Why Is It So Hard To Love Myself?

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Why is it so hard to love myself? I feel broken….

All night long I pleaded and cried.

I never thought it would come to this or that escaping that trap I would find myself here. . It’s been a long road but I am finally FREE at last

I am lying on the floor in the hallway, getting a really close look at the pile of the 70’s patterned carpet in our hallway, curled up in the fetal position protecting my stomach. I am in our family house in the hall way between the kitchen and the lounge being kicked and screamed at, and the person standing over me raging uncontrollably has a knife in her hand, as she’s just been chopping vegetables for dinner.

I cannot see why this has such a BIG reaction, it‘s beyond my comprehension as a 12 year old that my mother would stoop so low.

I have just informed my mother (rather late I admit) of a list of cooking ingredients needed for tomorrow’s cookery class. I kept putting it off day after day this week as I was scared of her (this very exact) reaction, which was normally predictably one of anger, and that I was putting her out and wasting her time with all these insane late requests.

“She must have had a bad day,” I remember thinking or “She just hates me”

Never once did I consider that her life was just way too hard for her and that she was ill-equipped and was afraid. Dad was having affairs and travelled most of the year and she was alone as a single mum. Yes I know that’s Victim energy. Her life was actually not too bad at all, it just seemed so. And so my brother and I sadly got the brunt of her anger and permanent dissatisfaction.

I am a young girl and already used to being terrified of a sneeze, or hearing her Hoover and bashing around the house.  My senses are on red alert and know she is the strongest person in my environment, but I cannot trust her. She takes no prisoners and oh boy does not suffer fools gladly. Her temper is like a spark hitting puddle of petrol. The heat races through the house, and everyone takes cover.

As an even younger girl, I have learnt how to gauge the mood from noises and like a spider on her web the slight fluctuations in the air and with general knowledge. But, it’s exhausting being vigilant like this from dawn to dusk. I am not a happy child and take to overeating to fill the gap. I turn off my ability to feel for years and turn off my emotions so as to feel FAR LESS of everything. But I develop a cheeky and rebellious personality to this fluctuating atmosphere in the attempt to keep it light and discover obsessing over food is a great way to numb out the voices from my soul.

Who Knew I Was Empathic?

I remember a story when I was 8 and had been cheeky or done something that broke the rules of this woman, and she caught me and reached for the nearest weapon, which was a hand mirror on my big mahogany dressing table and swiftly and sharply dealt me the consequences across my arse. 1, 2 and Crack the mirror broke (soul intervention) and in that split second I twisted and turned saying “7 years bad luck” and ran like the wind.

There was no rhyme or reason to the mood swings, all the way from grumpy and giving the silent treatment to looking for someone suitable to let out the rage of the day at and thrash.

A grew up attuned to her and then others moods sensing the minute alterations in the wind and temperature. I was affected and influenced and learnt to trust no one. Then later on I adapted my skill to feel into people and ask questions of their safety and trust worthiness and more recently over the last 5 years as a Body Whisperer in what causes their health and weight issues as well as their blocks in their business and in beloved relationships from parents, partners and children.

I became adept at reading and getting information and used my body  – that had sadly taken the toll from being abused and I went through a stage of hating my appearance, body image and tried to eat or starve myself happy. I now allow my body instead to not just be a thing to be admired but a sensitive finely tuned asset to read and gain valuable information.

I had learnt the hard way maybe, but I had learnt and appreciated the sensitivity I now have and know that my soul was looking out for me and had my back on so many occasions.

My beliefs that I did not matter from my early years brought a cascade of relationships (abusive, violent and with emotional blackmail) that reflected that actual belief I had held about myself. And once I homed in on and used my natural instincts and intuitive skills, I realised I was so much more than anyone could see or presume to know about me

I adapted, I changed and chose to be truly me.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” Charles Darwin

I discovered a phenomenal inner strength that nobody’s judgement could rock (soul assisted) and I could and was creating a truly different life for myself.

I was meant to be this beautifully sensitive and yet at the same time not to be affected by the people and surroundings that wanted to pull me down with them. It had me trapped with old out of date beliefs of struggle, effort and survival that go along with this world. But Now I am FREE.

I believe I chose this life and these circumstances as well as the relationships, which were to remind me of my innate ability to change and create, and that I am safe to be empathic, intuitive and have as much fun as I choose to have in this body. I know without a doubt that I am supported by soul and have built an intimate relationship with her that I groom with daily communication, listening intently is a skill everyone can develop.

With my eventual acceptance that I was intuitive and hearing my soul pressing me from ever side to do the unimaginable. To let go of the memories, stories I felt had identified me and chose to rise above and beyond the earth and her rules and rituals is to now walk on earth, and not be affected nor influenced by what drama’s surround me.

I altered my story and what I believed had moulded me into the identity I had, and saw clearly that the only person it was hurting was me, So I let it go. And Now I am free to be in her or anyone’s company and see it for what it is. I discovered that I love myself, feel strong in being me and that has amplified my capacity for love that I have for myself and that I can feel from others too.

The funny thing is as I shifted so did she, softened and let go too. As you heal so you heal the others in your stories as well as many, many generations before and in humanity holding the same story as you once did.

Note: She too had her valid stories of hurt and blame and what one could reasonably say made her who she was and what she acted out, as did all of the others I attracted into my life who were just mean, yet they preferred to hold onto the stories of hurt blame and criticism and sadly now suffer with ill health and bad luck as they are creating their own experience based on what they still believe.

It’s a shame because I see so many suffering the same repeat patterns of their own thinking and creating a life of misery.

