deep dive into the bigger trapped emotions for release, perceptions renewed and Mindset reset. The spirit is 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} involved this is £888 per month. Or £8,888.00 paid in 1 go. Includes a 6 Day Deep Dive Retreat.- IN SW FRANCE

This is the “222 – 2 stone in 2 months” 4 month 16 1 to 1 Calls, Uncovering mostly mental and emotional blocks and stops, and an introduction to working with spirit, 888X 4 = £3,552 or £2,222.00 paid in 1 time http://fionarobertson.co/222-total-body-reset/

The Personal Introduction to Your Soul and prepare for Spirit Assistance. 5 months GROUP. 20 Group calls 1 x 1to1 call to deep dive journey and get your very Personal Introduction with your Soul. And get to hear her messages to you, reconnection practices. Learn to Love you again. So that you are so sure of who you are that no rejection, bad behavior will ROCK YOU. 200 x 5 or £555. In 1 go.

http://fionarobertson.co/product/a-personal-introduction-to-your-soul-and-prepare-to-receive-spirit/

What feels best to you?

So much Love. Are you Feelin It yet?.

Fiona Robertson

What’s Next ?

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BAD MOM Rocking her tight black skinny jeans & new sexy confidence dancing on the night club speakers.

The bodyguard of the trendy club looked up at her with his head tilted to one side and eyebrows raised. He offered out his hand and asked kindly to please come down off the speakers.

She could not help a huge cheeky confident smile from spreading across her face as she leaned on him, and returned, without missing a beat to non-stop dancing on the dance floor …..

Dancing the night away for far longer than all of her boogying counterparts, who were half her age, she thoroughly enjoyed showing off on the dance floor. Full on arms up in the air hip wiggling enjoying the tribal beat. Remembering it was not that long ago she was stuck indoors every Friday night with a ‘dull life is over’ outlook on her life.

She deserved to let her hair down and act out as the BAD KITTY. She had overcome so much this last year and this was her time to shine. She may look wild but she had never been so sure of herself.

She’d survived a breakup of major proportions, struggled financially as a single mum and moved house twice. Now she had broken through all of that and saw how her body had reflected that she was out of control and gained and struggled with her weight as a consequence.

It’s true she was footloose and fancy-free and 50lbs from her waistline had vanished in 5 months, all due to taking charge and having made a few NON Negotiable decisions on some very important things in her life. Her attitude and perspective were 180° turned around and she now was going after what she wanted all along.

She got lots of attention but remained strong and kind in her ‘No Thank You’ she valued herself far too much to get embroiled with anyone or anything that would ever pull her down again. She was only going to accept what felt 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} fantastic to her from now on.

True story Fiona 2014/15

If you have lost weight then regained it time and time again or got stuck in that stubborn weight just will not shift, then this is for you.

Is your body misbehaving?

No, but you do need to be back in control of your own metabolism, hormones and the reasons you overeat?

Struggling to lose weight and recycling the same amount of weight over and over is a sure sign that there are parts of the puzzle left unsolved and running away with you.

If you are ready to get into your skinny jeans, be 3 sizes smaller and have the energy of a rampant teenager, its time to put the control of YOU back in your hands. I invite you to have a no strings attached consultation that will clearly show you the one area you have overlooked that will see you back on TOP (literally) and in control of YOU.

You see you are in the right place!

When you know what you want next and take this immediate action – You will not only become so sure of who you are, that no one’s opinion, rejection or bad behavior will rock you. You will have take a huge step to become the woman you came here to be in the next phase of her life.

The woman who is in this next phase of her life and has successfully stepped into her own driving seat and taken over controls, she has done the work, she has inner stregnth, she not only feels 100{6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} better instantly but sees her weight slip away, feels younger and far stronger than she has in years. She is not wobbly or shaky, but firm and certain of what she wants, needs and is lacking the most and that is what has helped myself and ALL of my clients go onto lose the wobble, the 3 stone – 50lbs – 20 kg and several dress sizes and 7 notches off our belts and know what we want and how to get it.

The body to me is so F#@king fascinating there is nothing that responds as fast as the body to how we feel and what we say and think. When we follow certain up leveling practices we will surely become ‘the woman we want to be in the next phase of her life – starting today….

