You need to change your perspective and your energy, not the number you see on the scales?
Cassandra is extremely smart and you would say a sassy woman, who works for her self and has a business that has turned over a million in the last 2 years, that she has grown from the ground up. She has 2 children and is twice the woman she was when she met her husband. She has sadly gained twice her bodily weight in the last 5 years.
“I am embarrassed to get undressed in the same room, even although my husband has never ever negatively commented on my body, I just don’t believe he still could fancy me, because I certainly don’t.” she told me
Trapped in a body held together by criticism and beating herself up constantly, she is unable to stick to diets or make any headway at all, to meet her dream of being in a slimmer body. Cassandra is trapped in a body she hates and does not feel radiant, sexy or beautiful.
She has nice clothes and even beautiful designer dresses, bags, and shoes yet she feels embarrassed at the way she looks when she goes out, and so she remains quiet and holds herself back from speaking her valid and well thought out opinions to others in fear of criticism or judgment of how she looks. Yet no one judges her as harshly as she judges herself. She does not feel she is a true representation of how smart she is on the inside and cannot get over the feeling of how awful she feels to be seen out in her body.
Cassandra is a mother and business-woman and wife and has many other roles and somewhere she has lost her true identity behind the mother, wife and daughter titles she has. She is in the last place on the long list she has to do.
I wondered as I do with all lost women, what Cassandra would move, dress and talk and feel like as a sensual woman who was able to feel radiant and alive? Feeling this way for the first time in years puts her (and any woman) beyond her physical self and opens her up to her lost spirit. (The young girl with not a care in the world, so vibrant, radiant and alive with not a block or trauma to her name) In this realm, we recapture your true self and bring her forward to meet and be with you once again. You can embody and become that person and be radiant again and be everything you came here to be.
Be Radiant First sets all women free to become who they always dreamed and fantasized of being in a relationship, in her passions and as her truly vibrant self without ever holding herself back.
Never presume that you will feel radiant by restricting food and forcing exercise on your body and soul. When you force yourself to eat less and move more you will be sadly disappointed time and time again.
Dieting as it comes from deprivation is the hope that you will feel better when you are slimmer. But if you have not discovered how to feel good about yourself FIRST you will slip and slide back into carrying the heavy burdens that surround again.
Cassandra like many of us has been on diets for 25 years and keeps losing and gaining the same weight over and over again and returning to the self-hate and wanting to hide out of sheer embarrassment.
So here is Cassandra changing how she views herself, changing her mindset, becoming aware of who she is again and liking what she feels in these exquisite moments, allowing herself to feel attractive and giving herself permission to this time enjoy her husbands gaze and touch, and as such has changed her self on a cellular and molecular structure forever. This will be the last time she ever worries about her body in front of the mirror or in front of her husband.
Her weight taught her it was just a number but it was precisely equivalent to what she was carrying around, the heavy thoughts, criticisms and self-disgust. Now her ability to lighten up and fully radiate her joy has left her feeling lighter on the inside and it shows on the outside. Her weight was the bonus to her feeling radiant.
Today Cassandra is a woman who has halved her size despite eating extremely well and thoroughly enjoying her food. She has also taken her business to another level and been interviewed and done talks in public about her products, that she would never have done before lightening up. She is more relaxed with her children and open to the activities they would enjoy rather than staying home, and she has a full loving relationship with her husband which has blossomed to a sacred place that she could never have ever imagined. All because she is a woman who chose to be in her radiance.
Cassandra has a parting phrase, for all women struggling today.
“I never knew what I was missing or just settling for until I was shown and felt how life could be 180° different from what I was experiencing.
I would never have forgiven myself if I had not made the decision to be a better woman living my life to the max as I wanted to live it, and chased my dreams and fantasies.”
I have a question for you:
Why is it important to you to feel this radiance, what will you be able to do that you can’t do now?
There are certain steps to follow that are going to make this happen and become a lasting experience for you and attract the success, attract the clients and romantic relationships you fantasize about, however, this is not going to happen overnight.
I invite you to take the first step and trail out what radiance is for you. wear it over a few days and see the transformations happen inside and outside.
. When was the last time you felt Radiant and what does Radiance feel like for you? Be honest and get detailed about what you wore, how you walked, talked and moved when you were in that energy.
This is enough to start making small changes for you on a molecular and cellular level.
I hope this was helpful in seeing what a difference a day a moment can make to you.
Fiona