If you feel trapped and repeat the same scenarios in relationships, with your health from weight to sciatica and suffer with your digestion and even your business is taking a nose dive…Nothing is working as it used to…. It’s time to set you FREE

Create your new reality …..

Anonymous – No Name –

REMEMBER THIS “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

Feel Safe in a Body You Love

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Why we don’t want what we say we want

Samantha came to visit me in May this year on a retreat to detox what was going on for her physically, and she told me that she had “simple had it,” she was at her wits end trying to get her body to conform with the diets she could not stick to and had had NO success with.

It was her fantasy to drop a 5 dress sizes but never managed even keep one dress size off, and she was NOW clear that she wanted to get past whatever was stopping and blocking her.

She knew on some level that it was she who was the one blocking and stopping herself but could not for the life of her see for herself what it was.

After a time when Samantha was settled into her time out on retreat, we started with an assessment of where she was and what else was going in and around her.

I asked her 5 specific questions that helped myself and has moved 100’S of my clients see and be aware of their resistance that they put up to what they said they wanted. These questions immediately enabled her to get to what was really going on.

What we discovered was her single biggest reason why she could and did not get past a particular point, and why she always, always went back to her same size and plus a bit more on besides. This reason was that she was frightened of who she would become when she got to where she wanted to be and had fantasized about body-wise for decades.

She had never expressed it in this way before and always just pushed it away thinking “that’s ridiculous”. But it was real. Very real for her and she was frightened she would not fancy her husband, she would change so much that she might not like her self as this confident woman we were introducing her to.

She would lose her current life, her husband and everything that made her feel safe today.

This is a not a unique feeling! Oh no, not at all. I see this a lot that women are simply terrified of being powerful and successful in business, or in a body that means she has up-leveled into what she actually fantasizes about.

It is not your fault

You stop and block what you want as you have never been shown how to live and how to experience life as the woman you said you wanted to be.

Feeling SAFE as you transform into the new version of you is a prerequisite for reaching success and having what you want with anything. If you do not feel safe or know how to turn up and move forward, then guess what you will resist every opportunity to reach your best self..

This resistance and self-sabotage is such a primitive survival tactic from our reptile and subconscious brain, which means it will always keep us looking out for danger and keep us safe, and keeping wherever and with whatever we have become used to as our safe and familiar feeling.

This has become our home. By stopping us our survival self, needless to say, won’t allow us to make any changes towards what we now say we want.

So this is why we don’t want what we say we want, our subconscious mind is keeping us safe.

Thankfully once we had discovered what was holding Samantha back we were able to give her a new perspective and how she could feel very safe as she progressed into transforming into the woman she had always dreamed of being. Within a few months she dropped the 5 dress sizes, and along with that she unleveled her business and started attracted in new clients, money and opportunities and fell back in love with her beloved man.

She laughs today as she says “you reached parts of me that no one else could reach” I feel priceless she told me and so many people are now telling me that I am far more relaxed and literally radiating and seem far more contented. I agree I am a deeply satisfied woman.

So far from losing herself and being out of control, losing her life and love, she became stronger and more in control and moved towards what SHE wanted.

To make this quick self-assessment of yourself today answer these 5 specific questions that will help you to identify your single biggest resistance to what you say you want and have been reaching for.

Start here.

SELF ASSESSMENT

Woman’s anger – an undiagnosed epidemic of woman’s health.

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Woman’s Anger is the greatest undiagnosed epidemic of a woman’s health, heart health, weight, and depression.

Women have a technique to keep her anger a secret, and the ability to internalize that anger, which in most of us develops into hate for ourselves. Targeted towards our own body primarily which responds with ailments and symptoms such as weight, sciatica, rashes, fatigue and illness that we ignore. Next we project that hurt and anger outwards as we continue to point that anger and frustration at the men in our lives, and people around us, like our own family work colleagues, neighbors and other drivers, everyone basically comes under attack. Could you recognize anything here?

Others notice your anger, but it is a subject that is never discussed, other than letting us complain again and again of all the things that are not going our way. And never really touching or accessing the root cause for that anger.

Women have sat in silence for years maybe even decades seething and never expressing what it is that makes us all so angry. Furthermore we have NO idea what makes us happy or how to have FUN…

Hence films tap into that and we see films and stories like ‘what women want?” and the big joke attached to that – that we actually have no idea.

We’d like to help you discover a very different and NON TRADITIONAL route to turn that all around 180°. We’d love you to discover your way back to love, radiance and joy, to know exactly what you want and need.

The 3 really BAD things about anger are:

1. Feeling anger towards a person or situation stays in your body, which feels like an energy of compression, being squeezed, being closed off, usually brought on by complaining, blame and being disappointed with your lot. This anger has the real ability to hold onto a heavy weighed down feeling, with a low slow sluggish suffocated vibration. For you physically this means that your cells turn off their light and bright shine and only attract in more of the same heavy energy to you. The anger literally attracts more opportunities for anger. The way your cells hold onto that weight matches what you are attracted to eat as well as the people you hang around with, 

2. Anger in your body has the function that holds onto everything, because we feel dissatisfied and empty we crave more and so hold onto the heavy energy and own it. When you experience anger (yours or someone else’s ) you literally don’t allow it to pass through you but hold onto it as and give it space in your body. This has a radical effect on your cells and creates and manifests heavy symptoms and illness that match the heavy feeling and chemistry of anger

3. The energy of anger seeps into every avenue of our lives killing any joy!

It’s a truly addictive energy that we feel at home in and ruins our health, our figure, our relationships and kills our very spirit to live our fullest life.