You have 2 fantastic options to take me up on here today……

Join me on a rare FREE Body Scan consultation call and let’s see what exact steps you will personally need to take, to have those same glorious moments as Valentine and how you can also consciously construct your body from the inside out.
You can apply here for one of my 5 rare in-depth calls I ‘ll be doing in March to discover what triggers you to be in a body that a. resists losing weight and b. how to break-through and resolve that once and for all. c.You will receive VERY clear instructions on what steps you need to take next and how long it will take.
You can also take a look right now at the 5 months exclusive and a Complete Development training program that I will be doing from 1st April, for an absolute snip at £555.00. (Next time around this will be £2,222.00). This course is ‘A Personal Introduction to your SOUL and Prepare you for Spirit Assistance‘.. This is the course content that has seen so many women begin to feel so strong and SAFE that they all become unshakable even when surrounded by turbulence, and has allowed them to drop the weight of the troubles they were carrying.

Fiona Robertson
The Body Renewer

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Let me introduce you personally to your SOUL and get your SPIRIT assistance. This is how you Call in your Soul to assist you with everything……from weight loss to business, relationships and everything that makes life so much easier to cope with.

Fiona Robertson

It is My Aim to help you get better, feel more alive be happier, by respecting your body” your organs and your ability to balance work and life you have started down a good path. I would like to introduce myself to you, as a woman who is passionate about health, spiritual growth, personal development, learning and now educating and sharing my experience and knowledge! I am the creator of the Home Detox Box an easy to follow 7 day DIY cleansing program you can do from home. I run regular cleansing and detox retreats here in France and really enjoy seeing my guests change and grow in one week. We talk and laugh about life and indeed everything” this is a true healing week on many levels. I teach about regular cleansing, Raw food and being a woman today.

What’s gone wrong at weight watchers?

‘Whatever they are called this company, is outdated as I believe no-one should be on a weight loss diet for more than 3-5 months”

A longtime symbol of women winning with weight and then the business side of Weight Watchers changed its branding to just WW taking weight and diet out of their brand, and disaster struck in the minds of the shareholders all profits and {6a14cc849908c46212f3d2c8a81eada984febec31535ea1cc7f55de4f8a4ba8e} dipped.

Weight Watchers are big business (no joke 56 years of trading on women weight) and are in the business of making money on women struggling to lose weight. No kidding.

What’s gone wrong at weight watchers? But, what of the woman who needed to lose weight? How are they doing that’s what I want to know? Are they any of them actually losing weight as the company promises? How many have done 10 + years with Weight Watchers and are still losing the same amount weight over and over again but still paying out monthly?

Women should not I feel be on any long term diet ( or medication for longer than 3 to 6 months ) except in the extreme cases of pain medication (and that comes from the natural medical professionals, not however from the businessmen and woman.)

Women only follow what they are sold to and feel that will maybe work for them because they are somewhat lost and confused how their own body works.

I feel the reason Weight Watchers worked for so many is that it held them accountable week after week. Ladies kept going back to be told if they succeeded and lost weight that week and that good feeling kept them going, or the fear of the humiliation of gained weight keeping them steadily returning to the meetings and subscribing. This I feel is what really assisted them other than anything in the food capacity.

But not all diets work in the same way for every woman, we are all different, we have all had different experiences and therefore need to be treated as individuals with personal needs, and these need to be accounted for alongside watching the food intake.

To be honest I tried Weight Watchers and for me, it was far too restrictive and preachy, so many rules and not enough personal support. I knew back in 1999 that my weight was more likely to be brought on by the stress I was under but did not know how to cope with it at the time. The reason it was not for me could have been more to do with personal taste re the leader of the group where I attended. Or more than likely where I was up to at the time. Having difficulties in my life, family members, career and in my key relationships that drove me to overeat.

You see I feel strongly that weight is not just or all about the food we eat, but far more about the other pieces of the jigsaw puzzle that make us who we are and why we feel the unconscious urges to snack, secretly binge and overeat.