The opposite feeling to anger would be you feeling Love and Radiant and sending out rays of joy to everyone and everything. This is when you can say at the end of the day “I am a very happy satisfied woman”

The 3 really GOOD things about radiance are:

1. The remarkable power of learning to ooze and exuding the opposite energy of Love, Radiance and JOY, has the ability to lift off the anger with EASE. Complaining, blame and disappointment are not invited to the poarty and you will have no further use for any of these, but the power of radiance has you rather in a state of euphoria, loving life, and releases thousands upon thousands of beneficial hormones and vital neuro-transmitters that let go of what anger was physically holding on to in your body. You feel not only happier but lighter and attract lighter people situations and food towards you.

2. The lighter energy of radiance attracts to it more love and joy and so you radiate more love and joy. It’s addictive. Scientists have discovered that you are addicted to the chemicals that you produce. And we have the power to alter our body chemistry by changing the way we choose to think and feel. Learning to become addicted to something NEW is the task at hand.

The ability to exude a lighter brighter energy carries with it a remarkable effect on your cells and sees them recreate and manifest themselves in a reflection that matches the radiant thoughts and feelings you have specifically chosen for yourself.

3. Radiance allows you to see what you are affected and influenced by, as you ooze more radiance you become allergic to the anger and negative behavior and situations and now make choices that assist you to become lighter and lighter and feel free from the heavier energy and consequences of any heavy physical symptoms and illness. Weight vanishes, rashes clear up, sciatica disappears and life becomes a joy.

Choosing another way of being thinking and feeling is the discipline of remaining in a better energy, one that brings you fun and experiencing what pleasure is … It is as I say a training.

It’s too easy to slip out and get back into anger, sad, hurt and stories of fear, guilt and shame.

It’s a training that teaches you how to talk to yourself, to talk to your body to see what and who is affecting you and influencing you and how to deal with all of that in a completely different way.

I’ve been using the power of ‘Becoming Radiant’ to consistently transform my body and mind for the last 5 years with ease, and have seen excellent results using this approach with my clients too. Ladies Dropping 5 Stone, 10 Belt holes easily, and never re gaining the lost weight.

WHY?

Its NOT all about Food and exercise…. That’s not it….

And now, I’m ready to share these – extremely powerful strategies – with you, and help you make an impact on your self and with your desire to be seen and heard for who you are, attract the audience, opportunities and connections so that you can feel radiant, ooze confidence and be a phenomenal HUGE SUCCESS! 

That’s the beauty of being a woman who accepts that being radiant is a way of life. – Her new normal vibration and radiate the pleasure of being fully alive- She shines out every day, chooses her self first to feel happy and glorious and her cells change and she sees and feels 100% different.

Practice the stuff that helps you feel happy and don’t accept the stuff that makes you miserable or angry – they will kill you….

Never fear Fiona and Fun are here.

Walk this way and under the rainbow into a brighter easier day, week and year.

“Doing this training has affected every aspect of my life, not just my ability to stand on stage and present my self and my books, being happy to be seen in my entirety, but my love life and my relationships with my co workers as well as with my family have all changed because I have become the woman I always wanted to be. I feel extraordinarily different on the inside, I no longer criticize myself and I am taller and stronger for it, all in one neat bundle of 5 foot 4 inches who I now love being” Mandy K.
 

Fiona Robertson

Body Renewer

Body Whisperer

Why Bother About Your Body and Your Soul?

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Here’s why?

Doing this Radiant training has affected every aspect of my life, not just my ability to stand in my body and be proud of myself , stand on stage and present my self and talk about my books, being happy to be seen in my entirety with my partner, my love life and all my relationships even with my co workers has altered, I am more present with my children and my family members at gatherings, I have changed and all because I have become the woman I always wanted to be. I feel extraordinarily different on the inside, I no longer criticize myself and I am taller and stronger for it, all in one neat bundle of 5 foot 4 inches who I NOW love being. I love my body, I love my spirit and I love myself” Mandy K.

Why bother about your body and your soul? (About your Spirit)

You will understand this question better if you have ever asked yourself:

 “Why am I here?” or “Is this all there is to life?”

You may know of the concept of your higher self – that something greater than you, (learned that from Sunday school perhaps) when people places and situations come under your radar and get put in your way for your own good. But how about that you get to meet your higher self and learn how to work along side her. To see when your spirit intervenes in your daily life and brings you more of what you desire.

And when she has in the past intervened for your own good. The times that you thought were tough and you had to make hard choices. It is and has always been for your own good. This is your spirit calling you.

When you were little – (that little wilder girl – thats me in the middle a cheeky miss) you were more in your free spirit, you knew no fear, had no limitations, said and did more of what you wanted, had fun, ran, jumped, and laughed more. You radiated exuberance and joy just for being alive. And your body was alive and felt buzzing with energy.

That is what it feels like when you are connected to your spirit and she is running through you and that is what you need to believe is available for you again.

What I know for sure and have been told by my inner self, by my spirit to tell you is this — that you came here to experience an extraordinary life. Everything, so much more love and joy are available for you than you can imagine and are experiencing today. your exuberance and joy has been squashed out by society and having to grow up and be serious, earn a living and be a mother and businesswoman.

However, You Do Deserve:

  1. A healthy strong vibrant body
  2. To Experience expanded love and joy
  3. To Experience fun, laughter and a life of great ease.
  4. To experience relationships that are fulfilling
  5. To feel the wind in your hair and sand in between your toes

When you are connected to your spirit, you create together the strong vibrant physical body, the business on purpose and all for your life’s purpose and your relationships are fun and a complete joy.

Are you curious – Why you are here in this body and faced with your situation, symptoms and struggles?

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What I can tell you for 100% certainty is that your spirit is communicating with you every moment of the day, We have just become desensitized to her.

Unlike tribespeople, animals and little children who live in the outdoors, feet on the ground and in nature. you have become disconnected from your body. But still, she sends you loving messages to get your attention.

I don’t mean she communicates via feathers and other random ‘hello’ messages that you are ‘OK’.

She does not communicate via E-mail or text in long phrases and concise profound statements.

But rather messages of a different sort. These messages are all about what she wants you to understand and let go of, that is holding you back from being joyous and the radiant being and being all of who you came here to be.

These messages she sent to you often come in as symptoms such as weight sciatica, illness, fatigue, cysts, rashes, and is all she can do to get your attention.

Whatever symptom you get is the symptom you need the most at that moment. Most symptoms will interfere with your practical life, the life that sees you run your business that mostly interferes with your flow of income for example, why because then she hopefully gets your FULL attention.

  • A hair dresses will damage her wrist rendering here incapable of taking on new clients
  • An athlete will damage an ankle or a knee making it impossible to compete
  • A businesswoman will lose her figure and so losing her confidence to be seen presenting her passion
  • A woman may get sciatica after a divorce or separation making it impossible to get around
  • A woman may contract such a stiff neck and headaches that she cannot function or care for herself or her children.

All of these symptoms are what I have suffered and many women I meet until one day we say “Why is this happening to me? there has to be more to this and more to life”

You will no doubt go on diets, visit the osteopath and gynecologist and nothing much will change until you get the message your body and soul wants and needs for you to comprehend. None of these make you feel radiant

It is a misconception that losing weight or losing the symptoms will make you feel radiant. You get to choose to Be Radiant First

The body communicates to you – It’s a whisper, really quite subtle at first

But as she calls you continuously – you will notice I guarantee it. If you fight against her and ignore her she will lovingly persist and persist.

You see she is your spirit (like the little girl inside of you that still longs to run and play) and loves you so much, she wants you to experience and feel love and joy and pleasure and radiate joy.

She is telling you that you hold onto and repeat stories of hurt, disappointment or lower vibrations than the joy you deserve.

She is showing you that so much more is available for you than you experience now. She wants you to up-level and live a life on purpose and of purpose – her purpose. To feel 100% ALIVE in your body.

She communicates by the only means available to her what she wants you to see and that you can and are now ready to let go of.

She is showing you the very energy of your thinking – that vibration of the thought and feeling create the symptoms. And now she has your attention

There is nothing as responsive than your body to your thoughts and feelings .

Not only can she communicate with you.

But you can communicate back to her

Want to know how?

I’ll give you a clue

There is nothing as responsive than your body to your thoughts and feelings .

How you think and how you feel matters a whole lot. Let me explain.

For example, show her your fun happiness and feel radiant and she will match that for you physically.

Cell by Cell – Molecule by molecule

She will alter you and match up your organs, your limbs, your emotions to operate at your optimal levels, you will be able to reduce your pain medication, and do so much more than you believed possible

Are you ready to do this?

Be Radiant First is a short introduction and practice that sees that you can use the power of radiant energy to create a body you love. To work alongside your spirit and ignite the best joyful exuberant experience.

Give me 4 weeks to radically alter your entire being from the inside out

Let us practice reprogram, reset you and upload new programs for you

Wash away worry and doubt and develop LOVE for the body that has carried you thus far in life and create instead an optimal body experience

4 weeks to put your toe in the water and feel what life could really be like and see what you can attract and radiate from now on using the power of radiant energy.

How your luck changes, your body changes, opportunities appear, relationships and your whole being changes for the better.

It was never about the diet

It was never about the body or the weight or other physical symptoms so much as a signal from your spirit that you needed to pay attention to.

What I see and know for sure is that the radiant light body dissolves away your pains, emotional wounds and old traumas and cellular memories,

The radiant body melts away shadows, secrets, and fills in empty gaps, She upgrades all your systems and erases worry and doubt,

She opens new opportunities and pathways

She downloads updated frequencies and programs into you.

She lets you feel totally supported to function at your optimum and most radiant level in every situation.

Be Radiant First – 4 weeks is available to test out a new way of being, with new energy, and with different perspectives.

Create a new body by using the power of radiant energy

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What 1 change can I make to go from feeling Repulsive to Ravashing?

The most alluring and attractive thing a woman can possess, I am sure you will agree is confidence. She sends out generous RAYS of joy and confidence and attracts to her what she is radiating easily from the inside.

Who wouldn’t want to be more attractive and be one of those women who have that certain presence and confidence where ever she goes,

A Woman who impacts thousands with her words and presence alone.

“Sometimes you’ve just gotta do what it takes and get the support you need, and ask for that help” Mel. Paris.

“With a full time business to run, 2 girls under five and being 3 stone heavier that I was when I met my husband. I felt a failure and repulsed at my own body. My love and business were all slipping away fast. I had tried all number of diets to feel good in my body again. I tried many tricks to over come the internal dialogue of self loathing but none of them worked until I felt differently about myself. This was priceless and gave me my life back. I feel sexy, alluring and my body has radically changed in 5 months. This was exactly what I needed. Thank you so much.” Helen M. London

So often, however I am told that a woman feels repulsive, disgusted and has rejected herself completely, hates to see herself and nothing is working in her favor.