No one should be going to any form of weight class for longer than 3 to 6 months, by then you should have had the help to find your blind spots and work through the root cause to the overeating. We are not meant to stay on the same diet forever, our bodies constantly adapt and shift depending on our environment and our relationships. Our energy, environments the people in them all change as do our needs for food for fuel or food for solace and entertainment.

I am so sad to see so many women stuck struggling with weight when the solution is right at her finger tips if she could only see it or be shown what it is exactly for her and guided gently through it.

In my experience with weight and detox coaching for the past 14 years, there is always something else going on just below the surface, that leads the body to crave more and more food, hold onto weight despite endless diets and exercise or lose the initial weight only to regain it again and again plus a bit more every time.

I have met so many sad women who just want to give up, who just keep losing the same amount over and over again and are literally starving in every other aspect of their life and end up using food.

Take away the sadness, resolve the relationships let this woman grow up, so that she is no longer affected and influenced any more by others dramas and Voila! she no longer needs food in the same way ever again.

Weight Watchers is a business that pretends to care about women who want to lose weight, but they are a business lets not be fooled, just like the food industry, pharmaceuticals, fuel industry and as such just want you to keep paying and never actually lose weight.

The new Branding was decided on only to attract a more up to date clientele, unfortunate for them they bombed.

I would like to see real support for women struggling with weight in the long term, so we can see more statistics that show they are losing weight and overcome the need to turn to food. That would make so many woman happy and love Weight Watchers for real.

“Thank you Fiona, “I am Back in my skinny jeans after 2 months, and so much more awareness around food and what I feel is influencing and affecting me emotionally”

“I would never have lost this weight without overcoming my need to overeat, and that I could have never done without the BIG questions set by Fiona to go beyond the constant diet merry-go-round I was on for the past 20 years”

Fiona Robertson

The Body Renewer.

Fiona Runs very successfu getting to the root cause coaching Programs that overcome the need for overeating like :

222 2 stone in 2 months Self-study program

Peace with food 5 videos to reset your relationship with food.

and 50lbs off in your 50’s 1 to 1 weekly coaching for 6 – 8 months ask me for more information.

SEE THE BBC article here about What’s gone wrong with weight watchers? What’s gone wrong with weight Watchers

So how much do you exactly want to be and by when ?

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Summer Weight – 5 months away

So how much do you exactly want to be and by when?

Are you a remarkable sassy and savvy woman in her 40 to 50’s eats relatively well and takes some exercise but is confounded by hèr own body’s resistance to allow her to let go of the weight and stored Under lock and key ‘body fat’ that she has hoarded and will not let leave.

Your body is literally resisting the change you so are seeking and going after.

There will be certain symptoms that tell us that this is quite easily reversed for you and where you are along the path and what we need to do to set you off on a new path.

Exhaustion mid afternoon
Loss of 1/3 of your eyebrows
Feel you cant fit your clothes especially later in the day
Crave sugar and carbs especially at night – cant stop despite knowing it won’t help you
Have some skin tags that are along your neck or bra line
Top heavy with weight Boobs and belly maybe bum, but shoulders, upper arms, and torso

Any all and more symptoms tell me that you have the ability to reverse all of this weight your body seems to love hoarding away for you.

You are not too old

You are not past it

It will work for you TOO

It’s NOT your fault

TOTAL BODY RENEW – Start today and don’t regret another moment………

Have you forgotten about your fantasy body? Because it has not forgotten about you or what you say you want.

If you have 5 months to give yourself to really do what it takes, no force, no diets, no extreme exercise regimes, COULD you and WOULD YOU do it.???

So that’s the Question!

But first off I am going to ask you today: How much do you want to lose and by When?

Then I will ask you how do you know are there any other numbers running around in the background. Come on let’s see them

The chaos and chopping and changing is keeping you from reaching the very thing you seek

So today lets play a little bit with numbers, sizes, weights and measurements.

We can get very hung up on weight and measurements but here is how to get past that.

Relax and breathe and I will introduce you to a way to clearly tell what comes next for you.

I am going to slide you up and down a scale to see what feels doable for you right now. You see you can’t get there from here if you can’t believe its possible so let’s do this in stages

Most women I work with have 1^st 2^nd and 3^rd goals that they set and reach as they breakthrough all the resistance sabotages and blocks they have to reaching that goal.