The opposite to this is the energy of a woman in her radiance. This is for you if you are ready to attract to you opportunities galore, to be seen and heard on stage, invited to interviews, and stand in the lime light where YOU belong. Where you feel comfortable and confident in a body that radiates and matches and shows the whole world to see you have an enthusiasm for life and passion to serve.

(hint: your body reflects what you feel inside, There is nothing as responsive than your body to what you thing and feel – you feel repulsive or rejected then that is what your body will create and become – turn that around and radiate and you will morph into an alluring energetic confident woman)

The power of success for a woman has sadly become – to ‘work hard’ and takes a lots of ‘effort’ as you take care of your career, work, husband, children, home and you sadly got lost somewhere between the office and home life and you feel heavy and ill-prepared to accomplish so much and unfortunately sadly have forgotten to prioritise taking care of your self. You cannot serve from an empty cup. Easy to say and a bit harder to accomplish, but, let me show you how.

Society has made this normal and made us into drones and ants with no soul and having NO fun – only work and being busy seem to get us any reward these days, and what we have parked in the drive way or how much we earn or the holidays we go on as our only reward, but these do not fulfill the woman, not really.

And maybe you are as surprised as I was that the older I got the more serious I got, the more need I had to be a good mother provider and business woman. Unlike my dreams and the adverts I saw of adulthood as romantic, fun loving and having such freedom – I was, in fact, I’ll prepared for adult life. It was dull, hard work and I was not coping as well as I made out, as I gained weight and moved in and out of a depressive melancholy state. Then one day I realized it was not fun at all.

That was the day I made a decision – I cat do this any more.

I was woken up at 5 am with a loud LOUD voice in my head? “Do you want to be doing this in 5 years?”

OMG NO! I replied in my head.

Then came the loud voice again “Do you want to be doing this in 2 years?”

OMG absolutely NO!

Then for a third time “Do you want to be doing this in 1 year?“

MOST Certainly NOT!

I lay there dumbfounded the voice now gone, but ignited a part of me that had lain dormant. Where’s the FUN?

Now what I asked myself?

And so led onto a journey of adventure, discovery, growing up into a new kind of woman and into becoming a radiant being, seeing what life has to offer. I saw clearly soon enough what I had actually created for myself so far, and it was not pleasant but it wad ALL resolvable. (we are going to talk about this, and just how we do that in the MASTER Energy Training I have planned out for you on the 4, 5 and 6 November) here Be Radiant First 3 day Master Energy Training and how to use the power of radiance to align your mind with your body and watch your body become a body you love in as little as 2 weeks.

We are going to set you off on a brand new relationship with your body and trajectory of a practice and a new discipline and not accepting POT luck any longer.

I lost years having a miserable mediocre life, working SO hard and I have been doing this practice for some 10 years in various degrees and over the last 5 years I have amplified this as a discipline and now I need to share this part of how to attract the body you feel radiant in and love and how to create the very existence you want.

You don’t want the next 40 or 50 years to be the same struggle do you?

So, How can you find the joy again in life as you become an adult?

The full passage into radiance is described in full here.

Take some time to read through and let that soak into your bones and feel what that experience would mean for you.

When you sign up to receive the 3 Day Master Training into Radiance You will receive a full meditation that opens you up to receive your radiant being.

“I never loved myself enough to do this before, not I am so glad I did!” E. Lipman. Canada

“I have never been so aware of my body and what she most needs, wants and is lacking the most. I am so grateful to Fiona for shaping me into the woman I am today” Sally. Edinburgh.

What to do if you feel disgusted, hate your reflection and you don’t’ want to be seen out?

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You need to change your perspective and your energy, not the number you see on the scales?

Cassandra is extremely smart and you would say a sassy woman, who works for her self and has a business that has turned over a million in the last 2 years, that she has grown from the ground up. She has 2 children and is twice the woman she was when she met her husband. She has sadly gained twice her bodily weight in the last 5 years.

“I am embarrassed to get undressed in the same room, even although my husband has never ever negatively commented on my body, I just don’t believe he still could fancy me, because I certainly don’t.” she told me

Trapped in a body held together by criticism and beating herself up constantly, she is unable to stick to diets or make any headway at all, to meet her dream of being in a slimmer body. Cassandra is trapped in a body she hates and does not feel radiant, sexy or beautiful.

She has nice clothes and even beautiful designer dresses, bags, and shoes yet she feels embarrassed at the way she looks when she goes out, and so she remains quiet and holds herself back from speaking her valid and well thought out opinions to others in fear of criticism or judgment of how she looks. Yet no one judges her as harshly as she judges herself. She does not feel she is a true representation of how smart she is on the inside and cannot get over the feeling of how awful she feels to be seen out in her body.

Cassandra is a mother and business-woman and wife and has many other roles and somewhere she has lost her true identity behind the mother, wife and daughter titles she has. She is in the last place on the long list she has to do.

I wondered as I do with all lost women, what Cassandra would move, dress and talk and feel like as a sensual woman who was able to feel radiant and alive? Feeling this way for the first time in years puts her (and any woman) beyond her physical self and opens her up to her lost spirit. (The young girl with not a care in the world, so vibrant, radiant and alive with not a block or trauma to her name) In this realm, we recapture your true self and bring her forward to meet and be with you once again. You can embody and become that person and be radiant again and be everything you came here to be.

Be Radiant First sets all women free to become who they always dreamed and fantasized of being in a relationship, in her passions and as her truly vibrant self without ever holding herself back.

Never presume that you will feel radiant by restricting food and forcing exercise on your body and soul. When you force yourself to eat less and move more you will be sadly disappointed time and time again.

Dieting as it comes from deprivation is the hope that you will feel better when you are slimmer. But if you have not discovered how to feel good about yourself FIRST you will slip and slide back into carrying the heavy burdens that surround again.

Cassandra like many of us has been on diets for 25 years and keeps losing and gaining the same weight over and over again and returning to the self-hate and wanting to hide out of sheer embarrassment.

So here is Cassandra changing how she views herself, changing her mindset, becoming aware of who she is again and liking what she feels in these exquisite moments, allowing herself to feel attractive and giving herself permission to this time enjoy her husbands gaze and touch, and as such has changed her self on a cellular and molecular structure forever. This will be the last time she ever worries about her body in front of the mirror or in front of her husband.

Her weight taught her it was just a number but it was precisely equivalent to what she was carrying around, the heavy thoughts, criticisms and self-disgust. Now her ability to lighten up and fully radiate her joy has left her feeling lighter on the inside and it shows on the outside. Her weight was the bonus to her feeling radiant.

Today Cassandra is a woman who has halved her size despite eating extremely well and thoroughly enjoying her food. She has also taken her business to another level and been interviewed and done talks in public about her products, that she would never have done before lightening up. She is more relaxed with her children and open to the activities they would enjoy rather than staying home, and she has a full loving relationship with her husband which has blossomed to a sacred place that she could never have ever imagined. All because she is a woman who chose to be in her radiance.

Cassandra has a parting phrase, for all women struggling today.

“I never knew what I was missing or just settling for until I was shown and felt how life could be 180° different from what I was experiencing.

 I would never have forgiven myself if I had not made the decision to be a better woman living my life to the max as I wanted to live it, and chased my dreams and fantasies.”

I have a question for you:

Why is it important to you to feel this radiance, what will you be able to do that you can’t do now?

There are certain steps to follow that are going to make this happen and become a lasting experience for you and attract the success, attract the clients and romantic relationships you fantasize about, however, this is not going to happen overnight.

I invite you to take the first step and trail out what radiance is for you. wear it over a few days and see the transformations happen inside and outside.

. When was the last time you felt Radiant and what does Radiance feel like for you? Be honest and get detailed about what you wore, how you walked, talked and moved when you were in that energy.

This is enough to start making small changes for you on a molecular and cellular level.

I hope this was helpful in seeing what a difference a day a moment can make to you.

Fiona

How to Dissolve Away Sugar Cravings

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How to Dissolve away those SUGAR Cravings………….

You have a sweet tooth and find your self scoffing the sugary stuff even although you promised yourself it was ’over’ a ‘done thing’.

You know its not the best to keep you in shape or to keep you in a good mental or emotional state but you just can’t help yourself It’s done before you can realize what’s happened.

Stolen moments in private with only the candy wrappers, crisps bags and a bag full of crumbs,

Your Sugar Craving has ONE UP ON YOU and for sure the better of you.

Why?

Why cant’ you stop?

Why can’t you keep this one promise to yourself so that you can drop the dress sizes?

In all of my years giving up so many foods in a QUEST to gain control over my eating this was a hard one to crack.

When I did I saw how my soul was intervening and wanted me to notice the path I had chosen and how it felt to be trapped in a body that felt so ….. or maybe I don’t need to explain How it feels in your body right now……..

The Bad thing when you ignore the deeper reasons behind the sugar cravings you miss the point entirely; Its not that you have to STOP all sweetness in your life. The soul intervention is that you want to have MORE sweetness enter into your life.

The other Bad thing when you ignore the sugar cravings and the hidden message, is that you don’t see that you are starving your self of a vital missing nutrient with which life has now become pointless. Work Rest and Play are all needed in equal measure. But you have missed that bit out

Sally was a lady, who like myself was there full on at work, actually work was here savior from bad relationships and bad choices. She could disappear from her thoughts about the pain of the conflict the boredom and the total disappointment that romance was not as she imagined it would be when she had been a little girl.

After a huge battle at home and a job that now was demanding so much of her – she took herself off for a week to rediscover who she was, which meant she finally got to see what was going on and another perspective. All work and no play make sally a bore and a dull lass. Which meant that every evening she’d got into a pattern of stealing sweets, chocolate, anything because she knew she deserved more.

When I asked her what do you do for Fun Sally? She stumbled and went quiet with a tear in her eye. “Oh this is embarrassing. I cant remember the last time.”

No one else can make you have fun, if your hell bent on proving yourself with success from a work perspective. But you see the sugar cravings have a fine and purposeful thread from your soul, who is trying to get your attention. She cannot speak to you directly, send a letter or a note – but she can and always will have more strength than you when she wants to send you a message.

The Good thing when you see the reasons for the craving is that you have a choice and can start to out in that you most want, need and lack. Then I assure you the sugar craving dissolves

The other good thing is that when you head the messages from your body and soul that came with the craving, You don’t need the sugar and naturally the dress sizes can drop without any effort.

Try it. Are you curious to take this further?

Until I understood that message I was under the misconception that I had to literally starve myself of anything I enjoyed food wise. WRONG! SO So So Wrong……..

Understand the experience the message in the Sugar Craving for what it is and voila the craving dissolves on the spot.

SUGAR FREE EATING 7 DAYS – set your self up to WIN
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Join me on a Sugar FREE Eating week and get the juicy stuff 
You’ll get…..
1. List of foods to avoid and what foods are going to assist the change over
2. Reset your digestion in 3 Days to stop the cravings, bacteria and energy working perfectly
3. The sugars released naturally in the body and how to reverse that in 3 steps
4. The deeper meanings behind the sugar cravings
5. How to reduce the chemical culprits
6. How to tune into your Intuitive eater rather than follow a diet
7. How to talk to your Body so that she hears you and responds.