The video takes you through a process to see what is going on in the head about what is possible or stopping and blocking you from reaching your beginning middle or end results and staying there.

Let me know when you are ready to really lose the weight, because this works I have ladies you can talk to that will tell you what happened to them in 5 months or less.

“💛My dear Fi,

What a gift you are!! Thank you so much-

Wow! Best session so far! I have found such clarity & now beginning to experience the freedom I have longed for. Already 2 stone down and still dropping.

This is getting exciting! ✨Joyfully✨” V. 2018

“Fiona, I am down 3 stone in 6 months and so so happy, however, I could stay here and still be happy but I want to go all the way as we planned so let’s get that other part off too. Lets clear out any struggle I have and any limited thinking. I know now more than ever that WE can do this. Xxx Wendy. Ryll. 2017

TOTAL BODY RENEW START TODAY……….. and dont regret another moment

Do you want to experience this too?

Jump on an initial consultation call and let’s get you started with the first most important step. From there we will work out if we are right to go all the way together. There is no pressure as it has to feel right for me and you and we are a fit, that I can guide you and that you want to be guided along the easy route.

E mail me on fiona@fionarobertson.co

and ask for a free initial consultation and the first BOLD way to access the fat cells in a radical way .

…a naughty thought crossed her mind. Dare I go out without underwear?

Underwear or NO underwear?

As she slid on the dress she’d been saving for years… the dress she always hoped she’d one day get back into…

…a naughty thought crossed her mind.

“I should make this the best anniversary ever.”

So she reached down with a sly smile on her face and slid her underwear off.

She knew he’d be shocked.

After the baby, she knew he thought her body was ruined.

But just 2 months later, on their anniversary night, she put on a show.

He was speechless.

She’d done the work now she wore the dress and the shoes and the smile to go with it.

Here is one of the tricks that Sally discovered, and how she used it to drop an astonishing 50 lbs in a few months, at 50 years old…….

Being BIG was no joke, Sally had held back on everything and felt left out, the big girl and despite diets and exercise she did not feel like sex, or going to dress up parties, or even playing with her kids as she wobbled and she hated the fake smile she used to get through an evening when inside she felt sadder than sad.

What was it going to take a miracle?

I don’t want to have to starve myself or run every day to lose weight. Help. Why can’t my body just play ball. I feel like it has betrayed me.

The one thing Sally never knew was that diets and the type of exercise were working against her all the time. She had needed to do reset her body in another way, she had no idea that In a few months she’d be going commando on a date with her hubby to celebrate her new found confidence.

For one her key hormones were running riot and causing chemical havoc on her weight gain, resetting those allowed the fat cells to be accessed and release the fat stored.

Secondly, she had no idea that she had a constant level of predisposed stress running in the background, enough to raise the alarm and have stress hormones pushing out sugars into the bloodstream all day, that just made her crave sugars all night.

Thirdly she hated to look at herself and refused to get dressed in front of any mirror, the hateful words and shame made her feel so crappy, so she avoided all reflections. She did not have a nice word to say to herself.

Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea she wanted the body she fantasized about but what she was doing ( all be it sometimes half heartedly ) was not giving her any results for the effort she was putting in.

Shoot forward 6 months and here was Sally appreciating her body in the mirror, and wearing the very dress she’d visualized and kept in the hope that one day she would wear it again, and she was in that dress and it felt fantastic.

She was being far more playful and present with her kids and looking forwards to an evening with her hubby, who she found not only attractive but she felt turned on by him again. Or was she just so turned on with herself and in her own confidence again.

Sally is not alone as Dozens upon Dozens of women are finding their sexual Mojo again, once they have lost and know how to maintain their new svelte figures.

If this is in any way speaking to you, you have two choices,

Come into a FREE Radical plan for your fantasy body call with me and discover 3 easy steps to step over the blocks and stops you have in your way.
https://fionarobertson.as.me/

Do nothing! Keep doing what you’re doing and hoping that the diet and exercise will shift the weight, even although you have tried that for years and its all just getting worse

What do you prefer?

So much Love

Fiona Robertson

The Body Renewer creating your body on purpose.