The most in depth journey to turn around your self sabotage patterns in 7 days.

 I’m human and I’ve been there too, I’ve been in a body that felt like she was misbehaving as it did not respond to anything I was doing, and until I put a lot of these pieces together I was flummoxed, frustrated In fear I was going to stay like this for the rest of my life – 
 I could not wear the dresses I wanted, 
 I could not eat the food that I wanted –
 I certainly could not run along the beach like Bo Derrick with out the wobble, and you know there was no SEX with the light on.

 I was attracting bad relationships and never really felt like I could fit in. and it was just a battle all the time a battle with food and a battle with myself.

 I had a lot of unresolved emotional problems that were going on in the back ground and some of these were showing up for me then physically, stuff I was not able to cope with, and I was not adjusted well enough to deal with it as a young adult So It laid heavy on me and I wore it so to speak..

 I wanted to sort out the physical aspects which led me down a certain path to diets, then extreme diets and detox and cleansing and fasting. And each person I asked for help from I just knew they were missing the point and NOT going deep enough. There was a depth they were just not getting to, I enjoyed working with them I enjoyed it I had fun but it really wasn’t what I was there for. 

 I surprisingly learnt very little – only learnt about the food or the starvation aspect 
 Looking back it was another layer of distraction of really not going far enough. The depth I wanted to go to get to really understand me and clear all these habits patterns and blocks and unresolved emotional issues that were going on. I went on a quest to learn about my emotions and got sensitive to know what I was feeling and could name what I was feeling but it didn’t clear it or get further than the mental knowing and naming.

 I started to learn how to go inside instead and learn what the self sabotaging patterns I had going on and why I was constantly needing to NUMB myself. I knew that I wanted to get to the root cause and underlying reasons and really clear that out. and I knew and recognized there was a feeling on the inside of That’s not it… There is something missing here. I knew that in the back of my mind if I’m honest, My body showed me, I was overwhelmed and were just not getting there; Its just not IT. So this is why I cover these elements what’s really going on and why she cant drop the weight.

When you take a whole picture of you and put these pieces together you are in for a great ride. 

 

Fiona

Body as your ‘Body Guard’

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Your Body as your Body Guard

As soon as you wake up your brain looks around and becomes vigilant and has you in high alert. There is a part of the brain that looks for clues and dangers and how to navigate through your day. Your reptile brain looks in every corner to see what is a-safe and what is not and tells you.

You’re not even aware of this because its on automatic and you have always done it.

Your body constantly collects and pick up data all day long, and at night too for that matter.

Your body takes readings and even acts on the emotional state of others around you too, not just your own environment, thoughts and concerns.

All of this means that you are feeling al day long, although subconsciously your environment is alive with vibrations you receive and you will always have a chemical reaction to this level of High Alert and vigilant feeling, that goes onto further affect your internal organs, bacteria, cells and energy levels.

Your body is trying to get your attention with all this data. Can you feel the tension build in your stomach, in your neck and shoulders as the day wears on. The data keeps on coming in, it is relentless, all filtered via your marvelous reptile brain warning you of a potential plot against you, maybe something to mistrust or fear, your brain is there only to warn of danger and it is for you to make a conscious decision if it is worth acting upon. That’s it. Yet we don’t take the time.

Ignore these first signals and be sure that your mind will pick up the pace until it is influencing your body with signals of worry, until you really have to take notice of what these sign are telling you as you will have accidents, health issues become overwhelmed and eventually ask yourself what on earth is going on here?.

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The BAD thing about the brain and body being your body guard

  1. She is always on duty as your body guard, giving you data to analyze and trying the best ways she can to get your undivided attention.
  2. You over think situations, analyze endlessly the hell out of them, not knowing why you feel so overwhelmed, with so many decisions to make and what’s right.
  3. You are becoming exhausted being ‘ON’ all the time and have no idea how to switch OFF this High Alert status. Too many ideas, plans, deadline, people to please, friend or foe, good or bad. When will it all end?

The GOOD thing about the brain and body being your body guard

  1. You get to choose what to be vigilant about and when you can chill out and turn it OFF
  2. You can relax knowing you have the best support at hand and on your side, just learn how to ask the right and best questions to your high alert self and when you can literally turn off.
  3. You can turn OFF the constant High Alert and the flight and flight mode and use that leakage of energy else where, leaving you much more awake, vital and ready to have fun. You can see clearly when it’s not yours to worry about and then – no ones opinion, judgments, bad behavior affect you or has your body on GUARD any more.

You become gently strong and so resilient and ask the right question to your own personal ‘body guard’

So many ladies have the misconception that to be in control is to be super busy and in control of everything, juggling work, home, family members, food, chores etc.

When I see the control that is needed towards food for someone, I know exactly where the issue lies in their battle for the control over their life too.

 

The very efficient vigilant Reptile part of the brain is on High Alert and if so, she needs a whole LOT of constant ENERGY to fuel all that pressure, those amount of thoughts and the need to fire fight situations, and so the body has to crave more and more fuel to restore the energy and the fuel lost in the days emergencies, and also creates a need to store extra energy as fuel on the body, something like a reserve tank to use should the re be a big emergency.

Because lets face it Every Day you wake up and it all starts over again, the status of High Alert and being ON Duty 24/7 hours of the day.

Until I discovered how to turn off my Reptile brain and get in control of the situations at hand I was exhausted and regularly craved certain foods to fuel me. I gained weight and had health issues of many sorts to resolve. My Body Guard saw to it that I held a store for that just in case event

Now thankfully I am economic with my energy use and only fight the fires that need my full attention and not everyone else’s as well… now that I feel is far more efficient.

If you want to be and look like you have it all under control and not store energy for another day’s emergencies and you’d like to be seen as a switched on woman who is well in charge of her work, her life and her body now reflects that, then to be on top of your game you need to know and do 3 NEW things

  1. You need to be able to feel SAFE
  2. You need to be running on a fuel that lasts a very long time and gives you lots of energy
  3. You need to know how to turn OFF the high alert and vigilance state in an instant.

This will turn your body around 180°

Take the quiz called ‘Drop a Dress Size’ and see where your reptile brain and her level of High Alert are at by taking this quiz we can see together what strange things and responses she has going on, making it easy to identify and resolve the main culprits.

I hope this has been helpful. I will see you on the other side.

Here is the quiz called Drop A Dress Size.

It has been my pleasure to share this leading edge information of how the body really works.

 

If you have questions or a concern please do not hesitate to ask me.

Fiona Robertson

Body Whisperer

Be at Peace with Food, Your Body, and Eating

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What’s Next?

Are you Struggling? Looking for help, but feeling alone in your battles and are there scary parts you just don’t want to look at or face without a true friend around?

It’ so much easier to face your demons when you see them whilst you are holding the hand of your best friend. Don’t you agree?

You feel SAFER to look and SAFER to challenge your own perceptions.

Elianne told me “ I’m broken, I can’t hold myself together I feel out of control”

That was 1 month ago and when I brought her here for a deep dive retreat in SW France, I had to point out that she was far from broken in my eyes.

So what happened?

She replied, “Well I was broken, but then I started to listen to you and followed your advise and took care of myself in the very different ways, like you suggested and I climbed out of my hole.”

During her stay with me we went on a deep dive journey and in which she met her best friend – her soul-self, and she embarrassed her fully and after a day on a walk in the mountains she was told what she could call her new friend, she had found the name of her new best friend. Who has always been there for her and will have her back and hold her hand through thick and thin but now she can hear and see her.

This is such a wonderful experience to witness, I saw her face soften and look 10 years younger, far less contorted and obviously struggling with life, situations and her perceptions.  She sees the reasons things happen and let go of the need to control everything.

The good thing about meeting and getting to know your inner self – soul – best friend is that you have someone who had your back no latter what she is and will always be there for you. You are SAFE to let go and hand it over.

The bad thing about not meeting or knowing your soul is that you feel so alone struggling with everything, feeling fearful, doubt and cant see straight.

Not a great place to be which takes its toll on the physical body,

We all need a true and trusted loyal friend.

When you are ready to meet up with your SOUL and best friend start now by noticing what she is showing you , this will come out and be in your desires, dreams, what people have you met and liked or disliked, what situations are taking up all of your thoughts and attention right now?

Become aware of everything that happens as it has a reason. What is she (your soal and best friend ) showing you?

When are you craving foods and when do starve yourself and you reject all food and nourishment and try to ignore the painful situations and battles you are currently involved in?

Your soul talks to you via your feelings and experiences, deep desires.

Are you ready to play? With your soul and make life easier and more fun with her gently by your side?

I hope this has been helpful to know that you have your best friend at hand and available to guide you. It is my job to help you to see your soul is calling you through the weight problems, and physical symptoms and get you to listen to her calling, her voice and invite her in.

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Are you struggling to Overcome Overeating or Starvation? – here’s what to do

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STOP right there, Stop Scrolling!!!! Are you struggling with overeating and or starvation?

You have found your self here for a reason.

You are SAFE and in the right place.

Are you struggling with either of these two traits?

Are you Overeating? Finding it hard to STOP diving for your craving day after day and maybe finding your self secretly eating behind doors or when you are alone in the car or after everyone else is out of the home or office during the day or gone to bed. Then that craving starts for sugar, carbohydrates and salty snacks and won’t go away.

OR

Are you starving? Have you stopped eating altogether and gone off all food and any kind of nourishment.

There is a deeper meaning to all of this and your patterns of how you find your self eating or not. This can all be explained and resolved.

You are SAFE here to explore, it’s time to reach those deeper reasons.

The good thing is that you have been honest with yourself and recognized the pattern, and you see what is happening and that is such a good thing when you see the patterns and the cravings when they happen – now you can start resolving it.

The bad thing is that if you don’t see the patterns or do anything with this … it will only get worse and continue to follow you around and they will get louder and louder, damaging your overall mental, emotional and physical health. That’s not only your weight, But Weight is also usually the first calling sign that there is something wrong at a deeper level and that you are being asked by your soul and at a subconscious level to something greater that needs to be released and to be let go of.

Every craving has a deeper meaning, every pattern with food has a deeper understanding for you.

Get to the root cause and neutralize it. Go into the contract you have with your body and soul an you’ll see it released and be free from food obsessions I promise.

When you are ready to resolve these patterns and resistance to being really well and feeling alive in your body. Start here; Make a note what and when you crave foods; Be thoroughly honest be willing to look and then look past the surface level and you will see what your body and soul are needing you to be aware of that does not feel goo in your body and know that its time to release that once and for all.

I hope this has been helpful to see that food and starvation are calling you to deep dive.

It took me years to understand my patterns for both binging and starvation. But once I discovered what my reasons were and went on to clear it, my cravings stopped and I enjoyed creating the body I now love to be in.

That is when I gained ‘Peace with Food’.

I wish you peace with food for the rest of your days.

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What feels best to you?